Huge "little" problem ...

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    Sep 28, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    Well my boyfriend and I have been talking for about a week now and have decided to sex sometime in the near future. This isn't the problem though. What the problem is, is that every time the thought of us having sex is brought up his envious thoughts and depression kick in. The reason why he gets envious is that I have a larger penis then he does. His being smaller then mine. So anyway every time we talk about sex he falls into a depression and then starts stating how I'm all lucky and how he hates himself. I have no problem with either large or small penises because I go by love for the person I'm with not penis size. But I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how I could help him stop thinking negatively about himself as well as make him realize there is more to sex then just a penis size?
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    Sooooo...he has a 2 inch penis????
  • Webster666

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    Sep 28, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    Stop talking about it, and start doing it.
    You've got the perfect attitude to help him overcome his concern about size.
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    Try the Yohimbe Bark icon_lol.gif

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    Sep 28, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    If size doesn't matter to you, why does it matter to him when it comes to you? Perhaps he feels like he's somehow lacking in the relationship. Help him to realize that is not the case and everything will flow out, gravy. icon_cool.gif

    Mmm.. gravy. icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    ParadiseLost saidIf size doesn't matter to you, why does it matter to him when it comes to you? Perhaps he feels like he's somehow lacking in the relationship. Help him to realize that is not the case and everything will flow out, gravy. icon_cool.gif

    Mmm.. gravy. icon_twisted.gif

    ive been trying to make him realize but it just doesnt seem to get through to him.
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    Just continue to praise him and reassure him, letting him know he is a beautiful person and you find him sexy. And then have sex. When he sees you enjoying it, it will take away his anxiety. He's got to know that if it mattered that much to you, you would have gone already.




    (Dang, it was so difficult to be good and not insert a little joke in there!)
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    2 inch penis? I'm sure everyone's gonna ask the same thing, but are you being serious or joking? You measured it yourself and everything?

    Sorry had to get that out .... moving on ....

    Tell him that you love him for who he is and that you accept him for all he is and isn't. He obviously has self-esteem issues, just compliment him when you can and support him. Focus the on the intimacy and kissing and tell him thats what you love most, not the sex. You could also let him top you and tell him how good it is. Most times its not about size but how you use it.
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    I can tell you, he must feel really down on himself. Just compliment him on it during sex, you know moan some dirty stuff that bigs up his little guy, as well as let him know how great it was with him. Make him feel big even though he isn't.
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    IanJar saidTry the Yohimbe Bark icon_lol.gif


    Be careful with that ... start with just very small amounts ... it is poisonous and too much can kill you
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    you make appointments for sex? there's no spontaneity?
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidYou could also let him top you and tell him how good it is. Most times its not about size but how you use it.



    Ummmm, dude.....do you happen to have a ruler around your house? How about a business card? Two inches is the width of the shortest part of a business card. What do you expect him to fuck with that? A wrinkle?
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    I think it also has to do with his body size as well hes 6' and is big he is a bearish man after all so I think it depresses him that he is a big guy everywhere else except in that one spot.
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    IanJar saidTry the Yohimbe Bark icon_lol.gif


    Be careful with that ... start with just very small amounts ... it is poisonous and too much can kill you


    I've never used it.

    Too much of anything outside the recommended amount can kill you.
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    Sep 28, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    FlawedAmigo saidI think it also has to do with his body size as well hes 6' and is big he is a bearish man after all so I think it depresses him that he is a big guy everywhere else except in that one spot.



    Has he considered surgery?
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:04 AM GMT

    This song sorta describes how I feel when he falls into depression which seems to be something new everyday.
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    You should get a sex change, if you had a vagina that would surely bring up his self esteem

    /troll face icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    Claystation saidYou should get a sex change, if you had a vagina that would surely bring up his self esteem

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    But hes a bottom so I think that would make things worse.
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    FlawedAmigo saidBut hes a bottom so I think that would make things worse.


    If hes a bottom then why is he worried about peen size if you are pounding the hell out of him icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    Claystation said
    FlawedAmigo saidBut hes a bottom so I think that would make things worse.


    If hes a bottom then why is he worried about peen size if you are pounding the hell out of him icon_confused.gif

    I have no clue as to why he is the way he is...
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    FlawedAmigo said
    I have no clue as to why he is the way he is...


    Next time he gets all insecure just dick slap him, it might help icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidyou make appointments for sex? there's no spontaneity?


    Exactly. Especially here because when you ask the question...

    FlawedAmigo saidhow I could help him stop thinking negatively about himself


    ...the answer is simple: Just stop giving him so much time to think.
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidIf we're still talking about this guy, whose pic you posted in another thread:

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    ...then two things:

    1) he's not a bear. Granted, we always look for the best in our partners, and try to tune them up, but honestly....this is beyond bear.

    2) if it's that guy (and this whole thing isn't trolling on your part), then if he's showing 2" now, if he loses some of that gut, he'll easily be 4 or 5". As well, less weight will positively impact his libido, quality of erection, and stamina --all good things.

    Bottom line...if this guy is real, and this whole thing isn't trolling, which I'm inclined to think it is, if you love him and he loves you, then it's time to be looking at fitness. Not fitness to the point of getting "a bug's stomach", as you put it in your other thread, but fitness so you can do things together....without a stroller or other specialized equipment. icon_redface.gif

    You're too young to be rolling your partner over so his bed sores get a chance to "breathe". icon_neutral.gif

    Well I'm not trolling and also maybe I like bigger guys and yes I do love him to an extent mainly because it hasnt been that long since we have gotten together and will need a little bit more time for that love to grow.
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    He's obviously had an issue with this his entire life. And it probably will always be a problem. And nothing you can say will change that. And you can never really know how something like this feels til you are in his shoes. All you can do is show him how much you love him and if you're kissing him and he starts to bring this up, just put your hand on his mouth and gently tell him to shush. Then proceed to ravage him, caressing, kissing and whatever else his manhood. If you really have no problem with it, then you won't have any problem with this.
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    Sep 28, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    Oh the convo we are having now is very depressing basically he said he doesnt see how I like him because ..this is what he said "i'm dumb, you're sharp, i'm fat, you're thin, you're hot, i'm not.' and "oh yeah it's hard to describe it
    you're a 10 and i'm a 4". tstuff like this makes me want to cry it really does. icon_cry.gif