Dating a 19 y/o guy? im 35 ! ??????????????????

  • BeachStud2014

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    Sep 23, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    What do think about this situation has anyone else expierenced this ?
    any advice ?.
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    Sep 23, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    I've never experience anything like this, but I don't see a problem. Age is just a number, its all about loving what's on the inside. If you love someone who happens to be younger than you so be it.
    I would say be yourself. If you both seriously want this to work, you gotta show who you are and hope your partner will accept it, if he doesn't its not meant to be. Find common ground and be willing to learn everything about each other. Be patient and trust each other (to some degree).
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  • robevans912

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    Sep 23, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    19 years old? And you're 35? I wish you all the best. Most 19 year olds are just kids, and still quite immature. You're perhaps liking the idea of sex with a 19 year old, but honestly, I'd keep it at sex and nothing further.
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    Sep 23, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    depends on the maturity of both of you.

    I spent ten years with a guy who was 14 years older then me and we had a great relationship.

    I was 18 when we met he was 35. I was a lot more mature then most 18 year olds though. But it was successful, my family accepted him openly and he is a really great guy, he doesn't have so many emotional issues (although he has them) and together we both learnt a hell of a lot.

    So yes it can work sometimes... most of the times... no.

    The one thing you'll have to do is accept him for who he is, he isn't as old as you and he hasn't experienced as much so his ideas and views will be much more narrow, he'll make mistakes (as you will) and he's going to do some stupid stuff (hopefully not too stupid) so your going to have to understand that he isn't 35, he hasn't had as much life experience and you have to let him find his own way on a lot of things. which most of the time means keeping your mouth shut hahaha
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    Sep 23, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    I dated a man who was 39 when I was 19 and we had a great relationship. The only thing I would recommend is to not focus on age. Any time we would have a disagreement he would always cite my young age as why my views were invalid. His constant focus on our age disparity is what caused stress and not the fact that we were 20 years apart in age.
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    Sep 23, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    The majority of the 19 year olds I've met (as a 19 year old until now) were immature. But then again, you can say that with the 20-somethings, 30-somethings, and 50-somethings.

    I wish you the best of luck. If you have a connection, then that's awesome. Don't give a fuck about what other people say if you're both happy and in a healthy relationship. I am friends with a guy in this same situation. They're still dating and going strong for two years.
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    Sep 23, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
    Have him verify his age.

    If you're two consenting adults, then have fun. And be prepared for the looks/jokes.
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 23, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    Your profile says you're single and looking for Mr. Right.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 23, 2012 10:45 PM GMT

    I was 17....he was 37. BFD!
    Advice? Enjoy the ride. No more or less than someone your own age.
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    Sep 24, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidThe one thing you'll have to do is accept him for who he is, he isn't as old as you and he hasn't experienced as much so his ideas and views will be much more narrow, he'll make mistakes (as you will) and he's going to do some stupid stuff (hopefully not too stupid) so your going to have to understand that he isn't 35, he hasn't had as much life experience and you have to let him find his own way on a lot of things. which most of the time means keeping your mouth shut hahaha


    Exactly. Like others have said, enjoy the ride because it will end.
  • BDABOY

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    Sep 24, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
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    Exactly. Like others have said, enjoy the ride because it will end.[/quote]


    All relationships EVENTUALLY end!! LOL!
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    Sep 24, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    MolaMola saidHave him verify his age.

    If you're two consenting adults, then have fun. And be prepared for the looks/jokes.


    Yeah. It's probably best to verify age. Last thing you want to find out is that he's really a 16 year old that looks 19.
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    Sep 24, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    16 years difference. That's exactly the diff between my guy and me, except I'm 52 and he's 36 - more similar in maturity level and life experience than 19 and 35.

    You and he may have more relationship issues than my guy and I. I'm not saying a LTR couldn't develop; I'm just saying the odds are slim considering where you both are on your life's journey.

    Now, if you both aren't looking for a LTR, I say go for it. You are both of sufficient age and able to give proper consent.
  • TonyToneTC

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    Sep 24, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    I would say...go forward man! icon_smile.gif Be happy my friend!
  • unicoman1

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    Sep 24, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    Your profile says you're looking for Mr. Right? I dunno. so many differences - In todays day n age, thats a generation gap.
    If it works out for you congrats! Enjoy yourself and have fun. If its early on, you got plenty of time to see where things will go.
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    I've heard and seen worse .
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    dont be a douche to the kid....
  • barriehomeboy

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    Sep 24, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    You need to know what his agenda is. Why is he with you.

    I'm getting over a guy with an even bigger age difference. He was a hot bi construction stud who loved me, but he wasn't prepared to leave his gf. That was love with an obstacle.

    There was another one who was using guys to get money and gifts from them. That was a shakedown.

    Be on your guard buddy.



  • starboard5

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    Sep 24, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidI've never experience anything like this, but I don't see a problem. Age is just a number, its all about loving what's on the inside. If you love someone who happens to be younger than you so be it.
    I would say be yourself. If you both seriously want this to work, you gotta show who you are and hope your partner will accept it, if he doesn't its not meant to be. Find common ground and be willing to learn everything about each other. Be patient and trust each other (to some degree).
    Good luckicon_biggrin.gif


    Funny how the people who say "age is just a number" are usually in their 20's.
  • Boredasaurus

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    Sep 24, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    That sounds pretty average to me.. Just make sure you are both looking for the same thing. I've always been attracted to older guys so I don't see the problem here at all. Have a good one man!
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidYour profile says you're single and looking for Mr. Right.icon_rolleyes.gif


    The gay gods must be deeply offended.
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    If you two are happy, that's all that matters. My cousin is 50 and his husband is 25...and very happy!
  • Karl

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    Sep 24, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    It doesnt really matter if you both love each other.
    Wish you all the best.
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    Nothing to do with age, I know plenty of 35 year olds who are more immature than most 19 year olds. There are also very mature 19 year olds.. It depends on the person itself.
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    robevans912 said19 years old? And you're 35? I wish you all the best. Most 19 year olds are just kids, and still quite immature. You're perhaps liking the idea of sex with a 19 year old, but honestly, I'd keep it at sex and nothing further.


    I second that since I'm 19 myself, but I'm not like your average 19 year old who tries to talk politics and get drunk 24/7 icon_lol.gif