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A friend of mine has a history of money problems.

I have loaned -- errr, "given" -- him probably $3K-$4K to cover last minute issues. (I'm not expecting it back.)

For the past couple of months I had thought he was on the road to recovery, but alas yesterday I get an email asking for $1,000 to cover his car payment and some utilities.

I know I'm lucky I'm able to just write a check, but I'm doing him no favors.

I want to find out when these things are due, and if there is a reasonable length of time, I would consider offering to match dollar-per-dollar what he's able to scrounge up over the next week or so by working.

He needs to feel some pain, in other words.

Given his unemployed situation, he's available to work, but I'm just curious what he could earn in the next 7 days, i.e. there's no time to interview, etc.

Any thoughts? He is pretty hot, but I also don't think prostitution is the right path for him either.

sucker.

If I needed money I'd start selling stuff. maybe mow some lawns or something

Claystation saidIf I needed money I'd start selling stuff. maybe mow some lawns or something

yeah. lawn work, wash cars, sell stuff. I have a Nintendo Wii that I rarely use just sitting in my living room, not to mention a hoard of vintage (and rare) electronics.

@OP - Sounds like your friend has a great way of getting money already.

I recently got some work through a friend at a mail house. the week's work was divided because of the way their payments go, but all told, I've seen minimum wage, for about 41 hours work. (Canadian minimum is $10:25 an hour).

Hopefully that helps answer your question.

Reality calling: This guy is ...NOT... your "friend".



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First I can't imagine asking anyone for money..but if you are gonna give him money and not expect it back, then he should being doing errands for you. Cleaning your house, grocery shopping, mowing your lawn, ect... It can't be a one way street where he gets money.

Also if he needs $1000 for car payment and utilities then he is living a life well above his means and needs to cut back.

Good Luck

I did use one of those quick cash advance places once.

Drive to wells Fargo or chase to their ATM.

If there is a will , there is a way !!
Only in case of sickness or sudden unemployment ,i would help someone in needs . I have been sucked that way 3 times ( family and friend ) and have learned my lesson !!

My brother helped me out when I was unemployed and got behind on some bills, but I would never ask a friend for money. I had one friend ask me to borrow some money once a few years ago and I told him yes because of the situation. When he came to get it, he came with a loan document stating how he would pay it back and the interest he would pay and he gave me his violin to keep as collateral for the loan. I gave his violin back to him because I felt the loan document was enough. He even paid his loan off early.

I would tell this guy that I would lend him some money, but he will have to pay it back within a certain amount of time and sign a document saying so. he can either pay back in cash or services. He knows you are a pushover and will keep on coming to you for a handout. He is obviously living beyond his means so maybe the guy needs a second job.

Does your "friend" have anything of value that he can give to you to hold until he pays back the money? I'd make it something that he would definitely miss if he doesn't pay you back. Otherwise, remind him that bus passes are cheaper than car payments.

Hospital Orderly. ....hospitals are often in need of orderlies and they dont need much training. Especially if he is willing to work odd shifts and weekends.

Odd jobs....yard cleaning, painting, window cleaning ....if he has a truck, recycle hauling.

Housecleaning, car detailing, masseur, landscaping, etc.

Call up one of those 800 numbers promising instant cash and yet charge u exorbitant interest rates to pay it back. Only to default on that as well.

continue the cycle of debt

pizza delivery

http://www.realjock.com/Cash

There ya go!

BlackCat90 saidhttp://www.realjock.com/Cash

ewwww, he's gross.

Go to church?

There are medical trials that pays you like $2000 to inject like unknown chemicals in you.

Or, he can donate his sperms.

Or he can do porn like for Randy Blue or Corbin Fisher.

RadRTT saidFirst I can't imagine asking anyone for money..but if you are gonna give him money and not expect it back, then he should being doing errands for you. Cleaning your house, grocery shopping, mowing your lawn, ect... It can't be a one way street where he gets money.

Also if he needs $1000 for car payment and utilities then he is living a life well above his means and needs to cut back.

Good Luck

This. Cut your coat according to your size.

SwimBIkeRun949 saidA friend of mine has a history of money problems.

I have loaned -- errr, "given" -- him probably $3K-$4K to cover last minute issues. (I'm not expecting it back.)

For the past couple of months I had thought he was on the road to recovery, but alas yesterday I get an email asking for $1,000 to cover his car payment and some utilities...

some "friend" this guy is (NOT)









By repeatedly handing over money to this "friend", with no promise of payback, you are "enabling" a lifestyle that he obviously cannot afford.

HOW are you "helping" him