Should I give up !

  • maque1000

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    Sep 24, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    My ex. BF he is a playboy and work in USA and 2 mont he will come to see me for 1 time ,3years of our relationship he try to clear his work and immediately come to see me ,I always trust him and try to take care of him when him sick (icon_question.gificon_question.gifI work in hospital)Sometime he will send a ticket to let me go to see him at USA and one year ago I went to see him ,you know I can find something that make me surprise's condom !!(maybe he sleep and forgot to leave it until I came to )that situation make us to be broken (as I told you he is a playboy). After that he try to reconcile me but I reject to return ,because he hurt me too much and more than I can forgiven. Now ,he still reconcile me and try to do everything that can change my mind,sometime I had ever thought to return but I have to stop it ,because I m fear that the resource will be the same as he did.How should I do ,I still hesitate for now icon_sad.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Sep 24, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    I think I understand your post despite your very broken English. hehehe. icon_smile.gif

    You sure have invested a lot into a long distance relationship. So you've been with our bf three years and he just moved to the states for about two months, has visited you once, and you found a condom on him. Well, how much longer will he be away? How long can you wait? Will he back to live with you soon or this is an extended leave for him? Are you willing to accept that he has needs to take care while he's living in the states? Is his trangression a complete dealbreaker for you? These are the questions you must ask yourself.

    Only you know how long can you wait for him. It's extremely difficult to maintain a long distance relationship. If he's going to be gone for long and can't swing by to see you often, you might want to end things and call it a friendship. Sad but true. But it's ultimately your decision. No one here can answer this one for you. It's about you... how deep and patient is your love.. and how long are you willing to wait.

  • maque1000

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    Sep 24, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    Many thank for your suggestion, that make me more understand icon_smile.gif

    PS. Im so sorry with my English (hehehe) icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 25, 2012 1:59 PM GMT
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  • NorthChinaLi

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    Sep 26, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    marry him.
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    Sep 26, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear you are facing this problem. Long distance relationships are hard and maybe you need to discuss if the relationship is "open" to sex with others. Most guys need sex and companionship. If you will be apart for long periods, maybe you need to allow for him to see other guys in the meantime.

    Remember that you can't control your boyfriend 100%, even if he lives with you. The relationship has to work for you both and open communication on all topics is important. Good luck! Hope you can both make it work.
  • maque1000

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    Sep 27, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    Hey guys!Im really thx. to all of you for the best idea. icon_biggrin.gif

    Now I’m sad and confused ,when it all gets turned around and ‘round

    you make me stronger and making it all ok. Now I know what love means

    and whatever life may hold for me icon_smile.gif

    Thx.all of you and RJ website icon_smile.gif for get the best of me