AGE DIFFERENCE! What do you think..?

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    Oct 03, 2012 1:09 PM GMT
    Recently I met this guy in June and he is 33 and we've been seeing each other. Latrlt things have been rough because all this drama happened. He has grindr and jackd and it makes me think he is hooking up with other guys but he claims he isn't. But he even bought hot new sexy underwear and hasn't worn them for me yet. Which I don't get. And he lives an hour away so its hard to trust him. But when we are together everything seems perfect and even before the drama things were amazing.

    Point is, what do you think about the age difference?
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    Oct 03, 2012 1:10 PM GMT
    Grindr=hooking up.
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    Oct 03, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidGrindr=hooking up.



    Hmmm....seems like a no-brainer.
  • swall1963

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    Oct 03, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    I don't think the age difference is your issue.
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    Oct 03, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    It really depends on the person. You could be one of those young adults under 20 with a nice precocious outlook and thought process, and so, people think you're older than your age. Or not. I have always thought that even at the age of 25-30 people can still be morons but i'm not assuming anything for your situation

    Either you are mature enough for a 33 year old or he is immature enough to be with a 19 year old. Or you could be one of those great, albeit rare, relationships that last with one partner being only 19.

    but yeah hopefully it works out for you either way : )



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    Oct 03, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    I don't see any problem with your age difference. However the accounts on the"hookup" sites, does worry me. If everything is going fine, and he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him, just go with it and see how it keeps going.
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    Oct 03, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    AlexJock89 saidRecently I met this guy in June and he is 33 and we've been seeing each other. Latrlt things have been rough because all this drama happened. He has grindr and jackd and it makes me think he is hooking up with other guys but he claims he isn't. But he even bought hot new sexy underwear and hasn't worn them for me yet. Which I don't get. And he lives an hour away so its hard to trust him. But when we are together everything seems perfect and even before the drama things were amazing.

    Point is, what do you think about the age difference?


    What do you want from us? To tell you that he isn't hooking up? It wouldn't help you feel better anyway.

    BTW. GTFON (get the fuck out now)
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    Oct 03, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    swall1963 saidI don't think the age difference is your issue.


    This.
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    Oct 03, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    renegadescot1 said
    smartmoney saidGrindr=hooking up.



    Hmmm....seems like a no-brainer.


    +1 its like buying a packet of smokes and saying your not going to use it... why get it in the first place...
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    Oct 03, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    renegadescot1 said
    smartmoney saidGrindr=hooking up.



    Hmmm....seems like a no-brainer.

    Thinking... what a blonde! icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 03, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    It's not a big deal age difference, it's about how you carry yourself and if you're being mature or immature. I usually date guys around 7-13 years younger/older difference. It depends on the person really.
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    Oct 05, 2012 5:21 PM GMT
    running11 said
    swall1963 saidI don't think the age difference is your issue.


    This.

    True - age has nothing to do with it. Your dating relationship goes where it will go. Stay with it as long as it feels good to you. It lasts as long as the two of you feel good about it. Maybe it lasts for a few months or a year - maybe more. You cannot not know for sure. IF it doesn't last, you have many years ahead of you for other relationships. Either he is hooking up with other guys or he is not, and how can you know for sure? You can either accept his hooking up with other guys or not. You have been dating since June but you don't say how strong he feels about you. After six months to a year, and he is supposedly committed to you, you can reasonably expect him to have stopped dating other guys. If it has only been a few months, you can reasonably expect him to still be dating other guys - unless he has fallen head over heels for you. Have you had the talk about dating each other exclusively?
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    Oct 05, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    Date people your age, you need to be with someone who will grow with you. Not someone you constantly have to play catch up with.

    If your gut is telling you that something is wrong then something is wrong. Always trust your gut. Never your head and never your heart. Both the head and the heart can be misleading.

    Don't make the same mistakes I did.
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    Face it buddy ,He like to play.
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
    FranklinK saidDate people your age, you need to be with someone who will grow with you. Not someone you constantly have to play catch up with.

    If your gut is telling you that something is wrong then something is wrong. Always trust your gut. Never your head and never your heart. Both the head and the heart can be misleading.

    Don't make the same mistakes I did.


    i don't really get why you're the only one who has said that he should date his own age. Even the most level headed and mature people i know around 20 would not do well in a relationship with a man in his thirties. Despite any similarity in apparent maturity, the life-stage is just far too different in most cases for a very young adult.

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    Oct 06, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    OP.. did you meet this guy on Grindr or Jacked? icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    running11 said
    swall1963 saidI don't think the age difference is your issue.


    This.


    What these two said...its more about maturity.
    As far as what the others are saying about the app(s) being about hook-ups and such. Yeah... their right. I lasted about 2 days on grindr before I deleted it.

    What it comes down to is a talk... I would ask, "If you have me, why do you need those apps?" His answer should give you yours.
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    Oct 06, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    check my user name LOL