Do you follow your head (being practical) or listen to your heart (gut/intuition) ?

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    Sep 26, 2012 8:12 AM GMT
    I am not sure if this topic been brought up in discussion already but my close friend and I recently got into a passionate debate about this. Let's me elaborate.

    # 1: your career choice - your head say to do the practical thing but your heart tell you to follow your dream (like getting finance/banking/stable job vs. becoming a singer, writer, artistic kind of job). Which would you choose? I'll probably choose the Singer/creative route, I don't like corporate jobs. My friend chose the corporate job. What will you choose?

    # 2: Your love life - say between 2 guys, one is not good-looking but great/nice, has money, stable and well off, the other is sexy/hot, kinda poor, also cool/great. Which guy will you choose? My friend say the average looking dude with money, I go with the cute/sexy poor guy lol. What about you?

    I guess a more general question would be in any situation in life, which route do you choose, usually your head or your heart? I tend to follow my intuition or maybe a little balance once in a while is nice, too.icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2012 9:05 AM GMT
    Each to their own but when it comes to career go with your heart and do something that your passionate about. At the same time not a bad idea to have a backup option if things don't work out exactly, so maybe a bit of part time.

    When it comes to relationships, you'll learn this the hard way but stable and someone with similar goals/values is way more important than purely looks in the long-term. That's my two cents.
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    Sep 26, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
    I’ve got my head in the clouds and I wear my heart on my sleeve so the last time my head told me to follow my heart I wound up in the hamper.
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    Sep 26, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    I don't think intuition is necessarily going with the heart but I will answer the question.


    In almost all situations I use my intuition as a guide. I feel that my intuition is basically my subconscious picking up signals that my brain hasn't processed yet.

    As far as my follow through i'm pretty practical about it. I even gone through my love life this way and my instincts always picked up when something was wrong. So when I was eventually dumped (normally for blah reasons) I was never heartbroken
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    Sep 26, 2012 1:17 PM GMT
    ..I try very hard to find a common ground between head and heart when making bigger decisions...

    ..There was a time when i ignored everything my heart told me and went with logic and practicality.. Best thing i ever did..it really set the baseline for how my heart "should" think.. (complex?)

  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 26, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    Both ... I'm mainly logical and try to stick with what investigation and analysis indicates, but every once in a while I follow instinct.
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    Sep 26, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    #1: I definitely follow my head when it comes to my career. There is some heart involved but not a lot. I wouldn't be in accounting if I was strictly following my heart. But it's a great field to get into so it is what I do.

    #2: I TRY to have a good mix of head and heart when it comes to my love life, but I would say I 90% follow my heart. There are so many guys that look great on paper and would treat me how I want to be treated, but I just don't feel that spark. Then I go after guys where I know they won't offer me everything I want in a relationship but my heart wants it so I go after it like a fool. I am waiting for the day when my heart and head find me the same guy
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    Sep 26, 2012 3:05 PM GMT

    I'm a children's author. A local artist made something from one of my stories.

    It's a plain copper disk on a copper chain that I always wear.

    It says 'think with your heart'.

    My head thinks with my heart.


    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Sep 26, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    xsocalguy8x saidI am not sure if this topic been brought up in discussion already but my close friend and I recently got into a passionate debate about this. Let's me elaborate.

    # 1: your career choice - your head say to do the practical thing but your heart tell you to follow your dream (like getting finance/banking/stable job vs. becoming a singer, writer, artistic kind of job). Which would you choose? I'll probably choose the Singer/creative route, I don't like corporate jobs. My friend chose the corporate job. What will you choose?

    # 2: Your love life - say between 2 guys, one is not good-looking but great/nice, has money, stable and well off, the other is sexy/hot, kinda poor, also cool/great. Which guy will you choose? My friend say the average looking dude with money, I go with the cute/sexy poor guy lol. What about you?

    I guess a more general question would be in any situation in life, which route do you choose, usually your head or your heart? I tend to follow my intuition or maybe a little balance once in a while is nice, too.icon_smile.gif


    Heart for finding and sticking to the one (relationships), Head for EVERYTHING else. lol, if i packed my heart into my laptop bag in the morning i would probably be demoted in a month...
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    Sep 26, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    MuchMorethanMuscle saidFor me, I have to follow my heart and intuition/gut. I can't be a corporate person. It looks good on the surface and there seems to be more financial security or it may appear to be that way. And what's the point of making good money if I'm miserable all day doing things I can't stand? That's a definite recipe for failure in either the short, intermediate or long run for me. My body responds acutely to external stimuli. Just as I mentioned above, put me to work with something I love doing and I excel tremendously. But put me to work with something I hate and I experience ongoing physical illness and literally shut down on all levels gradually.


    This is very true. I can attest to the above situation. I excel at everything I LOVE to do and wither and stress miserably at the things i do not - all for financial security. It's not worth the health concerns. I have found that I can put my talents toward a financial future that's going to help me to financially, and then physically excel.

    You do follow your heart, and yet go with your intuition. Your gut reaction is usually correct.

    As for myself, I decided within the last year to say "Goodbye Yellow Brick Road".
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    Sep 26, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    A varied mix of both... depending on the circumstances and the amount of illogical variables present. My goal isn't a perfect 50/50, but certain an ideal 55 or 60/45 or 40 of either, or.
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    JR_RJ saidA varied mix of both... depending on the circumstances and the amount of illogical variables present. My goal isn't a perfect 50/50, but certain an ideal 55 or 60/45 or 40 of either, or.


    Ding ding.

    What do you do when betrayal sets your head spinning and breaks your heart.

    What if the relationship was abusive but one you loved because you were born into it. Since you were a babe it was imprinted upon your mind and emblazoned upon your heart.

    The mind hates what the heart loves. One a liar, the other mistaken.

    Sometimes love is an idiot. Sometimes the cold facts outweigh the heavy heart.

    Not all of life is happy when it is just and right. Sometimes a broken heart can set you free. They call that dignity. It hurts.

    Because sometimes that feeling in your gut is nothing but indigestion.

    Your mind propels what your heart guides and your heart moves what your mind defines. When you think either serves just one function you're bound to go off course.

    Stay the course. Integrate your mind with your heart. Be of one body. That is where your power lies.

    When swimming, each arm is responsible for both forward motion and for direction. If you'd only use one for one and the other for the other you'd be following your feet, faster and faster, swimming in a whirlpool going nowhere but down.
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI think it's imperative for many to follow their heart. It sounds like a cheesy, expression but the heart is where your true identity lies. If you honor that part of yourself things tend to fall into place.

    I've tried doing things that I thought were expected of me and I never really accomplished much. But when I do the things I love I tend to easily go above and beyond the call of duty and not many others can match my productivity.

    For me, I have to follow my heart and intuition/gut. I can't be a corporate person. It looks good on the surface and there seems to be more financial security or it may appear to be that way. And what's the point of making good money if I'm miserable all day doing things I can't stand? That's a definite recipe for failure in either the short, intermediate or long run for me. My body responds acutely to external stimuli. Just as I mentioned above, put me to work with something I love doing and I excel tremendously. But put me to work with something I hate and I experience ongoing physical illness and literally shut down on all levels gradually.


    intuition wins.
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    Follow your head.
    Gut instinct is always better both in business and love. You need to be smart first. The heart feelings will come when the time is right.

    Priorities should be education, job, financial stability/comfort, then the heart. Dated too many poor guys. It's always some drama with them. Get your own house in order, then follow the heart.

    Tristan
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    I'm a being who balances the two. There are times when I can only use my practical faculties to find the answers I need to in life. But when that rope runs out and it comes to making a decision (e.g. coming out, going for Job A or Job B, career choice) I go with my heart/intuition.

    I know that I am making the best possible decision given that point in my life so I take on the decision suffering no fools and no regrets. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:54 PM GMT
    How do you know you can always trust your heart..!!???
    ... I truly believe some of CaNnOT always trust our hearts.... icon_neutral.gif

    If i had went with probability,logic or just a firm dose of reality..i could have saved myself a few "Stormy Years"..either way lessons well learned..
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    You have to have both. Intuition gives you the destination, but intellect gets you there.
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    Sep 26, 2012 6:59 PM GMT


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    Sep 26, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    I used to think that I was all Mr. Logical and followed logic and reason, but as I've gotten older, I realized that I have and will always follow my heart, which causes problems for me all of the time.

    I would like to think that I'm cerebral, but honestly, I'm all emotional. Like David Hume argued, “Reason is, and ought only to be the slave of the passions, and can never pretend to any other office than to serve and obey them."
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    Sep 26, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidHow do you know you can always trust your heart..!!???
    ... I truly believe some of CaNnOT always trust our hearts.... icon_neutral.gif

    If i had went with probability,logic or just a firm dose of reality..i could have saved myself a few "Stormy Years"..either way lessons well learned..


    "How can you always trust your heart?"

    Well, it comes down to several things. Here are some of them:

    1) Do you really know what's going to happen for sure after consulting all your resources logically? If not, then you have to go with your heart.

    2) Are you trying to control the situation or are you making a decision? If so, you go with your heart.

    3) Will you observe patience and mercy for yourself even if things don't always go or happen your way? If so, you're going with your heart.

    Because in each of these three scenarios, you're having to take a Leap of Faith. You can't always expect to know how everything goes. Also, what "is best" or not is relative to each person too. Your intuition and "gut" feeling is 96% on the mark-- according to my psych professor. Your body knows even before you're able to check every nook and cranny. I think your mind makes you more prepared but your heart is the engine that drives you forward, even when you're operating in pure darkness.

    Lessons are necessarily for your life and your growth. Never forget that. If you cower and hide behind your logic, you're really missing out on the human experience. It's meant to be messy and at times disastrous but that's how we learn from our experiences. I think it's good to take your lessons and experiences of life and share them with others. icon_smile.gif

    Which, you specifically already do Alvy. ;D
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    Sep 26, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    I like to have evurrything <3

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    Sep 26, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
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    So what you're saying is..I should have joined the Circus? icon_razz.gif

    Well you hit the nail on the head..When you start your own private practice..i'm coming to visit..!!.. I wan't a freebee...

    And then ...we can talk about my problems.. icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 26, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    It's not so much about listening to your head or listening to your heart it's a matter of taking both points into consideration. Thinking doesn't have to be either emotional or practical.

    In your first example of the career you may take the more practical to get experience but you use that opportunity to launch you into something that affords you the chance to move to something that you have more of a creative voice in. If you follow only "your head" and you stay stuck in something high paying but you lack interest in then you can count on a lot of disappointment when looking back. By all means do what you have to do to pay the rent but it shouldn’t park you into something that you only feel “in your head” for the rest of your life.

    When it comes to a relationship the advice I find that works the best is completely different because another person is involved. Find someone who doesn’t make your head or heart doubt. When it comes to finding the person who is going to be the closest person to you in your life be as picky as you need to be.
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    Sep 26, 2012 7:47 PM GMT
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    JR_RJ saidA varied mix of both... depending on the circumstances and the amount of illogical variables present. My goal isn't a perfect 50/50, but certain an ideal 55 or 60/45 or 40 of either, or.


    Ding ding.

    What do you do when betrayal sets your head spinning and breaks your heart.

    What if the relationship was abusive but one you loved because you were born into it. Since you were a babe it was imprinted upon your mind and emblazoned upon your heart.

    The mind hates what the heart loves. One a liar, the other mistaken.

    Sometimes love is an idiot. Sometimes the cold facts outweigh the heavy heart.

    Not all of life is happy when it is just and right. Sometimes a broken heart can set you free. They call that dignity. It hurts.

    Because sometimes that feeling in your gut is nothing but indigestion.

    You mind propels what your heart guides and your heart moves what your mind defines. When you think either serves just one function you're bound to go off course.

    Stay the course. Integrate your mind with your heart. Be of one body. That is where your power lies.

    When swimming, each arm is responsible for both forward motion and for direction. If you'd only use one for one and the other for the other you'd be following your feet, faster and faster, swimming in a whirlpool going nowhere but down.


    Thank you both very very much for these reminders.

    -us
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    Sep 26, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    meninlove said Thanks you both very very much for these reminders.

    -us

    You're guys are welcome... my brain feels like soup today, and can barely form a thought... so, I just finished some brain game training on lumosity.com and apparently my skills got better, icon_confused.gif. Complete lost as to the disconnect between what I think I'm capable of, and what I'm actually capable of. icon_neutral.gif
    I need a mini private cheering section to be pat my back and give me a kiss on a job well done... dang it. icon_redface.gif