Getting to know people on RJ

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    Oct 05, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    Hey folks,
    it's 3:30 am, time for a rant. But hey it's my first and to fit the bill of a 18 year old i'm overdue, right? Have to tick those stereotype boxes ; )

    no but seriously i'm interested to know how people get to know others on here. I've used the 'mail' system but it just seems a little weird- i'm not use to giving others unsolicited personal contact. I tried mailing a guy my age just to see if i can merely acquaint myself with someone possibly relatable but a lack of a reply could be a hint haha.

    Coming onto here was initially to get tips on weight training but i thought getting to 'know' some other gay guys would be alright. Never really had a homosexual real life friend before and a bit of perspective on those experiences, those of which my straight friends lack, would be nice.

    Obviously being a 'realjock' site, those who are physically attractive will get more attention and their posts/words will be more likeable. I'm probably in the wrong place? Real life is a lot easier. Never really had a lack of confidence in talking to any type of person until now- over the internet. How ironic haha.

    Cheers.




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    Oct 05, 2012 5:59 PM GMT
    Honestly, just be yourself. You seem like a pretty nice and sensible guy who is trying to improve in a lot of different aspects.

    Also, Hi. My name is Josh. Nice to meet you and welcome to RJ icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:04 PM GMT
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 05, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    We don't bite....



    Unless you ask us to.icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    Communicating with email has an expiration date. There's only so much back and forth you can do before it grows stale and done. The message board here is a great way to know someone, little by little from what they post, without it being an exclusive one-on-one interaction which can grow strained.
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    Thanks Josh, I'm Chris!
    My post probably seems to reveal holes bleeding out insecurity but i don't think it's meant to. I LIKE to feel that i'm precocious and busy with life enough to get over that haha.

    theantijock- your name itself wants me to get to know you. But thanks. We all need a bit of Julie Andrews in our life at some point.

    and Hottjoe i'm not not asking you to bite : )







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    Oct 05, 2012 6:22 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidCommunicating with email has an expiration date. There's only so much back and forth you can do before it grows stale and done. The message board here is a great way to know someone, little by little from what they post, without it being an exclusive one-on-one interaction which can grow strained.


    Well, as Ryan Phillippe once profoundly said in that movie: 'email is for geeks and pedophiles'.

    I guess i can learn some patience and let it flow. And here i thought i could buy friends : p
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    Hey Crispy C, the names waytodawn (or dawn for short). I know what you mean, I want to get to know alot of people on here, but I don't really know proper protocals for internet frienships. (If there is protocols for internet friendships. I mean seriously, anyone know if there is?)
    Like Ariodante said, just try being a regular in the forums. From there people will slowly get to know you.
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    I would suggest not personally emailing someone until you get a feel for who they are on the forums. There are plenty of attractive guys who I found appealing when I first saw them but later grew tired of by reading their posts. No everyone is going to be a match. It has nothing to do with you personally, just sometimes things don't work out. Post more so we all get a feeling for who you are. Be yourself and the ones who find you interesting will come flocking.
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    Oct 05, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidHey Crispy C, the names waytodawn (or dawn for short). I know what you mean, I want to get to know alot of people on here, but I don't really know proper protocals for internet frienships. (If there is protocols for internet friendships. I mean seriously, anyone know if there is?)
    Like Ariodante said, just try being a regular in the forums. From there people will slowly get to know you.


    Hey dawn, nice to meet you !
    This is funny because so far most of my posts have been nonsensical and possibly failed attempts at humor which may come off wrong. Love it.

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    Oct 05, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidI would suggest not personally emailing someone until you get a feel for who they are on the forums. There are plenty of attractive guys who I found appealing when I first saw them but later grew tired of by reading their posts. No everyone is going to be a match. It has nothing to do with you personally, just sometimes things don't work out. Post more so we all get a feeling for who you are. Be yourself and the ones who find you interesting will come flocking.


    yeah good call about the email situation. Initially i wasn't sure if that was the primary way of initial communication on here or whatever. Thanks! : )
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    Oct 05, 2012 7:03 PM GMT

    Hey CrispyC!

    *waves hat*
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    Oct 05, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    As others have said, you may have more luck interacting with people in the forums than through direct e-mail contact. It may not happen right away. You'll need to have some patience. But keep at it. I'm sure you'll make friends. One day, I hope to make some as well.
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    Oct 05, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Hey CrispyC!

    *waves hat*


    Hey meninlove. If i had a respectable hat i'd also wave it to you. You guys look great in your picture by the way.


    and thanks Nova for your reply. I'd quote you as well but i don't know how to do that yet. One step at a time.
  • Pontifex

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    Oct 05, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    Most of the guys I talk to on here started by either commenting on a post I've made or communicating with me after they have actually read my profile and discovered we have something in common.

    Most of the guys who start a conversation by based on anything physical don't last long. Well... There is one guy I'm pretty sure things started like that who I still talk to but we did meet in person so that kind of changes things.
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    Oct 05, 2012 9:32 PM GMT
    Dear Crispy C..

    ..Every time i see your screen name i get hungry..
    Crispy..mmmmmmhhhhhh.. C.. mhhhhh!!
    ..Now i hope that 'C" at the end of crispy is for ... Chicken..
    OMG..what if that "C" was for .."Co*k"..or even worse .."Clamydia"..!!..
    ..Ok crispy till i find out what that 'C' stands for.. I'm keeping my distance..
    Sorry bro... icon_razz.gif
    *Hugz*
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    Oct 06, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    welcome to the forums! It's a bumpy road sometimes...but usually filled with more kicks and giggles than most people can handle icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    The OP doesn't even have 100 posts, much less 1000. He hasn't earned the right to rant. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    Come on now, nothing inappropriate. the 'c' is definitely for my first name haha.

    Paul, the OP does not give his posts of wisdom so freely ; )
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    CrispyC saidCome on now, nothing inappropriate. the 'c' is definitely for my first name haha.

    Paul, the OP does not give his posts of wisdom so freely ; )
    I thought the 2nd C stood for Cock, which got me wondering why anyone would have a name like that unless there's something terribly wrong. icon_razz.gif

    And that's ok about your posts of wisdom. People will understand. After all, not many people have heard the old proverb: "He who withholds wisdom has none to withhold." icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
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    CrispyC saidCome on now, nothing inappropriate. the 'c' is definitely for my first name haha.

    Paul, the OP does not give his posts of wisdom so freely ; )
    I thought the 2nd C stood for Cock, which got me wondering why anyone would have a name like that unless there's something terribly wrong. icon_razz.gif

    And that's ok about your posts of wisdom. People will understand. After all, not many people have heard the old proverb: "He who withholds wisdom has none to withhold." icon_wink.gif


    Damn that old proverb. You got me. The cats out of the transparent bag.
    : p