How important does Socio-Economic status weigh when you're starting a new relationship/date.

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    Oct 01, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    So my friend recently just got back into the single scene, he joined Match.com and on the right hand side column, it asks *your ideal mate income. He puts down over like 80K and above, hm, we spoke about this and he mentioned that he want to date *successful* financially stable men, more power to him. I remembered years ago when I was on Match, I put down about over 40K above? but since then, my feelings on this issue changed a lot. I guess I wouldn't mind dating a broke/poor/starving waiter type of guy if he's working toward something bigger and better. I mean, most of us are not born into wealth, many gay guys work their way up from the bottom ground up.

    I mean, I'm kind of neutral and indifference on this because I dated poor and rich guys both before and they both have different drama/issues. Nobody is perfect. What about you guys? Would you date a poor/broke guy or just exclusively wealthy loaded men? Discuss and/or share any past experiences relating to this.
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    Oct 01, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    I'll date anyone that can support himself...
    I say combining two incomes should lighten the financial load..
    When you have one taking away from the other..that creates problems..

    ..I dated a very wealthy guy very briefly and he tried to spoil me ..it made me uncomfortable.. icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 01, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidI'll date anyone that can support himself...
    I say combining two incomes should lighten the financial load..
    When you have one taking away from the other..that creates problems..

    ..I dated a very wealthy guy very briefly and he tried to spoil me ..it made me uncomfortable.. icon_cry.gif


    Generally agree here. Also had odd/similar experiences. Being "spoiled" by someone who can comfortably afford it can be fun/nice... but I NEVER want to feel like someone OWNS me somehow. That makes me very uncomfortable. I think it would depend on the person.
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    I have had rich Husbands. I have had rich Boyfriends. I have been broke. I have been rich. I have had broke Dudes who became rich while We were together.

    Rich is more fun.

    Not always better.

    Look into His eyes when you are tired and He is in a bad mood and everything just sux. If You feel better in that very moment...than You are truly Wealthy.

    TRUST Me...it's better than bank accounts.

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  • DR2K

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    Oct 01, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    The richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif


    lol how so, care to elaborate? icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif


    False.

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  • DR2K

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    Oct 01, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    xsocalguy8x said
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif


    lol how so, care to elaborate? icon_lol.gif


    They're usually older so the engine takes a while to get started. . . when it does it doesn't go vroom vroom like I want it to.

    Cash said
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif


    False.

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    It's a rule for me unfortunately. icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    The point is kind of half moot. You can make all the lists you want of what you're looking for and how he needs to be/look like/have etc. When it comes times to real world actual relationships there's an entire clusterfuck of factors that play into a couple successfully embarking on a reltionship, half of that clusterfuck being if they even like you, regardless of any high and mighty list you make of what HE has to be.
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    DR2K said
    xsocalguy8x said
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif


    lol how so, care to elaborate? icon_lol.gif


    They're usually older so the engine takes a while to get started. . . when it does it doesn't go vroom vroom like I want it to.

    Cash said
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif


    False.

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    It's a rule for me unfortunately. icon_sad.gif


    That may have moar to do with YOU than than him...

    nuff said???



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    Oct 01, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Not true....lol..How did you come up with this theory..
  • DR2K

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    Oct 01, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    [quote]

    That may have moar to do with YOU than than him...

    nuff said???
    [/quote]

    Well yeah erectile dysfunction is an internal thing.
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    Wow, stereotypes and generalizations on classes of people some of these guys don't even know... think I hear a defense mechanism with a wrench lodged in the gear shaft. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I've got similar experience to Cash, but with noone with less guys Lots of money, but certainly well off and beyond financially stable. Just after being homeless no less... culture shock: icon_eek.gif ....anyway, date guys cause you genuinely get along with one another, not cause he's trophy, going to make you more popular, not cause he's got money, or even cause you love him. Even love can lead you down a one-way relationship... don't do that to yourself. The most important thing is your connection with each other. If some of the proficient posters on this site would just shack up and get coupled, I'm sure they'd be a perfect example of how a good and healthy relationship is supposed to work for the rest of us still learning.
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidThe point is kind of half moot. You can make all the lists you want of what you're looking for and how he needs to be/look like/have etc. When it comes times to real world actual relationships there's an entire clusterfuck of factors that play into a couple successfully embarking on a reltionship, half of that clusterfuck being if they even like you, regardless of any high and mighty list you make of what HE has to be.


    I hear what you're saying bro ! but I mean there are guys who once they find out certain income you make after a few dates, either they run for the door or stick around ! It's hard to tell when you're seeing someone new. Right, I agreed, guys should like guys for who they are, not how much they make or have a list but unfortunately some guys will go after this one important factor like how much you make annually to determine even if you're worth their time!!!! icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    Anocxu said
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Not true....lol..How did you come up with this theory..


    It's mostly me being facetious. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    Many relationships have different income levels between the two involved, but most of those did not come about by the two having a criteria for what income level the other must have. And there is nothing wrong with that. They met and fell in love. If one is a complete deadbeat, that is usually discovered early on in the dating period and the relationship might not go anywhere. If you are going to have a criteria for what income level a potential mate must have, however, it is kind of disingenuous if you yourself cannot meet the criteria.
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    Oct 01, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    xsocalguy8x said
    Ariodante saidThe point is kind of half moot. You can make all the lists you want of what you're looking for and how he needs to be/look like/have etc. When it comes times to real world actual relationships there's an entire clusterfuck of factors that play into a couple successfully embarking on a reltionship, half of that clusterfuck being if they even like you, regardless of any high and mighty list you make of what HE has to be.


    I hear what you're saying bro ! but I mean there are guys who once they find out certain income you make after a few dates, either they run for the door or stick around ! It's hard to tell when you're seeing someone new. Right, I agreed, guys should like guys for who they are, not how much they make or have a list but unfortunately some guys will go after this one important factor like how much you make annually to determine even if you're worth their time!!!! icon_cool.gif


    Well if they're confident they're god's gift to the gay world that they can dispose of guys left and right and still have an overflowing resource of men just aching to be their one and only (and not just for a night in bed) then sure why not.

    But back on planet reality that's just a surefire way to die alone.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Oct 01, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    The money doesn't matter. I'm old so I know things, in most cultures. Maybe not this one. Go watch the gay movie Maurice, starring Hugh Grant in his first role. He turned out not to be the hottest guy in it.

    My ex was a young construction stud and I was on a much higher payscale. It didn't end because of money.
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 01, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    1). I'm open to ANY guy.

    2). But let's be honest, money is a definite plus. The only people who say money can't buy happiness are those that have never had it. True there are limits, but money eliminates the majority of problems most people have in their lives. As such, I would TRY to seek out a person who has slightly less money or substantially more money than me, and TRY to avoid impoverished or financially struggling guys. But when love strikes, it strikes.

    3). I tend to prefer guys who make 6 figures like myself because it is a PROXY for what I actually value: (1) a formal education, (2) a classy upbringing, and (3) a driven, professional individual. Since most guys who are formally educated, classy and a professional (lawyer/doctor/engineer) make a decent living, it's just a proxy for me. But I know there are those individuals who possess those qualities and make substantially less, especially in this recession aftermath. But it's still a great proxy.

    4). Bottom line: money ("socioeconomic status") is a large factor for me, ranking up there with age, attractiveness, intelligence, social "breeding," ability in bed, HIV negative status, kindness, and personality.

    How could a thinking, coherent, intelligent person not factor in the finances of the individual they're "sizing up" as a mate? Money shouldn't be determinative, but it is a factor.
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    Oct 01, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    Svnw688 said
    4). Bottom line: money ("socioeconomic status") is a large factor for me, ranking up there with age, attractiveness, intelligence, social "breeding," ability in bed, HIV negative status, kindness, and personality.


    And the award for the biggest troll line ever spouted goes to....!!
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    Oct 01, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif
    Then I should be a trillionaire.
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    Oct 01, 2012 7:24 AM GMT
    Anocxu said..I dated a very wealthy guy very briefly and he tried to spoil me ..it made me uncomfortable.. icon_cry.gif
    What's his name and number? It takes more than expensive gifts to make me feel uncomfortable. icon_cool.gif
  • DR2K

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    Oct 01, 2012 7:25 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    DR2K saidThe richer they are the worse in bed they are. icon_sad.gif
    Then I should be a trillionaire.


    I'm sorry man. . . I'm sure you're a great guy on the inside. icon_razz.gif
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 01, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidThe money doesn't matter. I'm old so I know things, in most cultures. Maybe not this one. Go watch the gay movie Maurice, starring Hugh Grant in his first role. He turned out not to be the hottest guy in it.

    My ex was a young construction stud and I was on a much higher payscale. It didn't end because of money.


    Not to argue, but you made an EMPIRICAL CLAIM and it is EMPIRICALLY FALSE. From an evolutionary standpoint, socioeconomic ($$$) status has played a VERY significant role, especially in females. In fact, in all 37 cultures studied in David Buss' 1980s groundbreaking research, EVERY culture valued financial status. http://jrscience.wcp.muohio.edu/humannature00/FinalArticles/WherestheMoneyHoney.TheSoA.html

    Not try to pick a fight, just sticking up for facts, science and objective truths (insofar that social science can provide statistically appreciable and consistent truths). Interpret them as you will.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Oct 01, 2012 7:30 AM GMT
    Troll? That's the equivalent, when being used by a gay guy, of being called a faggot by a blue jays player. Not only escobar needs sensetivety training.. Really. You're that hot that you can point the ugly finger?