Would you talk to a guy with private pics before you'd talk to a guy without any?

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    Aug 25, 2008 2:57 AM GMT
    Just a question.
    For me, and I'm not knocking anyone when saying this, but I find a guy more attractive if he doesn't have pictures of his unit on the web.

    I mean, say you get into a relationship with someone who has nudes on his online profile...how many hundreds of people have seen what you get when you're between the sheets???!?!?!?!

    I made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....


    maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.
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    Aug 25, 2008 3:09 AM GMT
    Well, making your man take down his shirtless won't stop him from sleeping around, if that's what he wants to do. You can't change people, especially men, for we hate being forced into corners.

    I don't mind chatting with guys who have private X-rated pictures. I'm a guy, so I like to look. Still, I know what type of guy I'd like to become romantically involved with. I value restraint and tame behavior, so a guy with nude pictures would probably become my friend or play buddy. Entertaining anything more would be highly unlikely.
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    Aug 25, 2008 3:11 AM GMT
    Nice cat.
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    Aug 25, 2008 4:35 AM GMT
    Not a factor.

    Unless the guy is a total sex-starved maniac looking for camsex it doesn't bother me, and yeah, I like to look too. ;P

    It's just a fact that some people are exhibitionistic and are totally uninhibited. That doesn't make them any less sensitive or human than the total prudes who won't even take off their shirts.

    If you start arbitrarily classifying people because they have nude pics/no pics/faceless pics/unverified pics/have a healthy libido (or not)/extroverted or not/physical appearance/etc., you'll miss out on a lot. Give it a chance, even if only for friendship, chances are you'll find they're as human as you are.

    That said, there are the creepizoids out there. And I just show them a picture of my elephant dick to scare them away. icon_cool.gif j/k ROFL

    Meow

    P.S. you're partnered, it's understandable to not be comfortable with your BF showing his stuff around, LOL.

    P.P.S. and no, I have never and will never show nude pics or have camsex online, ever.
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    Aug 25, 2008 5:58 AM GMT
    Don't assume that all private pics are of the guy's naked parts. My private pics are of my face. I think that's a lot more personal that just my body or my wang. Therefore, they're private. Just how I roll. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 25, 2008 6:34 AM GMT
    stonecoldfoxboy saidDon't assume that all private pics are of the guy's naked parts. My private pics are of my face. I think that's a lot more personal that just my body or my wang. Therefore, they're private. Just how I roll. icon_smile.gif


    gud point.... my prive is me barely clothed and does leave a smidgen to imagination...
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Aug 25, 2008 6:46 AM GMT
    Same here; my private pix are just more like the others... underwear no shirt.
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    Aug 25, 2008 8:13 AM GMT
    Only if his private pics are of his face and they are CLEAR pics (no camera in front of his face, no sunglasses and no hat pulled down over his eyes).
  • GQjock

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    Aug 25, 2008 10:10 AM GMT
    Not at all...
    If a guy's nice
    and wants to chat I'm open
    Don't get me wrong... Pvt pics are always nice to look at but
    I won't not talk to someone because they don't have them
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    Aug 25, 2008 10:21 AM GMT
    I talk to pretty much everyone. Pic's or no pic's. Im just hesitant to talk with the guys with no pic's or filled in profiles.

    As far as private pic's go. I still have some in my file. There not showing anything too bad. I dont show my package at all. I think you went a little overboard by having your ex take down his shirtless pic's.
  • MuslDrew

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    Aug 25, 2008 10:59 AM GMT
    I'll talk to anybody, but their choice of pics could factor into how seriously I would get involved with them. I'm not interested in cock pics. Tasteful nudes can be a different matter to me.
  • Nef_Pop

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    Aug 25, 2008 2:44 PM GMT
    I see where you're coming from. My ex had private pics, which I actually didn't end up seeing till after we started going out (not that it mattered cause I had the real thing anyway icon_biggrin.gif

    But later I found out that he was very...... "outgoing" we'll say with his private pics, because he was in the habit of sending out several emails of nude photos to people that he had talked to after only one night. And when I say several, I mean SEVERAL, like 4-5 every night. So when I found this out it did turn me off a little, for the same reasons. When it comes down to everything, its like yeah I had him not just his pictures but I still had that slightly jealous or angry feeling.

    But then things started getting sour. And at one point, he started emailing and chatting with people again, and he had sent an email to one of my friends that he had not met (haha what a coincidence) but my friend had seen him cause I had pictures etc. etc. Anyway long story short... it didn't work out. lol

    And my take on the situation..... while I don't think any less of him for having the pictures or sending them at the frequency that he did/still does, it did get to me a little and was a slight turn off to know that pretty much ever gay guy in Boston (especially the Latinos and even further Brazilians) has seen his private pictures. lol

    But I don't think I would chose one person over another over private pics. I do see where you're coming from though icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 25, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
    They are what they are, however bottom line is there MUST be a face pic in there some where!!!!
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    Aug 25, 2008 3:35 PM GMT
    Sometimes mystery could be fun but not all the time! Jealousy, only you can determine how bad it is and if it causes you problems then you can work on it!

    Still working on mine !
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    Aug 25, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidThey are what they are, however bottom line is there MUST be a face pic in there some where!!!!


    Ditto!
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    Aug 25, 2008 4:21 PM GMT
    I'm not keen on dick pics, or even worse, the "check out my big brown asshole" pics, but hey, if a guy wants to have them on his profile, I'm not necessarily going to dismiss him as "unworthy" of my friendship....most likely if I were to grow close to him, I'd constantly remind him that he was an internet-whore when I met him.icon_lol.gif

    However, if I were to be dating a guy and he told me what sorta pics I was "allowed" to have on my profile....I'd be thinking...."Oh BIG RED FLAG...someone has some control issues!" and I'd be long-gone.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 25, 2008 5:32 PM GMT
    Personally I would never post nude pictures of myself. on the web because that's not my thing, more power to guys that do.


    My ex-lover and deleted our profiles when we were coupled, because there was no need to be on a dating website because we had each other. We chatted with our friends using our private emails addresses.

    This issue was never an issue with us. If he did have nude pictures, I would not ask him to take them down too controling!
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    Aug 26, 2008 12:26 AM GMT
    I don't think any less of those who do have private pics, and I don't assume that they're always of the private area.

    for someone to be comfortable enough with their body to put up pictures of it is admirable or something of the sort.

    but yes, like a lot of you said, you might think twice about getting romantically involved with that person.

    and again, I'm not knocking those who have private pics.

    my ex is very good looking, and therefore had a lot of guys messaging him, asking to get together with him.
    it bothered me a great deal, obviously.
    there was a circumstance that arose when he thought that he was just getting together to hangout with one of his online "friends". this "friend" and i use the term loosely, ended up groping him and trying to get in his pants.

    needless to say after he took the shirtless pic down, the hoards of guys creeping on him slowly diminished.

    I personally think that it's sexier when more things are left to the imagination.

    but I mean a face pic is necessary, I like to put a face to a name and email address.


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    Aug 26, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidYeah, I agree. Don't assume that all private pics are of naked bodies with nasty bulging erections. My private picture is of me naked. But the picture is cut at the hips. So just because you can see some hips but no bush or anything like that his showing so RJ deemed that this picture couldn't be public. Otherwise all my pictures would be public.


    I've found rj to be hugely inconsistent with what they will and won't accept for public pictures.
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    Aug 26, 2008 12:34 AM GMT
    and one more thing, I didn't make him take the pic down, I told him that the amount of attention that he was receiving from his online male friends was starting to get to me a little.

    He did the courteous thing, because he loved me, and took it down.

    he would have asked me to do the same, or so he said.
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    Aug 26, 2008 12:36 AM GMT
    JerJo saidJust a question.
    For me, and I'm not knocking anyone when saying this, but I find a guy more attractive if he doesn't have pictures of his unit on the web.

    I made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....


    maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.


    Though I wouldn't have my ex take down a pic, I agree. Even though it really doesn't matter to me, if anything, private pics are a turnoff. The reason I don't let it alter my opinion is because some guys' private pics are just pics they would rarely show somebody, not just naked pics. So I don't mind, but you probably wouldn't find me being interested in a guy on here that has unlocked naked pics of himself. I think the human body is beautiful in any light, but keeping parts of it hidden creates a nice sense of security and curious eroticism about somebody.
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    Aug 26, 2008 1:14 AM GMT
    My private pics are just my "before" pics - me with no shirt and wearing gym shorts. Certainly nothing anyone would want to see!

    Someone in another forum thread suggested to a guy who said he was embarrassed to have shirtless pics in his profile that he make them private so only he could look at them for motivation, and I thought that was a great idea. Thus, my private pics. Just for me!
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    Aug 26, 2008 1:25 AM GMT
    innerathlete said
    I've found rj to be hugely inconsistent with what they will and won't accept for public pictures.


    TRUE that...I mean I have one of me sitting at my desk. It shows my lower abs but no bush or shaft or anything and they made me put it in privates. But, if you look at rocco's profile...jeez...u see a lot more than that. I guess you have to be an RJ darling...
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    Aug 26, 2008 1:27 AM GMT
    JerJo saidand one more thing, I didn't make him take the pic down, I told him that the amount of attention that he was receiving from his online male friends was starting to get to me a little.

    He did the courteous thing, because he loved me, and took it down.

    he would have asked me to do the same, or so he said.



    ummm, but didnt you just say that you made him take it down??
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    Aug 26, 2008 1:43 AM GMT
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    JerJo saidand one more thing, I didn't make him take the pic down, I told him that the amount of attention that he was receiving from his online male friends was starting to get to me a little.

    He did the courteous thing, because he loved me, and took it down.

    he would have asked me to do the same, or so he said.



    ummm, but didnt you just say that you made him take it down??




    I suppose he might have been being just a LITTLE too dramatic. icon_confused.gif

    I'm more worried about finding a guy friend...icon_rolleyes.gif