someone explain rules of attraction

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    Oct 02, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    why can't i find men, that want me, attractive? i only want what i can't have and i usually get bored after. I meet a lot of cute guys in person but i never find them attractive. Then ill meet a douchbag online who espressed some interest in sleeping with me, then ignores me, and i feel like im falling headsover heals for someone whos gonna treat me like shit. Its like the more they make me feel like im not worthy of them the more i want them to prove them wrong. wtf is wrong with me?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 02, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    eya ... I don't know ... that's messed up ... low self esteem I guess
  • Kriss

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    Oct 02, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    A fetish for attention perhaps? Bad-boy syndrome?
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    Oct 02, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saideya ... I don't know ... that's messed up ... low self esteem I guess


    that just made me sad, but i can't be the only one...seriously no one else does this?
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    Oct 02, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    stfuandkissme said
    AMoonHawk saideya ... I don't know ... that's messed up ... low self esteem I guess


    that just made me sad, but i can't be the only one...seriously no one else does this?


    oh hell no .. If some guy blows me off, fuck him .. or better yet, he can go fuck himself ... lame asses are abundant in life, don't waster your time on them
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 02, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Whore.
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    Oct 02, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]Whore.[/quote

    i feel bullied =(, but is that what what everyone else thinks too? that im a whore?
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    Oct 02, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
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    It's just one goddamned thing after another.
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    Oct 02, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    Unrealistic expectations. Too much porn and internet eye candy distorting your perception of real men.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 02, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    stfuandkissme said[quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]Whore.[/quote

    i feel bullied =(, but is that what what everyone else thinks too? that im a whore?


    I have no idea if you're a whore. You said you like when guys treat you like shit, and I was being glib.
  • Kriss

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    Oct 02, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    You are not a whore, you just need to sit back and evaluate whom you want to be with.

    The asshole that ignores you after he pounds you senseless

    or the man that will cuddle and potentially sex you into oblivion and emotionally support you?

    Then those options aside live life, and have fun but be safe!
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    Oct 02, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    I dunno. Have you thought about therapy? Just saying
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    maybe you are just asexual...learn to love yourself...because....i mean
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    These types of relationships are very common. between pimps and their whores.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    na I don't understand it.

    Cause I'm a nice guy despite how I might come across to people, If im interested in a guy I'm attentive and gentle and all those kinds of things. Alas I get over looked and they go for the bad boy kinda guys.

    But then they come back when I start acting like an arsehole to them..

    I don't get it.. WTF is with guys, they all go around saying "I want someone nice and loving and who wants me for me" No you don't you want a guy whos gonna treat you like shit, not give a damn and at the drop of a hat leave ya for something with a hotter arse then you.

    My brother always says "Treat'em mean, keep'em keen" Unfortunately it seems to work.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    stfuandkissme saidwhy can't i find men, that want me, attractive? i only want what i can't have and i usually get bored after. I meet a lot of cute guys in person but i never find them attractive. Then ill meet a douchbag online who espressed some interest in sleeping with me, then ignores me, and i feel like im falling headsover heals for someone whos gonna treat me like shit. Its like the more they make me feel like im not worthy of them the more i want them to prove them wrong. wtf is wrong with me?



    please no. pleeeassse no.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Sometimes the rules work, and sometimes they don't... we're all just trying to figure it out for ourselves, just like you.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
    i am sure you are a normal guy...but it seems your just at that stage in life where all you want to do is fuck..better yet you haven't figured out yet what you actually want.in terms of a man......its not you...its your young adolescent phase...Dont worry you will soon come out of it....hopefully.

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    Oct 02, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    stfuandkissme said Its like the more they make me feel like im not worthy of them the more i want them to prove them wrong. wtf is wrong with me?


    You sound like a masochist to me. If it helps your not unique in that respect, plenty of guys go through similar experiences especially at a younger age.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    stfuandkissme said[quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]Whore.[/quote

    i feel bullied =(, but is that what what everyone else thinks too? that im a whore?



    You'll have to excuse HottJoe. He's kind of a bully around here. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    JJWW saidThese types of relationships are very common. between pimps and their whores.


    rofl
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Oct 02, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    I promise I'm not trying to rag on you, but this just sounds like narcissism. It's all about you. It's not about finding someone special; it's about proving to yourself and everyone else that you can get whomever you want, but then once you have him, you have nothing left to prove and get bored. It's not about having someone special; it's about instant gratification.

    You appear incredibly hot in your pic, and you are probably used to attention. Fickleness is a product of self-centeredness, and it won't go away until you can freely put someone else's interests above your own.

    Again, not trying to put you down, but if you want an honest opinion, that's the impression I'm getting. There's only so much a post and a profile can say about a person.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    It's called the passion paradox. There have been many books written about this. In fact, I think that's the name of one of the books....The Passion Paradox. Humans like the hunt, and some of us enjoy the hunt more than the capture. What does your cat do when you stop dragging it's toy along the floor? It will get bored every time and stop chasing it. But there are ways to deal with this in a healthy way. A therapist might be a good place to start.
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    stfuandkissme said[quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]Whore.[/quote

    i feel bullied =(, but is that what what everyone else thinks too? that im a whore?



    You'll have to excuse HottJoe. He's kind of a bully around here. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I am?icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 02, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Scruffypup said
    stfuandkissme said[quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]Whore.[/quote

    i feel bullied =(, but is that what what everyone else thinks too? that im a whore?



    You'll have to excuse HottJoe. He's kind of a bully around here. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I am?icon_confused.gif


    No.