VIRGIN NEEDS HELP/SHOULD I DO IT WITH AN ESCORT ?

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    Oct 03, 2012 12:01 PM GMT
    Hi Guys =)

    I need some help and advice from the experienced members of this site.


    Over the period of the last year, I have become much more comfortable with my sexual identity and with who I am. I am a virgin (period, no sex, no kissing, nothing!) and I’m beginning to feel the need to develop my sexual life. In other words, I’m craving some serious dick action XD

    The problem is that I don’t feel that I want to have one-night stands with complete strangers. I don’t feel comfortable having sex with someone who I don’t know. Attractiveness doesn’t play much of an importance. I’d feel more at ease being with someone I know I can trust. Also, STI’s scare the living daylight out of me. It’s rather unlikely for someone to be 100% honest about their sexual status when they’re horny and want an easy lay.

    I’ve been considering having sex with an escort. The idea seems appealing because an escort is much more likely to want to listen and put your needs ahead of his. After all, it’s his job to do justice. It’s also safer and easier to request of an escort to show if they’re safe and STI free.

    I’d like to have sex because I feel ready for it and want to develop this part of my life/identity. Also, I think that men prefer if you have experience. I’d want my partner to be pleased sexually and I know that stamina and eagerness aren’t enough.

    Some guys like virgins; it can be a turn on for them. In an ideal world, I’d love nothing more than to find a guy who I can develop an emotional connection with, only to amplify that by having him devour me and allow me to please him to the point where he becomes addicted to my seductive nature.

    So, my question is; should I do it with an escort? Wait for a guy who will be willing to date/be with a virgin? Try to develop a few FWB? Any advice would be appreciated and thank you for taking the time to read all of this.

    -Alex
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    Oct 03, 2012 12:43 PM GMT
    Come On guys ! Seriously =(
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    Oct 03, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
    Give us a minute...
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    Oct 03, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    I'm leaning toward no. You value your virginity and the pending experience of your "first time," so don't cheapen it with a financial transaction where the meter's running. You don't want to be the guy who tells his dates, "I'm a complete virgin! Yeah, really! Well, except for that ONE time..."

    Also, just because you're paying an escort doesn't mean he knows what the heck he's doing or has any special tricks to share. It only means you're paying for an escort.

    Save some of your money and curl up with a good sex advice book instead. Plenty of good cheap paperbacks out there that could give you some fun, creative ideas for your unsuspecting first partner.

    There's no certainty an escort will help you build up your purported seductive nature. Instead, consult your friends (the ones you can touch, not the online ones) to help you with dating advice to zero in on that perfect partner for you.

    Then go meet somebody sweet, and get tested together.
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    Oct 03, 2012 2:02 PM GMT
    Seriously if your looking to just get your rocks off then go get grindr and find someone to bang, much cheaper and just as efficient.
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    Oct 03, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    bedtimestories saidThe problem is that I don’t feel that I want to have one-night stands with complete strangers. I don’t feel comfortable having sex with someone who I don’t know.
    ...
    I’d feel more at ease being with someone I know I can trust. Also, STI’s scare the living daylight out of me.

    I’ve been considering having sex with an escort.
    ...
    . After all, it’s his job to do justice. It’s also safer and easier to request of an escort to show if they’re safe and STI free.

    You arent making much sense. You dont want a one night stand with a complete stranger since you are not comfortable with him. Yet you are considering sex with an escort who is a complete stranger and who you will likely meet as a one night stand unless you have tons of money to see him over and over again.

    Any STI test is only a snapshot in time in the past. An escorts business/job involves having sex on a regular basis with strangers. Escort or not, no-one gets tested after each and every sexual encounter. Besides an escort is more likely to have more sexual encounters with multiple random guys than a random guy.

    You need to put some more thought into what you are thinking.
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    Oct 03, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    I just don't understand how it could be difficult to get laid, if that's what you're looking for. Sex is so easy to come by in the gay community--no pun intended.... Just go to a club and start dancing. That way you can at least mingle and talk to different people, instead of just having a stranger show up at your door.
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    Oct 03, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    dayumm saidI'm leaning toward no. You value your virginity and the pending experience of your "first time," so don't cheapen it with a financial transaction where the meter's running. You don't want to be the guy who tells his dates, "I'm a complete virgin! Yeah, really! Well, except for that ONE time..."

    Also, just because you're paying an escort doesn't mean he knows what the heck he's doing or has any special tricks to share. It only means you're paying for an escort.

    Save some of your money and curl up with a good sex advice book instead. Plenty of good cheap paperbacks out there that could give you some fun, creative ideas for your unsuspecting first partner.

    There's no certainty an escort will help you build up your purported seductive nature. Instead, consult your friends (the ones you can touch, not the online ones) to help you with dating advice to zero in on that perfect partner for you.

    Then go meet somebody sweet, and get tested together.


    I value your advice, thank you so much for taking the time to write a response.

    You see right through me. I'll have to look through some advice/guide books to help contextualise these feelings.

    Looking at it now, I get the feeling that I'd prefer to be inexperienced, but informed as opposed to have wasted my time on an escort. You're right, just because it's an escort it doesn't have to mean that it will always be great.

    Thank you so much once again, all the best to you icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 03, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI just don't understand how it could be difficult to get laid, if that's what you're looking for. Sex is so easy to come by in the gay community--no pun intended.... Just go to a club and start dancing. That way you can at least mingle and talk to different people, instead of just having a stranger show up at your door.


    Hi,

    It's not difficult for me to get laid. Whenever I'm out, I usually get offers from guys. It's flattering, but I'm not interested in one night stands at this point in my life. I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone I don't know well and the thought of catching an STI scares any feelings of arousal away.

    You are right, though. It would be better to interact with someone first instead of an escort showing up at your front door. I suppose the idea that it's their job to satisfy you made me feel more secure.

    Thank you for taking the time to write a response, all the best icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 03, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
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    bedtimestories saidThe problem is that I don’t feel that I want to have one-night stands with complete strangers. I don’t feel comfortable having sex with someone who I don’t know.
    ...
    I’d feel more at ease being with someone I know I can trust. Also, STI’s scare the living daylight out of me.

    I’ve been considering having sex with an escort.
    ...
    . After all, it’s his job to do justice. It’s also safer and easier to request of an escort to show if they’re safe and STI free.

    You arent making much sense. You dont want a one night stand with a complete stranger since you are not comfortable with him. Yet you are considering sex with an escort who is a complete stranger and who you will likely meet as a one night stand unless you have tons of money to see him over and over again.

    Any STI test is only a snapshot in time in the past. An escorts business/job involves having sex on a regular basis with strangers. Escort or not, no-one gets tested after each and every sexual encounter. Besides an escort is more likely to have more sexual encounters with multiple random guys than a random guy.

    You need to put some more thought into what you are thinking.


    Hi,

    I understand what you're saying. You're right, an escort and a possible one night stand are both strangers to me. The difference for me was that I felt that an escort would have been a safer option for the STIs and for wanting to be pleased.

    You've made a good point. I've never met an escort before and I don't have much knowledge about the job, other than reading books about the emotional side of it.

    Right now I dont feel tempted to go down the escort route, but I guess I'm just going to wait to see how I feel about it in the future.

    Thank you for taking the time to write a response, all the best icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 03, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    Chainers saidSeriously if your looking to just get your rocks off then go get grindr and find someone to bang, much cheaper and just as efficient.


    Hi,

    Maybe sometime in the future, but I don't feel 100% ok with having sex with a stranger. For that reason I haven't used Grindr.


    Thanks icon_biggrin.gif