Can't tell if this guy is playing me

  • Kromethius

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    Sep 25, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    Ok I know I made numerous posts pertaining to this topic but lately the guy I've been talking to on here has been giving me some red flags that could be ambiguous. Now I have a question when you turn your instant message on does it automatically put you on the adult chat? Reason is is because when we were camming on here he told me to hold on and didn't respond when we were debating and then I looked into the adult chat and I saw his name. So am I just being paranoid or is he playing me?
  • Fable

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    Sep 25, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

    psycho post is psycho
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    Sep 25, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Being alive and in public puts you on adult chat.

    Welcome to life.
  • robevans912

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    Sep 25, 2012 11:18 PM GMT
    10/10
    would read again.
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    Sep 26, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Entering the adult chat is totally different..So... No
  • Kromethius

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    Sep 26, 2012 12:46 AM GMT
    what do you mean no?
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    Sep 26, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidwhat do you mean no?


    IMing privately is not going into adult chat, or regular chat. It's private IMing.

  • Kromethius

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    Sep 26, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    so essentially what you are saying is that he was chatting with other guys while talking with me?
  • Import

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    Sep 26, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidso essentially what you are saying is that he was chatting with other guys while talking with me?


    baby, im sorry, but i think he's cheating on u.
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    Sep 26, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    You're 'talking' to a guy on RJ...95% chance he's just playing you.
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    Sep 26, 2012 10:14 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidso essentially what you are saying is that he was chatting with other guys while talking with me?


    While you're at it, make him sign a contract saying that you and only you would be allowed to have a conversation with him through chat. Preferably, make him sit next to you while chatting online together, so you know he's not doing something else. Even better, wire a circuit to his brain so when he thinks that he needs to talk to other guys it will zap him. And make sure his chastity belt is triple locked and coded so that no one will have access.

    Then and only then, you will know when he doesn't want to marry you.
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    Sep 26, 2012 11:36 AM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidYou're 'talking' to a guy on RJ...95% chance he's just playing you.

    Noooo... My one-sided relations aren't real? But he replied with a emoticon!
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    Sep 26, 2012 11:38 AM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    ConfederateGhost saidYou're 'talking' to a guy on RJ...95% chance he's just playing you.

    Noooo... My one-sided relations aren't real? But he replied with a emoticon!
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    Like this one? love-smiley-086%20wank.gif
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    Sep 26, 2012 11:56 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    JR_RJ said
    ConfederateGhost saidYou're 'talking' to a guy on RJ...95% chance he's just playing you.

    Noooo... My one-sided relations aren't real? But he replied with a emoticon!
    icon_cry.gif
    Like this one? love-smiley-086%20wank.gif
    You stalkings me? How could... that was private mail! Noone EVER shares that info.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 26, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
    No. It doesn't automatically put you in the adult chat room. You can video chat in the adult chatroom and the IM at the same time, though.

    He was likely chatting with multiple people at the same time as you.
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    Sep 26, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    ConQuest saidNo. It doesn't automatically put you in the adult chat room. You can video chat in the adult chatroom and the IM at the same time, though.

    He was likely chatting with multiple people at the same time as you.

    But isn't he morally obligated to solely IM'ing the OP?
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    Sep 26, 2012 12:08 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    ConQuest saidNo. It doesn't automatically put you in the adult chat room. You can video chat in the adult chatroom and the IM at the same time, though.

    He was likely chatting with multiple people at the same time as you.

    But isn't he morally obligated to solely IM'ing the OP?


    I think it's rude if someone doesn't disclose that they are chatting with more than one person.

    I also think it's rude if you are chatting with someone and they start texting other people in the middle of your conversation.

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    Sep 26, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    ConQuest said
    JR_RJ said
    ConQuest saidNo. It doesn't automatically put you in the adult chat room. You can video chat in the adult chatroom and the IM at the same time, though.

    He was likely chatting with multiple people at the same time as you.

    But isn't he morally obligated to solely IM'ing the OP?


    I think it's rude if someone doesn't disclose that they are chatting with more than one person.

    I also think it's rude if you are chatting with someone and they start texting other people in the middle of your conversation.

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    I rarely assume I'm the only one, but tell them I'm multi tasking to spare them disappointment. Haven't used IM in a long time cause of that...icon_neutral.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 26, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    When my IM is on, I'm not even thinking "adult chat" and you shouldn't expect it from him or anyone else.

    Not sure about the "playing you" concern.. if that possibiliity bothers you, just be a little defensive and keep your eyes and ears open when dealing with him. I always think real intentions will show themselves eventually.
    Just don't be surprised.