Why do masculine guys get mad when feminine ones won't date them?

  • Pontifex

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    Sep 21, 2012 7:06 PM GMT
    I've actually had guys who weren't interested in me because they thought I was too masculine. Althoughthis was intended as a joke it really has happened to me. Aside from my appearance I'm not even that masculine ....

    I actually have an easier time relating to the guys who are less masculine because we are more likely to have something in common. I keep hearing people say that guys who are their type are physically similar to them but in general that isn't the case with me.

    I was talking to a twink a couple weeks ago who was interested in me and his twink friend actually told him not to feed the bears. OMG I'm not a bear. Lol.

    Anyway,I have no idea where I'm going right now. I just found it funny that the opposite of what people were complaining about in the other thread actually happens a well. Although I have never seen a profile that says no mascs.
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    Sep 21, 2012 7:10 PM GMT
    you're totally a bear
    not a fat one
    but still a bear
  • Pontifex

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    Sep 21, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    Omg. Did you just call me a bear....pffft. Talk to the hand.
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    Sep 21, 2012 7:23 PM GMT
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  • Pontifex

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    Sep 21, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    McQueen saidicon_talk2hand.gif


    That needs to be a standard smiley
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    Sep 21, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    Pontifex said Why do masculine guys get mad when feminine ones won't date them?
    Because real men are supposed to get mad over petty shit.
  • Pontifex

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    Sep 21, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
    Some of the biggest guys can Bitch the loudest.
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    Sep 21, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Pontifex said Why do masculine guys get mad when feminine ones won't date them?
    Because real men are supposed to get mad over petty shit.

    *snorts* lol
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    i thought masculine guys did not like femme guy lol
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 22, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    so if you are not masculine than you should not have a problem finding a fem guy to date
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    If not a bear, then a cub :3

  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Sep 22, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    I was gonna say "otter" but was busy laughing out loud at paulflexes answer. well, played sir..
  • Pontifex

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    Sep 22, 2012 7:59 AM GMT
    lol. I don't necessarily fit into a type ;)
    I kind of enjoy it. The twinks call me a bear, the bears call me an otter, others call me a wolf, others tell me wolves do not exist. I'm kind of like Gonzo from the muppets. I'm a whatever.

    My thoughts on calling myself a bear are mainly influenced by the fat guys running around calling themselves bears... I'm not fat. I'm just big boned.

    And this thread kind of loses its effect after being moved into this forum from the one with the thread about fem guys getting mad because masculine guys won't date them.
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/34229
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    Sep 22, 2012 8:03 AM GMT
    Pontifex saidI've actually had guys who weren't interested in me because they thought I was too masculine. Althoughthis was intended as a joke it really has happened to me. Aside from my appearance I'm not even that masculine ....

    I actually have an easier time relating to the guys who are less masculine because we are more likely to have something in common. I keep hearing people say that guys who are their type are physically similar to them but in general that isn't the case with me.

    I was talking to a twink a couple weeks ago who was interested in me and his twink friend actually told him not to feed the bears. OMG I'm not a bear. Lol.

    Anyway,I have no idea where I'm going right now. I just found it funny that the opposite of what people were complaining about in the other thread actually happens a well. Although I have never seen a profile that says no mascs.



    Dude, I've got the opposite effect... I only date masc looking and acting, but they won't date me because I'm a bit Feminent.
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    Sep 22, 2012 8:26 AM GMT
    Why would a masculine guy even want to date an effeminate or feminine guy?
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    Sep 22, 2012 8:32 AM GMT
    Chalk and cheese ?
  • Pontifex

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    Sep 22, 2012 8:45 AM GMT
    Smegmatron saidWhy would a masculine guy even want to date an effeminate or feminine guy?


    Probably because most of them aren't obsessed with forcing their manliness like a lot of guys I have met. I'm not necessarily into ultra feminine guys although I would consider them I still like guys and they have to be guys. You'd probably be surprised if you took the time to meet some guys who aren't your type. Someone completely different can have great ways of handing different situations and be into circles you don't even know exist. I'd find dating someone who thinks, acts, and looks like me a little boring. As long as there are some similar interests things can work surprisingly well
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    Sep 22, 2012 9:11 AM GMT
    Pontifex said
    Smegmatron saidWhy would a masculine guy even want to date an effeminate or feminine guy?


    Probably because most of them aren't obsessed with forcing their manliness like a lot of guys I have met. I'm not necessarily into ultra feminine guys although I would consider them I still like guys and they have to be guys. You'd probably be surprised if you took the time to meet some guys who aren't your type. Someone completely different can have great ways of handing different situations and be into circles you don't even know exist. I'd find dating someone who thinks, acts, and looks like me a little boring. As long as there are some similar interests things can work surprisingly well


    Not sure what exactly you define as being feminine or effeminate, but I know that overly effeminate/feminine guys really turn me off. Probably has more to do with my own insecurities than anything else, but the fem guys really make me cringe sometimes....
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    Sep 22, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    Smegmatron said
    Pontifex said
    Smegmatron saidWhy would a masculine guy even want to date an effeminate or feminine guy?


    Probably because most of them aren't obsessed with forcing their manliness like a lot of guys I have met. I'm not necessarily into ultra feminine guys although I would consider them I still like guys and they have to be guys. You'd probably be surprised if you took the time to meet some guys who aren't your type. Someone completely different can have great ways of handing different situations and be into circles you don't even know exist. I'd find dating someone who thinks, acts, and looks like me a little boring. As long as there are some similar interests things can work surprisingly well


    Not sure what exactly you define as being feminine or effeminate, but I know that overly effeminate/feminine guys really turn me off. Probably has more to do with my own insecurities than anything else, but the fem guys really make me cringe sometimes....


    Same here, but i think its just personal preference. Nothing turns me off as quickly as a guy acting like a "girl". Im not saying they shouldn't as i believe everyone should be who they want to be, but for me, personally, its a turn off. They do make great friends though icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 10:07 AM GMT
    How are we defining masculine and feminine here? And what other traits outside of your perception of masc/fem could have contributed to their reaction when you refused to date them?
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    Sep 22, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    Myol saidHow are we defining masculine and feminine here? And what other traits outside of your perception of masc/fem could have contributed to their reaction when you refused to date them?


    ^-- What he said. +D
  • Pontifex

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    Sep 22, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    by feminine I mean a guy who might have a couple or more non masculine characteristics. There are certain things that will turn me off if someone is fake or they go overboard. But if someone has a higher voice or isn't hairy or muscular or interested in sitting around watching football all day or walking around with a certain attitude it doesn't phase me.

    I guess I'm pretty open and tend to give a lot of people a chance. heh.
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    Sep 22, 2012 7:00 PM GMT
    Who would turn you down?
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    Sep 22, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    never seen a masculine guy with a feminine guy unless its in porn haha
  • mindblank

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    Sep 22, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    What is your actual point and/or question, OP?