Older Men Vs. Younger

  • Fact

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    Sep 27, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    Why does it seem that in most cases the older men that i meet are complete whores and seem to have no interest in being in a relationship and the younger men i meet seem to have all the interest and the ones in the middle seem to be just that in the middle in limbo of being a slut but wanting a relationship do gay men age backwards mentally..

    im one to say im attracted to alot of different types of people but older men do have a special place in my eye. but i dont hook up and thats all they want to do.

    i meet many of them that claim they want one thing but then are looking for the next best..

    I.E i was talking to a guy lets say Darian. we had this great conversation he was handsome and i told him how i've been celibate for almost 3 years because i've been single for that long and he made it seem like he was so into that and told me its been a year for him then asked.. "what would you think if i told you, i was in a 4 some 5 years ago" i was like, " thats the past as long as its not while your 'getting to know' me" his response completely threw me, "if i was getting to know you and i mean it wouldnt be that serious and if the opportunity came up again and excited me i would jump at it"

    why cant you feel that way about a relationship and this guy is 48 i jst dont understand im 24 ready to settle down i've been through alot of things that made me grow up before i was ready coming out at 13 losing my grandfather grandmother and father all within 6 years takes a tole on you and teaches you that being alone through the hard times suck and i dont like being alone. as much as it may sound im complaining about being single i have no problem being single.

    i just want to know why older men seem to be soo backwards from what straight older men are.

    thoughts??
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    Sep 27, 2012 12:30 AM GMT

    I understand. Couple weeks ago I went on a date with a Doctor, well he wasn't really a Doctor but a Dentist. He was so Handsome, Seductive, Charming, Intelligent, just so many qualities I look for in a guy.

    I was looking for love, shared my thoughts & he basically said, "When I was your age, I wanted the same thing..but now I don't need love from anyone but myself. When you get to be my age you'll realize it's not the reality" (He was only 32 btw).

    Anyway long story short, he just wanted sex . Of course I didn't give it, but it's almost distressing in a way to find this hot, intelligent, "mature" guy yet all he wants is sex.

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    Sep 27, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    You guys, lol.

    Don't judge all by your experiences with some. icon_wink.gif

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    Sep 27, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    I don't know if its 100% true that older men are sluts, while younger men are into relationships. Usually its the oppositeicon_eek.gif (I don't know that for sure, just saying that's the stereotype)
    But I hear ya. I too grew up very quickly. I admit to constantly stuggling with being "aroused" more than I wish I was, but I don't want to go out and have sex with every gay guy I see, I would prefer to be in a relationship, where the sex matters. (At least more than hook-ups) When I see myself in five years, I hope it is with a guy that feels the same way about me that I feel about him, not hooking up with any hot gay guy in my sights.

    The only explanation i could give is that people stick to their own age group when it comes to relationships. He may just see you as a kid looking for sex. And he may think all young guys are the same. (Sluts being young and slutty) I don't think this applies to everyone, but I notice alot of people prefer people their own age. They are put off by the idea of dating someone so much younger or older than themself.

    Have you tried dating people around your age? Maybe its better than you though.

    I wouldn't worry about you though, with your looks your gonna find someone eventually.
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    Sep 27, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNews Flash... Sluts are Sluts at any age. Guys like the OP range from 18 to 80. I have friends in both camps who are younger and older.
    BTW, Guys don't grow into Sluts as they age and young sluts rarely turn a new leaf.
    Either you're the GrindR' type or you're not.
    Just sayin'


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    Sep 27, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    meninlove said You guys, lol.

    Don't judge all by your experiences with some. icon_wink.gif

    warmly,

    -Doug of meninlove


    This exactly. It may seem like that with most you meet, but that's simply generalizing and does not always apply to the majority. My guess is you're simply dealing with the minority.
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    Sep 27, 2012 1:58 AM GMT
    Ugh I know. I hate it when I date younger guys and they're all like "lets hook up babe" Then I start thinking "great, young guys are LTR oriented so this guy clearly lies about his age, god damn lying dinosaur icon_evil.gif". Then when I get the slut syndrome (you know how us guys in the middle are, slut sometimes and LTR other times icon_rolleyes.gif ) and I find a nice older slut he starts giving me this line of "lets meet for lunch". Great another lying twink who pretends he's in his 40's icon_rolleyes.gif "I came here to fuck, act your age damnit! icon_mad.gif"

  • Vaughn

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    Sep 27, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    This thread makes me feel oddly demoralized.
  • Vaughn

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    Sep 27, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    Oh yeah, there's probably a reason for them being single when you meet single older guys. Not that everyone has the same goals but a single 30 something is a lot more likely to not be able to maintain a relationship. Let's be real here, the time comes in everyman's life when he is too haggard to find young boys on Adam4.
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    Sep 27, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    I'm a little bit saddened to hear that this has been your experience, although I wouldn't let it make you become so cynical. You're far too young to be cynical. Yes, you will have some bad experiences along the way, but those experiences happen so that you'll be more keenly aware of who to trust and who to avoid in the future.

    Men, gay men and straight men, and people in general, come in all stripes. You must use your discernment to avoid the losers and gravitate towards those who share your values.
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    Sep 27, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNews Flash... Sluts are Sluts at any age. Guys like the OP range from 18 to 80. I have friends in both camps who are younger and older.
    BTW, Guys don't grow into Sluts as they age and young sluts rarely turn a new leaf.
    Either you're the GrindR' type or you're not.
    Just sayin'


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    Sep 27, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    Why don't younger guys use punctuation? Is it because they're all too busy thinking about being in a relationship?
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    Sep 27, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidWhy don't younger guys use punctuation? Is it because they're all too busy thinking about being in a relationship?

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    Sep 27, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    You seem to be frustrated by bad experiences, but don't generalize.

    Take this website for example. There are so many single men on here who seek something more substantial, just like you. There is also plenty of men who are in committed, meaningful, long term relationship. Some are even married.

    And they all in different age groups. So lighten up, weed out the ones you don't like until you find a man who has same set of values as you.
  • TheBizMan

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    Sep 27, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Didn't you message me once proclaiming you were my boyfriend.

    You know I wouldn't mind that...

    Just sayin.

    Balls' in your court.

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    Sep 27, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    OP is just frustrated...
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    Sep 27, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    Fact saidWhy does it seem that in most cases the older men that i meet are complete whores and seem to have no interest in being in a relationship and the younger men i meet seem to have all the interest and the ones in the middle seem to be just that in the middle in limbo of being a slut but wanting a relationship do gay men age backwards mentally..

    ....

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    I'm older and everything you described is so not me (hint, hint icon_lol.gif )... maybe you are dealing with late bloomer (guys that came out later in life.) The right guy is out there for you and the one that lands you is going to be one lucky guy.
  • whytehot

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    Sep 27, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    The reason why many older men are whores is because the more years they've repressed their sexuality, the more prolonged their slut phase when they finally live the gay "lifestyle"
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    Sep 27, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    I always figured that most older men just want sex from older men and vice versa. That's why, if I do date, I'd rather it be with someone my own age range.
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    Sep 27, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidWhy don't younger guys use punctuation? Is it because they're all too busy thinking about being in a relationship?




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    Sep 27, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    I think maybe the problem is your looking at guys way older than you and there is a reason on why guys who are 40 something are still single. I think you need to lower your age maybe like mid 30s..

    Off topic...I live near you in Georgia lol. I live in Marietta near the square...just random observation
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    Sep 27, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    at least you can find someone to go out on a date with!

    I can find a f*ck... can't find a date...
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    Sep 27, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    RadRTT saidI think maybe the problem is your looking at guys way older than you and there is a reason on why guys who are 40 something are still single. I think you need to lower your age maybe like mid 30s..

    Off topic...I live near you in Georgia lol. I live in Marietta near the square...just random observation


    If you don't live in Buckhead you're not worth it. icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Sep 27, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    RadRTT saidI think maybe the problem is your looking at guys way older than you and there is a reason on why guys who are 40 something are still single. I think you need to lower your age maybe like mid 30s..

    Off topic...I live near you in Georgia lol. I live in Marietta near the square...just random observation


    If you don't live in Buckhead you're not worth it. icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Sep 27, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    RadRTT saidI think maybe the problem is your looking at guys way older than you and there is a reason on why guys who are 40 something are still single. I think you need to lower your age maybe like mid 30s..

    Off topic...I live near you in Georgia lol. I live in Marietta near the square...just random observation


    If you don't live in Buckhead you're not worth it. icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Really, I almost got an apartment there...does that count...I lived in Boston for so long...I decided to live in a Suburb