Is this normal?

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    Oct 04, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    For a while I've become disinterested with meeting guys, and hanging out etc. And even if the guy is cute/hot/charming, all I feel is a little passing half-heartedness.

    The hottest guy can suggest we hook up and I doubt I'd find it in me to get excited and take up the offer. It's kind of weird. Maybe I'm just growing out of this youthful, "fun", stage of my life? But I also feel plain bored with it (developing relationships with guys in all senses of the concept.)

    Is this normal?
  • camfer

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    Oct 04, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Have you fully accepted your sexuality? Are you out and know what you want? If not, it's possible that your current indifference is a form of avoidance of inner work yet to be done. It's a good idea to have fun your whole life and not just in your early 20s. But your idea of fun will surely shift.
  • great_scott

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    Oct 04, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    Have you been reading CDC stats and info? That def scares me into asexuality sometimes.
  • reptile18

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    Oct 05, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    I think it's perfectly normal to feel this way sometimes. It's kinda like a dry spell, but different. It can happen if there's a lot going on in your life, especially if the other stuff requires lots of contact with new people, you might want more alone time.

    I've definitely felt this way in the past, just getting bored of trying to meet guys, etc. But I've also felt the complete opposite wherein I try to force myself not to hang out around (boring) straight people just to try to find someone.
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    maybe you been putting out too much, your tired. Take a break. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    What's normal these days? All that really matters is "Are YOU ok with it?" If you feel like you don't like being half-hearted about meeting guys, then put in more effort to meet guys. If you are content with where you are right now, let it be.

    Sounds to me like an internal thing that will work itself out in time. Don't over-think it. When the mind, body, and soul are ready to move forward, they will. Trust that.
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    Oct 05, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    I guess Im okay with a this, and I think it's more intentional that Im not going after guys anymore. And yeah, Im pretty comfortable with my sexuality now. Maybe I've just put out all this effort and it's tired me out. Taking a break is a good suggestions. ;)
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    Oct 05, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    There is a reason you feel the way you do....
    Sometimes i'm over it too... Men..ugh..!!
    ..You can't live without em..you can't shoot them.. icon_eek.gif

    ..Hopefully this is a phase.. Hopefully someone will come , sweep you off your feet and "Rock Your World".. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 05, 2012 11:10 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidThere is a reason you feel the way you do....
    Sometimes i'm over it too... Men..ugh..!!
    ..You can't live without em..you can't shoot them.. icon_eek.gif

    ..Hopefully this is a phase.. Hopefully someone will come , sweep you off your feet and "Rock Your World".. icon_biggrin.gif


    But until then, I'll buy myself a dog. It shall become my new best friend. We will take long walks together, and going fishing.
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    Oct 05, 2012 11:29 AM GMT
    Isolation can be a sign if depression.
    Could this be behind it ???

    Dogs are a big commitment, but very rewarding.
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    Oct 05, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    It's normal to go through changes. Nothing in this world is static except change itself.
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    Oct 05, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    Distract yourself with something else! Dwelling on it is probably what hurts you more than the actual feeling. Reinvigorate yourself and at the right moment, right time, you may be surprised.