Petty neighbor drama...am I in the wrong?

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    Oct 04, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    So I just moved into my new digs about a month ago and there is PUBLIC street parking outside my house that I share with the people next door. Well, my neighbor feels that since she has been in the hood longer, she should have first dibs on the PUBLIC street parking. I ran into her today while I was about to head out and she axed me if I wouldn't mind parking somewhere else because she "couldn't see her car from her house" if I parked in the spot on the PUBLIC street parking. I kindly reminded her this was PUBLIC street parking and part of city life required that we share the PUBLIC street parking. She was exactly happy about it and started raising her voice. By this point she was getting on my nerves because I kept repeating myself over and over saying she did not have the right to tell people they couldn't park on the street just because she felt that her car was worth more than everybody else on the block. This went on for a few minutes and by the time we were done I was throughly angry. She said something along the lines of "fine, just wait. I'll take care of it. Trust me". I called her crazy and said that I can be just as much of an asshole as she can but I'm not going to cave in because she felt entitled to a parking space that was not hers. Am I in the wrong? May I remind everyone this is PUBLIC street parking with no rules whatsoever that it belongs to her or her tenants.


    What would you do????
  • Pontifex

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    Oct 04, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    Pee the spot to mark it as your territory.
    You were right but do you really want your bat Shit insane neighbor pissed at you? Be prepared for her to do something stupid.
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    Oct 04, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidThis sounds like typical Chicago bullshit on the northwest side of the city. My mother lives in an area not too far from O'Hare Airport and people are incredibly and unrealistically possessive of parking space on public property.

    No you are not in the wrong, at least I don't think you are. You must live in a suburban-like area of town. Because Metropolitan areas are congested and this shit doesn't fly in harder edgier more congested areas. Shit, when I had a car I'd sometimes have to park four blocks away. And I'd simply feel lucky that I found a place.

    In my mother's case, she parked two doors down in front of a person's home and the next morning she had dried Coca Cola splattered all over her car. The same happened when her boyfriend parked his car in front of their house months later. These assholes have a small boat stored in their garage and don't use their garage for their car. My mother doesn't have a garage otherwise she'd use it instead of parking on the street. What irritates me is that on my mother's block there is still plenty of parking. Even though my mother parked in front of their house there was parking right in front of her. It's unrealistic to expect to be able to park directly in front of your home on a public street.

    I suggest talking with a police officer just to protect yourself. If this woman said, "I'm gonna take care of it" that is pretty much a threat. She might try and vandalize your car and in a way that's worse than dried sticky soda all over your windshield.



    Thats what I thought too about her "I'll take care of it" comment. Believe it or not I'm a pretty reasonable guy and would happily have moved if I was in the wrong. I just don't understand why she feels so entitled to this space.

    And this area I live in is semi-surburban. Durning the day there is plenty of parking but at night it can get tight.

    I lived in DC for 4 years and had to park blocks away rain/sleet/or shine. She has serious entitlement issues.

    Should I go to the police? This isn't exactly an emergency situation and don't want to seem like I'm just being dramatic....

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    Oct 04, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    If there is space available on the public street, you park in it. What's the discussion all about? She can't stop you from parking in available space on a public street. If she's there first, she gets it. If you're there first, you get it.

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    Oct 04, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    classy as always, rj
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    Oct 04, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    I can't say you are completely right since I don't know every fact here, but based on how you described it, she has no real right to it.

    I'm assuming you're in a condo/apartment or something like it, since most places give you a designated parking area, or garage.

    If it's public street parking, it should be first come first serve. I know that sometimes neighbors can be a real pain though. I had a relative that had their car parked in front of the house, and the neighbor got it towed, saying it hadn't been moved in weeks, when it had only been two days since it was last used.
    The day after it was towed they had a giant party and used the street parking in front of their house for their guests to park onicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 04, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    As long as you aren't parking there for days at a time it is "first come first serve." If you have 5 cars in your household and decide you don't need to use a garage for example, and park in front of your house, then you may be at fault. You may want to try to solve the problem now. Just talk to her and try to work things out if you can.. I have a crazy neighbor that bought a used car just so other people didn't park in front of her house. I haven't spoken to her because she is just crazy and people in the neighborhood feel she is the Gladys Kravitz of the street. In California you can park a car on the street as long as you move the car every 72 hours. If it hasn't been moved for days we call the police to mark the car and then it is towed in 3 days usually. Unless no one objects for you to park anywhere.
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    Oct 04, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    It is public parking.

    But you are in the wrong for engaging her in the manner you chose. You should have just ignored her, after the, "It's public parking" statement. Does she pay your bills ?

    She made sure to threaten you, so there's no telling what's next. It's best not to get into any altercations in general, especially where you live.

    People can be crazy.

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    Oct 04, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    I'd have pointed out that if you didn't take the spot someone else other than you or her would've, and wouldn't she rather have someone she knows have it than a complete stranger?
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidI'd have pointed out that if you didn't take the spot someone else other than you or her would've, and wouldn't she rather have someone she knows have it than a complete stranger?


    I did! I told her that if she tells me I can't park there then she would have to tell the whole block that they can't park there either. She said "they already know." The thing is I have a sissy for a roommate. He just got rid of his car and he said he would have just moved it if she started complaining. I really want to tell him to grow some balls and be on my side because we both know she is in the wrong. I seriously don't understand why she feels so entitled to this spot.
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    " May I remind everyone this is PUBLIC street parking with no rules whatsoever that it belongs to her or her tenants. "

    Is that lady your landlord?
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    meninlove said " May I remind everyone this is PUBLIC street parking with no rules whatsoever that it belongs to her or her tenants. "

    Is that lady your landlord?


    No that ghetto bitch ain't my landlord. But I guess she has people living with her that she feels gets first dibs on parking over me....icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    Your in the right. If anything happens to your car, you know who did it too!
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    She's a cunt with entitlement issues. And she threatened you, which means you need to file a police report on it. If you file a report and then you walk out one morning to four flat tires, they'll know who to question first.
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    How would visitors of the whole block know? If I were you I'd go to the local police station and ask if they'd consider the circumstances grounds to file a police report. If you're told "no" which is possible because there are penalties for filing frivilous police reports ask the officer who refused you for his badge number in case she does pull something and you need to remind them.
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidI can't say you are completely right since I don't know every fact here, but based on how you described it, she has no real right to it.

    I'm assuming you're in a condo/apartment or something like it, since most places give you a designated parking area, or garage.

    If it's public street parking, it should be first come first serve. I know that sometimes neighbors can be a real pain though. I had a relative that had their car parked in front of the house, and the neighbor got it towed, saying it hadn't been moved in weeks, when it had only been two days since it was last used.
    The day after it was towed they had a giant party and used the street parking in front of their house for their guests to park onicon_rolleyes.gif



    WTF dude? I said PUBLIC street parking about a dozen times.
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidHow would visitors of the whole block know? If I were you I'd go to the local police station and ask if they'd consider the circumstances grounds to file a police report. If you're told "no" which is possible because there are penalties for filing frivilous police reports ask the officer who refused you for his badge number in case she does pull something and you need to remind them.


    Exactly. All points I raised in our little argument. She simply feels like this is her princess parking.
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
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    WaytoDawn saidI can't say you are completely right since I don't know every fact here, but based on how you described it, she has no real right to it.

    I'm assuming you're in a condo/apartment or something like it, since most places give you a designated parking area, or garage.

    If it's public street parking, it should be first come first serve. I know that sometimes neighbors can be a real pain though. I had a relative that had their car parked in front of the house, and the neighbor got it towed, saying it hadn't been moved in weeks, when it had only been two days since it was last used.
    The day after it was towed they had a giant party and used the street parking in front of their house for their guests to park onicon_rolleyes.gif



    WTF dude? I said PUBLIC street parking about a dozen times.



    So are you assigned designated parking spaces or is this public parking?
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    Oct 04, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
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    jmusmc85 said
    WaytoDawn saidI can't say you are completely right since I don't know every fact here, but based on how you described it, she has no real right to it.

    I'm assuming you're in a condo/apartment or something like it, since most places give you a designated parking area, or garage.

    If it's public street parking, it should be first come first serve. I know that sometimes neighbors can be a real pain though. I had a relative that had their car parked in front of the house, and the neighbor got it towed, saying it hadn't been moved in weeks, when it had only been two days since it was last used.
    The day after it was towed they had a giant party and used the street parking in front of their house for their guests to park onicon_rolleyes.gif



    WTF dude? I said PUBLIC street parking about a dozen times.



    So are you assigned designated parking spaces or is this public parking?


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    Oct 04, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    I'm too tired to read this whole thread. Do you have a Home Owner's Association or something like that who you could contact? It might be good to let a 3rd party know in case something happens to your car.

    You are right. She is not entitled to the space. If she had a disability, small kids, or something like that, then maybe you should give her the space, but it sounds like she just wants it for her own selfish reasons.
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    Oct 04, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
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    WaytoDawn saidI can't say you are completely right since I don't know every fact here, but based on how you described it, she has no real right to it.

    I'm assuming you're in a condo/apartment or something like it, since most places give you a designated parking area, or garage.

    If it's public street parking, it should be first come first serve. I know that sometimes neighbors can be a real pain though. I had a relative that had their car parked in front of the house, and the neighbor got it towed, saying it hadn't been moved in weeks, when it had only been two days since it was last used.
    The day after it was towed they had a giant party and used the street parking in front of their house for their guests to park onicon_rolleyes.gif



    WTF dude? I said PUBLIC street parking about a dozen times.


    ... um "dude" I know what you said. That's why I said "based on how you described it, she has no real right to it (it being the parking. basically I'm saying you are right)"

    All I'm saying is that though you SAY it is public parking and make you're case very well, you miss the point here YOU ARE BIASED. I can't say I am 100% sure you are right because I don't have all the facts myself, and i am getting my facts from you, one side of the story.

    Sorry if the caps came off like I was yelling. I'm just trying to emphasize some key words.
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    Oct 04, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    She's gonna key your car bro. Better get a surveillance camera so that you can catch her in the act and report her to the cops. That will shut her up. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 04, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    and she 'axed' me if I wouldn't

    My eyes!!!
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    Oct 04, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    If you really want to piss her off..

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    Oct 04, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
    Public street parking is public street parking. If some random person decided to park there one day, you both would be out a spot and there's nothing you can do about it.

    It does sound like you need to make sure your car alarm is turned on - and maybe even set up some video surveillance - in case she keys it or something, then you can take care of the problem by filing charges against the crazy bitch.