Sep 30, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
I am posting on this website for the first time, I am attracted to my roommate's friend and I think he is gay, I am not out to my roommate and not to his friend. My roommate (who I dont find attractive at all) became friends with this guy Sam like 6-8 months ago, I had seen Sam at the gym before my roommate became friends with him, one day my roommate came home with Sam and introduced me to him and Sam said that he had seen me at the gym and that I have a nice body (I dont, I am ok), he is from India and in India it's not uncommon for men (includes straight men) to appreciate each other's look, clothes, body etc. Anyways my gaydar has always been very good and I dont remember anytime when my gaydar has failed me. Sam is kind of a gym bunny, he goes to the gym everyday, he hasnt had one stable girlfriend and he is always talking about girls but to me the way he talks about girls seems odd, he keeps changing girlfriends but the important thing is that he hasnt slept with any of them, forget about sleeping he hasnt even had a good make out session with any of them, any girl he sees he says "hot chick" and I find it excessive to an extent that he is using it as a defense mechanism, he is a huge fan of comic books, green lantern is his favorite and next favorite is batman, he loves these superhero movies and often talks about bodies of male stars in these movies about how they worked out and what was their diet etc., one time I was home watching Thor and he came to my room with my roommate and said Chris Hemsworth has a really good body and actually as I was forwarding the movie he asked me to stop at the point where Hemsworth is shirtless in black jeans and then Sam said he has a really awesome body. when my roommate is around we are normal but when my roommate goes to the bathroom or to the kitchen and it's just Sam and me together there is always some awkwardness between us and he avoids making eye contact, he is not too much into sports but loves bodybuilding. So one day he had locked himself out of his apartment and called my roommate if he could sleep in our house as it was late and he couldnt reach his realtor, so he slept in my room because i have a huge queen size bunk bed in my room, the next day I said to him that I would like to see your apartment, to which my roommate said why? I just said that I want to see how apartments are in that area etc., anyways even though there has always been some awkwardness between me and him, as he was leaving my apartment he came to my room and said he is going home and if I would like to come with him as I wanted to see the apartment, (as I am writing all this I am getting a feeling that he might read all this, and I dont know if that's a good thing or a bad thing) anyways, I said yes to going with him to see his apartment, anyways one more thing about him, he has a ton of shoes (just like me) and likes to wear those muscle t-shirts that show his awesome upper body. So then we were at his apartment, it was awkward in the beginning but then slowly awkwardness went away, he has a lot of books and movie dvds so I started to talk about them just to have some conversation, he gave him his batman comics and I asked for his fight club movie dvd, he said fight club is one of his favorite movies, anyways we came back to my apartment because he was on his way to the gym and gym is closer to my apartment, he asked me what am i going to do at night, it was 7pm then, I said I will watch the movie, he said we can watch it together when he comes back from the gym, I said ok. In the meantime my roommate made plans to go out for the night and eat out and have fun, so he asked me if I would like to come as well, I said no, he then asked Sam also but Sam also said no because he wants to watch the movie with me. anyways so we watched the movie, and we were talking and i asked him if he knows about the book on which fight club is based, he said he knows there is a book but doesnt know about it, i said it's written by a gay guy, he asked me how did i know that, i said my gay friend's boyfriend told me, he didnt seem surprised or bothered by that at all. anyways it was getting late and then he left normally saying good night with a smile. one thing i missed is when i was at his apartment i asked about another movie in his collection, he said it stars Channing tatum, I asked "the notebook" guy he said no, he is in this recent movie about male strippers.
So anyways a week passed, and then he texted me how many kids do i want, i said none because i am never getting married, he then wrote me these texts saying "every guy should experience female body, it's the best feeling etc, everyguy should marry a female have a soulmate blah blah", and he also said that "i dont want you to be alone, I want you to experience with a girl", at that point I was like enough, and I wrote normal stuff in response that "I wont be alone, I will be fine, I have a ton of friends etc., and you should definitely get married if you feel so strongly about it", anyways sometime passed and then I get another text from him saying "i dont want to get married, but i want female company constantly", I was like half an hour ago he gave me a lecture on why every man needs to marry a woman and now he himself doesnt want to marry, anyways I decided to let it go, he always talks about girls but none of the girls stick with him for more than a week and none of them had sex with him, and so far there have been only 2-3 such girls in past 6-7 months who went out with him for a week. For me the chapter was closed, and from my side I think I had given enough signal that I am not into girls besides I never talk about girls. I concluded that I dont know what he wants, but he wants me to know that he likes girls. Anyways two weeks passed again and two nights ago at 1 am I get a text message from him saying "I like you too", I saw the message next morning because I was sleeping at 1 am, I was like where is this "too" coming from? because I never said to him I like you, and then my roomate told me that Sam was very drunk last night and he came to our apartment and he really wanted to talk to you, the same time my roommate got a call from Sam that he has a hangover and he doesnt remember anything that happened last night.
Thanks for reading this guys. I want your opinion. Is he gay?
So anyways a week passed, and then he texted me how many kids do i want, i said none because i am never getting married, he then wrote me these texts saying "every guy should experience female body, it's the best feeling etc, everyguy should marry a female have a soulmate blah blah", and he also said that "i dont want you to be alone, I want you to experience with a girl", at that point I was like enough, and I wrote normal stuff in response that "I wont be alone, I will be fine, I have a ton of friends etc., and you should definitely get married if you feel so strongly about it", anyways sometime passed and then I get another text from him saying "i dont want to get married, but i want female company constantly", I was like half an hour ago he gave me a lecture on why every man needs to marry a woman and now he himself doesnt want to marry, anyways I decided to let it go, he always talks about girls but none of the girls stick with him for more than a week and none of them had sex with him, and so far there have been only 2-3 such girls in past 6-7 months who went out with him for a week. For me the chapter was closed, and from my side I think I had given enough signal that I am not into girls besides I never talk about girls. I concluded that I dont know what he wants, but he wants me to know that he likes girls. Anyways two weeks passed again and two nights ago at 1 am I get a text message from him saying "I like you too", I saw the message next morning because I was sleeping at 1 am, I was like where is this "too" coming from? because I never said to him I like you, and then my roomate told me that Sam was very drunk last night and he came to our apartment and he really wanted to talk to you, the same time my roommate got a call from Sam that he has a hangover and he doesnt remember anything that happened last night.
Thanks for reading this guys. I want your opinion. Is he gay?
