Gay marriage: Who proposes to whom?

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    Sep 22, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    So I always have a sort of bittersweet emotional reaction when I see a proposal (be it in person or even just well captured via photos or video) - I imagine how happy I would be to find myself in that position, but also think of how sad it is that it still isn't legal at least in CA.

    Then I realized that I always imagine myself being the one proposing... but what if I'm proposed to?

    Do most of you imagine proposing, being proposed to, or not really think about whether you'll be kneeling or standing - or do you think gay propositions will be or ought to be different?
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    I would want to be the one who proposed if I ever find a man, if I ever want to get married and if it becomes legal. Too many if's in that sentence. icon_neutral.gif

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    Sep 22, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    clearly the bottom to the top. If both are versitle, then they usually elope
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidclearly the bottom to the top. If both are versitle, then they usually elope


    This cracked me up! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidclearly the bottom to the top. If both are versitle, then they usually elope


    LOL
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    The day Texas legalizes gay marriage is the day that Rick Perry isn't governor anymore. It may never happen icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    This made me go "aww" LOL! Your man is one lucky guy. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
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    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    The day Texas legalizes gay marriage is the day that Rick Perry isn't governor anymore. It may never happen icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    In my lifetime.. it WILL happen. Homie, you just hide and watch. It's all just a matter of time.


    It will only happen if Washington D.C makes it happen.
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    msuNtx said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    msuNtx said
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    The day Texas legalizes gay marriage is the day that Rick Perry isn't governor anymore. It may never happen icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    In my lifetime.. it WILL happen. Homie, you just hide and watch. It's all just a matter of time.


    It will only happen if Washington D.C makes it happen.

    And Let's Hope the right people come to their senses sooner rather than later and give ALL people their equal right we deserve as fellow humans...icon_cool.gif


    If and when I move to Dallas we can be buddies. Your husband and you can show me the way icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
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    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    This made me go "aww" LOL! Your man is one lucky guy. icon_smile.gif

    Thank you,,, as I. No question, I'm an old romantic and plan to live my life as if I'm married, but one day hope to tie the knot legally!


    Honestly I see it being legal with in the next 10 years if not sooner. I just cannot see how they can continue in this day and age to stop it any longer from happening.
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    If I were to marry, I guess being proposed to would be nice, or proposing to someone would be nice too-if I ever thought it would happen.

    HOWEVER...either way it would have to be an intimate occurrence. None of this proposing in public stuff!!!! icon_evil.gif
  • Drift

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    Sep 22, 2012 12:39 AM GMT

    I get butterflies just imagining someone asking me that haha. So if that's the case, I would also love to give that feeling to someone else. icon_smile.gif whoever is sneaker about planning it, I guess. Ninja proposals!
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    Sep 22, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    I actually now am upon thinking about it am split 50/50 over who I would want to do the proposing.

    One one hand I would love to surprise someone with a proposal but on the other hand it might be sweet to hear it from the guy on the other end. I mean I would love it if someone who I loved and that person loved me one day out of the blue proposed and told me all the reasons he would want to spend the rest of his life with me and I with him.

    I think either way it would be a pretty spectacular moment for me. As long as it happened and we both said yes I guess I would be fine with it either way.

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    Sep 22, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    msuNtx said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
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    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    The day Texas legalizes gay marriage is the day that Rick Perry isn't governor anymore. It may never happen icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    In my lifetime.. it WILL happen. Homie, you just hide and watch. It's all just a matter of time.


    It will only happen if Washington D.C makes it happen.

    And Let's Hope the right people come to their senses sooner rather than later and give ALL people the equal rights we deserve as fellow humans...icon_cool.gif


    Why not get married in a state where its legal?
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    Sep 22, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    mzkyte saidDo most of you imagine proposing, being proposed to, or not really think about whether you'll be kneeling or standing - or do you think gay propositions will be or ought to be different?

    It should be the man who first thinks to propose to the other. And in any manner that suits him, and as he thinks his intended would respect & treasure.

    I've been proposed to twice, but have never made a proposal. The first was during dinner at my boyfriend's, with whom I had an LDR. He left the table for a moment, then rushed back, fell to his knee in front of me a bit tongue-tied, and asked me to marry him as he presented me with a ring. I immediately accepted.

    Of course being Texas we couldn't legally marry, but from that moment until he died a few years later we considered each other husbands, and bound by the same vows as an actual marriage.

    Then 5 years ago I was dating another guy, and one day he proposed, too. Only this time it was kinda casual, no ring, brought up almost in passing. No matter, he was so cute & stumbling about it, I think most men tend to get stage fright at that moment, and I accepted him, too.

    I don't think gay men need to follow conventional rules or customs regarding proposals. Do what feels right for the 2 of you.
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    Sep 22, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    Art_DecoIt should be the man who first thinks to propose to the other. And in any manner that suits him, and as he thinks his intended would respect & treasure.


    I like this.
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    Sep 22, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    mzkyte saidDo most of you imagine proposing, being proposed to, or not really think about whether you'll be kneeling or standing - or do you think gay propositions will be or ought to be different?

    It should be the man who first thinks to propose to the other. And in any manner that suits him, and as he thinks his intended would respect & treasure.

    I've been proposed to twice, but have never made a proposal. The first was during dinner at my boyfriend's, with whom I had an LDR. He left the table for a moment, then rushed back, fell to his knee in front of me a bit tongue-tied, and asked me to marry him as he presented me with a ring. I immediately accepted.

    Of course being Texas we couldn't legally marry, but from that moment until he died a few years later we considered each other husbands, and bound by the same vows as an actual marriage.

    Then 5 years ago I was dating another guy, and one day he proposed, too. Only this time it was kinda casual, no ring, brought up almost in passing. No matter, he was so cute & stumbling about it, I think most men tend to get stage fright at that moment, and I accepted him, too.

    I don't think gay men need to follow conventional rules or customs regarding proposals. Do what feels right for the 2 of you.


    That's... so sad... icon_cry.gif *Gives Deco a huge big hug*

    I know I'll likely propose to my partner. I'll be even cheesy about it and get on one knee to do it, hehe. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    msuNtx said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
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    TheGuyNextDoor saidNo question, the day they announce we can marry in my home state, I'll be the one to get down on one knee, open the box and ask my current man to marry me.


    The day Texas legalizes gay marriage is the day that Rick Perry isn't governor anymore. It may never happen icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    In my lifetime.. it WILL happen. Homie, you just hide and watch. It's all just a matter of time.


    It will only happen if Washington D.C makes it happen.


    I don't see it happening in any of our lifetimes. We're dealing with a long history in America where this is all foreign territory.
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    Sep 22, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    Top, to bottom. lol
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    Sep 22, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    Gym_bull saidTop, to bottom. lol


    My thoughts exactly. I'm expecting a ring eventually. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 22, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    For some reason I always pictured myself being the one proposed to, and I'm the bottom.In fact, I WAS the one proposed to in my last relationship.Though TBH, in the back of my mind I knew we were not ready.....icon_neutral.gif And yes, in the future, I imagine myself the one being proposed to again. I guess thats how I see others should to it also, top to bottom. Not that it's written in stone. Being gay we are allowed more freedom to rewrite traditional rules.


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    Sep 22, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    Whoever first takes the initiative of proposing.

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    Sep 22, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    Im forever who just wants to do it. But if I am proposed to, I will not accept a ring...Ill do a diamond watch and get my guy the same.
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    Sep 22, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    I'd like to be the one who proposes, just because I want it to be yet another thing I do for my man that will make him feel special.

    It'd also represent a lot of progress for me, overcoming a lot of the troubles and obstacles I've had being gay. I wouldn't feel that if I was proposed to, I don't think. I suppose it's a bit selfish, but I don't ask for much.

    But first, I've got to find myself a boyfriend. Haha!
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    Sep 22, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    I don't think it really matters who does the asking. I kind of see myself be the one proposed to because I'm not so good at the romantical word type things. But if I'm in that place and I'm ready, then I'll pluck up the courage to propose to him.