Breaking Up with a Trainer

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    Mar 08, 2007 7:18 PM GMT
    Any suggestions on breaking up with a trainer? I have been working out with the same trainer for about 3 months and I feel it is time for a change. Any suggestions on how to end it amicably, since I will have to see the guy every day in the gym. Thanks.
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    Mar 08, 2007 11:20 PM GMT
    I'm surprised that you want out after 3 months, has your trainer not "upped" the workouts for you? You should discuss your potential breakup with him and see if he has any ideas on shaking stuff up to get you to the next level. If you just feel it's a waste of money, then just tell him you need to take a break from having a trainer. Be honest with him, it is his job and if he's not doing something right tell him! If you don't "click" with him, let him no as well, he should have sensed that by now, if he is worth his salt...
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    Mar 09, 2007 1:17 AM GMT
    i've trained with the same guy for almost five years. if he isn't changing up workouts every time you walk in the door, and if he isn't making you feel burn everytime, you aren't progressing. dump him, and have no regrets.
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    Mar 09, 2007 1:33 AM GMT

    Three months is a probation period not a 'breakup.' A contrite thank you is all that's needed.

    You've decided to move on. Just do it.





  • Starboard

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    Mar 09, 2007 6:27 AM GMT
    I agree with everyone's replies, but I also understand how difficult it can be to "break up" with a trainer. It's not like changing dry cleaners or switching from Mobil to Chevron. A relationship with a trainer is kinda personal -- they know a lot about you, your strengths and weaknesses...and if you've been working with each other for a while, you've likely developed a sense of trust.

    For me, the easiest way to break up with a trainer is to say "I am going to try it on my own for a while and see how I do -- I'll let you know if I run into trouble".

    But if you're feeling like you need a change because you're not seeing the results that you expected, I would definitely find a way to communicate that with your trainer. It's his job to strategize your workouts to help you achieve your goals. If that's not happening, the trainer needs to be aware of that and adjust your workouts accordingly. If you have communicated with your trainer and nothing seems to change, I would really try to be honest with the guy (gal?) and say that you need to make a change. The best way to see progress is to continually surprise your body with new workout routines, so "making a change" should be a language that that any trainer should be able to accept...
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    Apr 03, 2007 2:17 AM GMT
    I have a friend who has been with the same personal trainer for 5 years and has not seen results of any kind.

    In my opinion, this is equally as embarrassing for the trainer. I certainly wouldn't hire him.
  • 11city

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    Apr 03, 2007 5:39 AM GMT
    coming from the perspective of being a personal trainer, i say rip the band-aid off now before it gets too late. not only are you paying this guy to work you out until you can't move, he sounds like he is not holding up his end of the deal.

    my reco: find a gym buddy or a worked out guy you admire and ask who he's trained with. you look great already - do you really need a trainer? ;)

    feel free to ask me any training questions and if i can help i will!

    josh :)
  • GQjock

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    Apr 09, 2007 1:43 AM GMT
    What you're breaking up with me?
    Was it me? Was it something I said?...LOL
    It's a tough thing all round...
    but seriously my man
    If you're not seeing progress like you want there's no reason to keep going
    ...Lots of praise, tell him you'll refer clients and a handshake is all thats needed
  • TonyD

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    May 29, 2007 5:27 AM GMT
    Have you TALKED with him about your disappointment?
    Communication is necessary to meet mutaul goals.

    There are many ways to grade progress. Give him a chance to explain himself before you make a decision.

    Communication may bring interesting and unknown info to move forward.
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    Jun 06, 2007 5:16 PM GMT
    I have to agree with what a lot of people have said already. If the reason you want to break ties is because of performance or results you really do need to talk about that first.

    I had a similar problem with my trainer. When we started I was only concerned with losing weight and toning up. Then I realized that I wanted a little more bulk to round out but I wasn't very explicit about my needs. Once I sat down with her and discussed my new goals she created a completely different program for me. All it took was a little direct communication.

    If that doesn't work, then it definitely is time to say your goodbyes - which can be hard. I'm friends with my trainer, but even now she knows I can't afford to train all the time and often times I have to go it alone. Just be upfront and real, if he/she is professional it shouldn't be a problem.
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    Jun 06, 2007 7:35 PM GMT
    I see too many people who've had trainers for a while and well, don't quite look it. Sorry, but if you've got a personal trainer IN ADDITION to what you're doing on your own, you should see some results and/or look great! While people don't get unhealthy overnight and therefore shouldn't expect to get great overnight, a few months is long enough to see some results. If I were you, I'd say, "Thank you for your time but I've decided this isn't working for me in terms of my goals and I'm now going to do something else. Good Luck!"

    Never forget, you are the client and it is in the trainer's interest to keep you.