Christian funerals

  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    My grandma just died this past monday morning.I don't know when the funeral
    is yet at all.Why are christians so slow with planning for christian funerals?
    Why do christians take so long to plan funerals for their dead relatives?
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    What are best and worst fall clothes to wear to christian funerals?
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    Does casual shoes make good shoes to wear to funerals or not?I have not
    been to a funeral in a very long time.
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidWhat are best and worst fall clothes to wear to christian funerals?
    I think you should just stick to
    all black because that's what
    most people wear to funerals
    in North American society.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    What would you wear for men's clothes to a christian funeral as a non-christian?I'm a proud non christian.I believe in god but not jesus.
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidWhat would you wear for men's clothes to a christian funeral as a non-christian?I'm a proud non christian.I believe in god but not jesus.

    The same as any other funeral? All black suit?
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    I don't wear suits.I have a few black jeans or black casual pants and a black
    clip on tie.I wear only clip on ties these days.I hate regular ties.I'm not good
    at tieing regular ties and i never was either.
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidMy grandma just died this past monday morning.I don't know when the funeral
    is yet at all.Why are christians some people so slow with planning for christian funerals?
    Why do christians modern civilized people take so long to plan funerals for their dead relatives?


    There. Fixed and answered.
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidI don't wear suits.I have a few black jeans or black casual pants and a black
    clip on tie.I wear only clip on ties these days.I hate regular ties.I'm not good
    at tieing regular ties and i never was either.
    Rent a suit.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    I hate suits.I won't rent or buy a suit ever again.i only wear regular men's
    dress clothes to family together these days.I won't wear suits.i only
    wear men's casual dress these days.I'm not willing to wear suits.I
    want nothing to with siuts.I don't feel comfortable in suits at all.I feel
    more comfortable in men's casual dress clothes than men's suits.
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    Sep 25, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidI hate suits.I won't rent or buy a suit ever again.i only wear regular men's
    dress clothes to family together these days.I won't wear suits.i only
    wear men's casual dress these days.I'm not willing to wear suits.I
    want nothing to with siuts.I don't feel comfortable in suits at all.I feel
    more comfortable in men's casual dress clothes than men's suits.

    Wait, I thought this funeral was about your grandmother and not you?
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    it is about both of us.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    Most men don't wear suits to funerals in my family tree.Most men wear
    casual dress clothes to funerals in my family tree.
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 25, 2012 4:29 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidMost men don't wear suits to funerals in my family tree.Most men wear
    casual dress clothes to funerals in my family tree
    .


    Why are you posting this, when you just answered your own question?
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    I live on low income.I can not afford to buy or rent a suit at all.Suits are
    not my fashion style at all.Suits are for religious freaks,old fashioned freaks,
    rich old fashioned freaks.I'm not a rich man or a religious man or a christian
    or an old fashioned man at all.I'm an up to date,modern,non religious,non
    christian,single gay man.I'm not willing to change my own fashion style
    for others at all.I live for myself not others.
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidI live on low income.I can not afford to buy or rent a suit at all.Suits are
    not my fashion style at all.Suits are for religious freaks,old fashioned freaks,
    rich old fashioned freaks.I'm not a rich man or a religious man or a christian
    or an old fashioned man at all.I'm an up to date,modern,non religious,non
    christian,single gay man.I'm not willing to change my own fashion style
    for others at all.I live for myself not others.


    How about jeans and a T-shirt that says, "I love my grandma, but not enough to wear a suit to her funeral"?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidWhat would you wear for men's clothes to a christian funeral as a non-christian?I'm a proud non christian.I believe in god but not jesus.

    You wear what is traditional out of respect for others. A death is no time to enforcing your values on others. Only a completely ignorant person does not respect the death of another and the values of another .... do unto others, as you would have them do unto you
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    Sep 25, 2012 5:50 PM GMT

    GAYMACHODUDE, just wear what you have available in black. You're obsessing over a small thing.

    The important thing is that you go. It's a demonstration of love.

    Yes it's that easy.
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    Sep 25, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidI live on low income.I can not afford to buy or rent a suit at all.Suits are
    not my fashion style at all.Suits are for religious freaks,old fashioned freaks,
    rich old fashioned freaks.I'm not a rich man or a religious man or a christian
    or an old fashioned man at all.I'm an up to date,modern,non religious,non
    christian,single gay man.I'm not willing to change my own fashion style
    for others at all.I live for myself not others.


    the only reason u dont wear suits is because u can't afford one.
    No need to bash the suit, just because u are unable to have one...Suits have nothing to do with being old-fashioned, rich, religious freaks. You are so fucking out-of-touch with basic societal norms.

    Wear a fucking pair of stained black sweat pants then. Be a fucking low-life at a funeral. Go ahead.

    What grown man doesn't own a pair of black slacks and a button down shirt? icon_confused.gif


  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    If you don't have anything black, then go down to the Goodwill or similar and buy something for a 2 or 3 bucks and forgo you next beer at the bar and buy generic cigarettes instead of brand name cigarettes or skip your next joint.
  • Hothouse

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    I've been involved in making funeral arrangements for several family members. There are many reasons why it may take a few days before a funeral takes place. Availability of the place where the funeral is held, time for family or friends to make arrangements to travel and take off work, preparing the funeral keeping with the deceased wishes are just some reasons. There is no set time that a funeral or burial has to take place (as far as I'm aware) for christian funerals. Most, however, are held within 3 or 4 days after passing.
    As far as what to wear - a dark suit and tie would be appropriate. I understand if you don't have a suit and can't afford one. In that case, wear something respectful. Avoid jeans and tee shirts. Wear a darker colored pants and a collared shirt. Dress shoes if you have them. Just don't wear something that says you didn't even make an effort. That says you don't care, and if you don't then don't attend. Clean up, too. Shower and comb your hair.

    And guys, don't assume every gay man knows what to do or what to wear in every circumstance. We are all different and being gay does not automatically mean we know about social issues and proper attire - that's just sterotyping. Some men have had very limited exposure to certain things and feel uncomfortable when they have to deal with them. If we're approached and asked for help - we should be helpful.

    And, my sympathy for your loss.
  • Import

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you don't have anything black, then go down to the Goodwill or similar and buy something for a 2 or 3 bucks and forgo you next beer at the bar and buy generic cigarettes instead of brand name cigarettes or skip your next joint.


    awww hell naah
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 25, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you don't have anything black, then go down to the Goodwill or similar and buy something for a 2 or 3 bucks and forgo you next beer at the bar and buy generic cigarettes instead of brand name cigarettes or skip your next joint.


    I think he's planning on being stoned at the funeral.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 25, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    Hothouse saidI've been involved in making funeral arrangements for several family members. There are many reasons why it may take a few days before a funeral takes place. Availability of the place where the funeral is held, time for family or friends to make arrangements to travel and take off work, preparing the funeral keeping with the deceased wishes are just some reasons. There is no set time that a funeral or burial has to take place (as far as I'm aware) for christian funerals. Most, however, are held within 3 or 4 days after passing.
    As far as what to wear - a dark suit and tie would be appropriate. I understand if you don't have a suit and can't afford one. In that case, wear something respectful. Avoid jeans and tee shirts. Wear a darker colored pants and a collared shirt. Dress shoes if you have them. Just don't wear something that says you didn't even make an effort. That says you don't care, and if you don't then don't attend. Clean up, too. Shower and comb your hair.

    And guys, don't assume every gay man knows what to do or what to wear in every circumstance. We are all different and being gay does not automatically mean we know about social issues and proper attire - that's just sterotyping. Some men have had very limited exposure to certain things and feel uncomfortable when they have to deal with them. If we're approached and asked for help - we should be helpful.

    And, my sympathy for your loss.


    Showering and combing your hair for a funeral is not a gay stereotype.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Hothouse

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    Sep 25, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidI live on low income.I can not afford to buy or rent a suit at all.Suits are
    not my fashion style at all.Suits are for religious freaks,old fashioned freaks,
    rich old fashioned freaks.I'm not a rich man or a religious man or a christian
    or an old fashioned man at all.I'm an up to date,modern,non religious,non
    christian,single gay man.I'm not willing to change my own fashion style
    for others at all.I live for myself not others.


    OK, I do have to address this.
    It's ok to not like suits. You should be yourself. You don't need to lash out at men who do choose to wear a suit - and they are NOT all religious freaks, rich old fashioned freaks or any kind of freak at all. They are men that feel there are occasions where suits are appropriate.
    But - this day is NOT ABOUT YOU. It's about being respectful to your grandmother who has passed. That means you should make every effort to dress in a way that she would not be ashamed or embarrassed of you and would be proud to call you her grandson. You owe that to her.