how to cope...?

  • stratavos

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    Oct 01, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    so as many of you may have read earlier I put down my cat earlier this month. I'm ok about it as long as I don't have to see her in the freezer (we have not gotten to burying her yet and I honestly doubt that we'll get to that until the spring).

    I'll just list some of the other bad things that have happened this year so far:

    - during summer I had roughly a month's worth of time off, which kept me just out of range of paying for my tuition to renew my bank loan to stay in school this coming year

    -I've had mono for the last 2 months (if we include this one) so no kissing and sex is not as fun without kissing

    -I've just been informed that I have a tumor on my liver, and the doctor said no exercise more strenuous than jogging, so the gym membership I got with the city is useless, and most of the ways I relieve stress are thrown out the window (no skating, swimming or weightlifting, or cycling fast even, which also means no sex)

    -it's that time of year since I've been out of school for 5 months, that for next month I need to start paying my student loan, because interest will start accumulating on it (even if it's only $15000)

    -I cancelled my plan with solo mobile (since they've been absorbed into bell) and because I agreed to a verbal contract with them when it was the only phone I had.

    generally lots of money issues, with no way to pay them while taking others and my own health into account.


    Welfare here I come!
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    Oct 01, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    Wow man, that really sucks! I wish there was something I could say or do to make things better for you, but I can give you an e-hug.

    *hugs*
  • Syphon

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    Oct 01, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    You actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.
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    Oct 02, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.
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  • stratavos

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    Oct 02, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.


    it's the best way to preserve the body before burying it.
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    Oct 02, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Well, I know of one way to get at east one issue off your hands, literally. Bury the cat. Say your goodbyes and let that little fucker rest in peace. Plus it can't be too sanitary to keep a dead cat in the fridge, no?
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    Oct 02, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    stratavos said
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.


    it's the best way to preserve the body before burying it.


    When my sister murdered my dog with her car we just grabbed shovels and dug a hole and stuck him in the ground. Was that bad or something?
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    Oct 02, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    msuNtx said
    stratavos said
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.


    it's the best way to preserve the body before burying it.


    When my sister murdered my dog with her car we just grabbed shovels and dug a hole and stuck him in the ground. Was that bad or something?


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    Oct 02, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.


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    Oct 02, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    I know the feeling when it rains it pours.. I hope you get some help...I'm really sorry all of this is hitting at once.. i really hope you pull through..!!

    Hugz..
    Please bury that cat!
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    Oct 02, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
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    Oct 02, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Two things, sometimes the world us yelling at us and we are so bent of our own agenda, we pretend to be deaf. Bury the fucking cat. Holding onto its lifeless body is meaningless. You need to say goodbye, today.

    You mention sex a few too many times for my comfort in such a short post. Mono means no kissing, a damper on hot sex, a tumor means no hot sex, see a pattern? The world my friend is telling you to stop having hot sex for a few months and focus on something more important. Like, maybe that tumor?
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    Oct 02, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.


    what if the power goes out, and it defrosts.... euuuuu...
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    Oct 02, 2012 11:02 AM GMT
    -Fondling self-pity is not an effective coping mechanism. It's arrogant and egotistical. There's quite a few things you can change about your situation, but that is for you to uncover. Do something for someone else; it's the easiest way to leave our self-centered worlds.

    Life is time with a beginning and an end therefore it can never be random.
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    Oct 02, 2012 11:14 AM GMT
    Syphon saidYou actually keep your dead cat in the freezer? WTF.


    We did this too since they (yes plural) had to be put down in winter.
    Buck up guy.
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    It's my understanding that animal hospitals cremate the body after they put an animal to sleep....
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:44 PM GMT


    I am sorry to hear about your troubles. but there has been research done that shows a correlation between positive thoughts/feelings improving health vs depression causing ailing health. And the best way to start improving your mental health is to move one from the loss of your pet. do not wait for spring to bury him/her. you need to take it to a vet to have it safely cremated.


  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 10, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    Wow, certainly sorry to hear about all your issues, especially when you are 22 years old and for many, health issues aren't even on the horizon. Sounds like a tough time... if I were in your shoes, I would absolutely agree.

    What I would encourage you to do is to be deliberate, be positive and develop a way to move forward. I don't think you said how much support you have from friends and family, but if available, use them as a sounding board (not a whining board). Between work obligations, devise a plan to make this year a real time for growth for you. Don't make it into a "why does it happen to me" kind of thing. It happened, its reality... how are you going to move forward from it in the best way possible. Approach it responsibily and in a determined way.
    We're behind you.
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    IceBucket saidIt's my understanding that animal hospitals cremate the body after they put an animal to sleep....


    Only if you ask them to/pay for it.
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    Oct 12, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    as to the question of how:

    my year has sucked in that i've been pummeled on various fronts.

    my first outlet was/is the gym

    my second outlet is my art/craft hobbies

    my third outlet is photography

    i'm not a superb athlete or artisan. my photographic skills are mostly as an editor.

    this is where any advise i would be is: find the best part of the whatever is in your frame at the moment and crop down your POV as much as possible to focus on the positive. the negative is inevitable, but you don't have to let it in frame or to dominate the frame.

    whatever outlet you have that works for you is great. even if it's just making zen gardens out of baby powder. never explain. never apologize. to hell with anyone who wants to knock you down.
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    Oct 12, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
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    To answer the question:
    I'm going to be optimistic and make the assumption that the tumor is benign. In any event put your physical health first because without that you can't deal with the rest.

    I think it's best to bury the cat and get on with your life. It's sweet that your parents want to be there for a ceremony but having your cat in the house in the freezer sounds like it's doing too much harm than good. Do your own ceremony and then have one together when the parents come back.

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    I would agree with this. You have a lot going on, just take it one day at a time and try to do something good for yourself each day. I truly pray that all gets better for you...Big Hugz
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    Oct 12, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    Keep your head up man...its always darkest right before the dawn..I would have to agree with the majority of people saying bury your cat..then I would say focus on your health...money issues may be lingering in your mind but its just money a shadow of what is really important in this world..once your back on your feet emotionally and physically you can straighten the other shit out..try to stay positive because negative feelings(energies) can manifest into tangible problems...get well soon, good luck!