Do un-closeted guys find it difficult to maintain friendships with closeted guys? And vice-versa?

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    Sep 27, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
    I'm a keen observer and have begun noticing HUGE differences between personality types of closeted people and uncloseted people, so I was curious to see what other people's experiences were like in this topic. What's been your experience with the elusive closeted type? What's a person in the closet's experience been relating to other gay men?

    I'm fascinated to hear from both sides and to open a good, healthy learning dialogue. Please, no accusatory negative language, keep it clean and open, this is about promoting understanding, tolerance, and open-mindedness.
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    Sep 27, 2012 9:18 PM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidI'm a keen observer and have begun noticing HUGE differences between personality types of closeted people and uncloseted people, so I was curious to see what other people's experiences were like in this topic. What's been your experience with the elusive closeted type? What's a person in the closet's experience been relating to other gay men?

    I'm fascinated to hear from both sides and to open a good, healthy learning dialogue. Please, no accusatory negative language, keep it clean and open, this is about promoting understanding, tolerance, and open-mindedness.


    In that case, no comment.icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 27, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    Please, no accusatory negative language, keep it clean and open, this is about promoting understanding, tolerance, and open-mindedness.

    I hate when assholes with a keyboard think that just because they post something they get to control the language and the message. Typical bossy bottom queen, probably deep in a closet somewhere. Oh well, what was the question again?
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Sep 27, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    Friendships aren't a big deal at all. The only way a closeted guy could strain our friendship is if he used anti-gay slurs or acted "above" gays with his other friends. Then I'd smack him upside the head. I have a few closeted friends, but they don't know I know about them, so sometimes I just kind of snicker to myself about things they say in public.

    Relationships, on the other hand, I'd rather not deal with.
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    Sep 27, 2012 9:34 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidPlease, no accusatory negative language, keep it clean and open, this is about promoting understanding, tolerance, and open-mindedness.

    I hate when assholes with a keyboard think that just because they post something they get to control the language and the message. Typical bossy bottom queen, probably deep in a closet somewhere. Oh well, what was the question again?


    I have never seen you post anything that isn't just plain nasty.

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    Sep 27, 2012 10:22 PM GMT
    It is not impossible to have a friendship with a closeted person, but it does make things more difficult- where you can be seen and how you must act and what you can say out in public.

    It's kind of like trying to find a decent restaurant that will please everyone when one person in the group is a vegan.
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    Sep 27, 2012 10:22 PM GMT
    I have had 1 or 2 closeted friends..I try to avoid sexual issues unless they bring it up..Good friends are good friends..regardless of sexuality..