Bi Now ,Gay Later

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    Oct 04, 2012 10:49 PM GMT
    I'm sure you heard this before but do you believe it. I know some gays are not to fond of bisexuals and a huge stereotype is that Bi's are just Bi out of fear or it being easier to say than gay. I don't believe that but one posed the question to me.

    If you are Bi and you marry a Guy than you are Gay.

    I don't see it that way. I see it as if you are Bi regardless of who you marry, your sexuality is unchanged. If you like men but decide to marry a woman are you straight, now, but in the worlds eyes if you marry a man you are gay by default.

    Wha'ts your opinion of this?
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    Oct 04, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    BI is only sexual attraction to both genders.
    You could marry your dog and still like to fuck men and women. (but i don't know if there are statistics here ).
    you just have to post pics of you fucking a girl and sucking dick at the same time and it will settle the issue once and for all.
    married or not.
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    Oct 05, 2012 12:45 AM GMT


    Bi people can have gay relationships, or straight ones. Some can have open relationships with both gay and straight lovers.

    More power to them. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Oct 05, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    Think of it as a dial on a radio... the bar will move to and from the bi-center over time... no need to worry so much about labels. Just be with someone who accepts you for where you've been, and where you are in terms of dating at the time. You shouldn't feel guilty about what makes you happy.
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    Oct 05, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    90% of the guys I've been in love with have been bi. Cut them some slack. They're way more fucked up, and deserve more sypmathy, than we do.
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    Oct 05, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy said90% of the guys I've been in love with have been bi. Cut them some slack. They're way more fucked up, and deserve more sypmathy, than we do.


    I do feel sorry for them. Its an unfortunate position to be in.
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    Oct 05, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    But if sexulity is on a scale

    and most gay men have been in love with women at some point...

    arent most of us Bi...even if its a small percentage.
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    Oct 05, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidBut if sexulity is on a scale

    and most gay men have been in love with women at some point...

    arent most of us Bi...even if its a small percentage.


    Have most gay men been in love with women at one point?

    ..and was it platonic/romantic or sexual/romantic? icon_wink.gif

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    Oct 05, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidBut if sexulity is on a scale

    and most gay men have been in love with women at some point...

    arent most of us Bi...even if its a small percentage.


    Im not sure about "most gay men having been in love with a women". I dont know any of my friends that have ever been in love with woman nor have had sex with on.
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    Oct 05, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
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    Oct 05, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    You know if you are bi and you have a wife and kids and live as a pseudo hetrosexual, people still want to label you as gay when you are not. When bis is neither gay or straight.
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    Oct 05, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said


    Yes everybody is a little weird.
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    Oct 05, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    JamieJfromtheA saidBut if sexulity is on a scale

    and most gay men have been in love with women at some point...

    arent most of us Bi...even if its a small percentage.


    Im not sure about "most gay men having been in love with a women". I dont know any of my friends that have ever been in love with woman nor have had sex with on.


    You know us Bona Fide Homosexual can and do love women. We are just not in love with them.
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    Oct 05, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    All mammals are bi-sexual, except for humans who claim to be straight.
    Think about it..
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    hairyandym saidAll mammals are bi-sexual, except for humans who claim to be straight.
    Think about it..


    Love it.
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Oh I was wondering when Trublueaussie was going to show up icon_biggrin.gif

    But have you heard of the Kinsey scale?
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    Sometimes i wonder what the big deal is... putting a label on oneself... does it really matter.... all bi could be telling you is that he is in transition or he's still finding his way. Cut some slack...
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidBut if sexulity is on a scale

    and most gay men have been in love with women at some point...

    arent most of us Bi...even if its a small percentage.


    Most gay men I know haven't been in love with women at some point. Some bisexual men I know have been.
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    Oct 05, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    hairyandym saidAll mammals are bi-sexual, except for humans who claim to be straight.
    Think about it..


    Sorry mate as a Bona fide Homosexual, I am neither straight or bi, and never have been. OMhG I've seen enough of those dripping yukky mucus membranes via my job, to no I could never ever play in one of them.
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    Oct 07, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    ^LMAO...where do you work???!!
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    Oct 07, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidI'm sure you heard this before but do you believe it. I know some gays are not to fond of bisexuals and a huge stereotype is that Bi's are just Bi out of fear or it being easier to say than gay. I don't believe that but one posed the question to me.

    If you are Bi and you marry a Guy than you are Gay.

    I don't see it that way. I see it as if you are Bi regardless of who you marry, your sexuality is unchanged. If you like men but decide to marry a woman are you straight, now, but in the worlds eyes if you marry a man you are gay by default.

    Wha'ts your opinion of this?


    I'm pretty stunned when I see people say shit like that. "Bis are gay men in denial." It hits a nerve every time.

    I'm sorry but what part of myself am I denying precisely? The part I can have sex with women and men? I don't have any kind of "denial" or "fear". I've ALWAYS been attracted to both since I was 4 or 5 (although I am not interested in transsexuals/gender queers). At times I've been more privy to men. At times I've been more privy to women. Either way, it doesn't really matter that much ultimately in the end. If people can't accept that I and others like myself don't proscribe myself to their boxy labels, it's definitely not my problem. icon_smile.gif It's equally as ridiculous as saying "you're not gay if you sleep only with shemales/trannys."

    Also, I don't need anyone's "sympathy". I'm definitely not "fucked up." I'm not "gay" or "straight" either.

    Also, I don't understand what's this deal about bisexual men getting a bad rap for "cheating on their partners". In my experience, I've seen homosexuals have way more affairs and open relationships than bisexual men. I've seen homosexual and heterosexual men cheat on their partners with others more so than I have seen other bi men or women do.

    If you don't like the pussy, that's fine but PLEASE, for those of you who like to give us a bad rap and call us names: Pull your heads out of your asses and realize the world doesn't work in extremes of homosexual/heterosexual. What you do or don't like is your business but stop interfering in ours while demanding "equality" and trying to promote "diversity". Personally, I have not cheated on my partners with someone with the opposite sex nor the same sex for that matter. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 07, 2012 7:18 AM GMT
    It exists. Most keep on the DL, but what I've noticed is that bi mens' preference does lead them to either remain closeted or come out as a whole, and they will even come out as gay every once in awhile yet realize that they made a "mistake" and come back out as being bi. I was one of those bi guys who came out as gay then realized that I wasn't really 100% gay.
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    Oct 07, 2012 8:08 AM GMT
    portamis saidI tend to think this light 'bi-phobia' is due to envy* - bi men can live 'traditional' or (in some parts) 'sociably acceptable/easier lives', of which some gay men are jealous.

    *obviously not all the time, etc.


    I've met a straight guy who was jealous and I was like "loldafuq? aw heil no."
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos said
    portamis saidI tend to think this light 'bi-phobia' is due to envy* - bi men can live 'traditional' or (in some parts) 'sociably acceptable/easier lives', of which some gay men are jealous.

    *obviously not all the time, etc.


    I've met a straight guy who was jealous and I was like "loldafuq? aw heil no."


    hmm...sounds very suspicious.
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    Feel bad for them but I for one will never date them. Being gay is enough competition besides bringing girls into the picture.