Anyone else only attracted to straight guys or straight acting?

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    Oct 06, 2012 6:26 AM GMT
    I remember looking at the popular football or baseball studs in high school. That has always been my fantasy. I've been in a few long term gay relationships before, but for some reason I am mainly attracted to straight guys. Like tonight I met a guy at a volleyball league gym. We hit it off and I felt he would be perfect for me. But he came with his short, frumpy girlfriend. I know that I am being pretty much unrealistic, but occasionally I really find the right kind of guy for me emotionally and physically but they are basically probably straight guys. I have never been attracted to feminine guys and the masculine gay guys I've met just want to be sluts. Anyone else feel similar? In college a councelor said that many gay guys he talked to - said the same thing about being attracted to masc. guys.
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    In other words, you would feel embarrassed to date a guy who's "obvious" in public.
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:59 AM GMT
    braddomo said and the masculine gay guys I've met just want to be sluts. Anyone else feel similar?
    If you want a relationship with a man, you need to meet more of the right kind of guy. There are a hell of a lot of athletic masculine gays out there who are not sluts - and prefer being in relationships.

    It's possible to have sex with a straight guy if that's what you need, but you can't have a sexual relationship with one, because then he would not be straight. So you want the impossible. See a therapist or remain unsatisfied.
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:54 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIn other words, you would feel embarrassed to date a guy who's "obvious" in public.


    I wouldn't say it's about being embarrassed, it's about the attraction (physically, mentally and emotionally) and how you get along with them. I've had a couple of obviously gay boyfriends (one of them being my longest and most serious), but my preference still remains guys who you wouldn't pick out in a crowd. The stereotypical gay mannerisms generally get a bit annoying to me. But its a 'to each their own' situation. When it boils down to it 'straight-acting' and 'masculine' is very relative to how the person sees it. I find myself attracted to straight guys, or gay guys who I wouldn't suspect of being gay. Wouldn't say the latter are generally sluts (because I definitely want a relationship, and I definitely know I am not alone there), but a proportion of them are either closeted or prefer NSA.
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    Generally, and this just could be my thinking and not how it actually is in reality, but straight guys who have gay sex are generally just curious. They aren't really looking for ltr or commitment in the particular gay world, it's more of a convenient way to get their kicks out of it and then settle back into the straight world.

    As for straight 'acting' guys, honestly I suppose at first it may seem quite appealing because of the whole straight fantasy thing, but for me that dies extremely fast and what I want to settle for is a genuinely good, kind and nice person.
    Heck I might not even think they are particularly attractive at first but when I come to learn they are a genuinely kind hearted, I become a whole lot more attracted to them.

    To each their own I guess.
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    Oct 06, 2012 12:01 PM GMT
    I'm not attracted to straight acting dudes, but I am attracted to naturally masculine guys. And yes...every gay guy is attracted to straight guys from time to time. When 90% of the male population is straight, its hard not to. Was that a serious question? Seems like an obvious answer for some with average skills in rational thought and deductive reasoning.
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    Oct 06, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    A long time ago, I used to feel that way. That was before I came out. I think you might still have issues with being gay and maybe even feel that it makes you and others who accept it inferior in some way. Just remember this... being homosexual/gay means that you are way more attracted to the same sex. That's it. All the other stuff is just personality and stereotype. If you're your own man, be your own man and don't worry about how the guys you're with reflect on you.
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    Oct 06, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    Not typically attracted to the super masc types, and I actually know quite a few of guys that fit in this straight acting category. Some seem to hate anything gay-related, even this realjock website. One specific one I know gets disgusted by any hint of emotional signs and hates forms of affection or being touched.

    In one situatiom,When a straight friend gave me his copy of Breaking Dawn soundtrack, and my straight-acting gay friends tell me I'm too gay for having it in my car disc player, even when I try to show them the good tracks (BTW, the music was 10 times better than the cheesy movie).

    And if I'm not obssessed with team sports and can't hold a conversation about the history of a player or team, then we don't connect on a conversation-level there.

    One guy I know hates gay pride and any gay community stuff. Another guy I know won't step a foot into a gay bar. This kinda behavior shows me signs of a very judgemental person.

    Well, I guess the positive way to look at this is the saying "to each, their own" but I think the side effect is that it limits who your friends are when you take on the "gays-hating-gays" position. So if a gay person doesn't like anything gay, do they like themselves? It's also a degree of closed-mindedness once you think about it. I've also noticed this kind of straight acting guy can kinda be unpleasant and uncomfortable to be around sometimes.

    I fall in between masc and fem, in a nice neutral zone.
    Does anyone else run into these kinds of situations?
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    Oct 06, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    I'm attracted to most every kind of guy... as soon as I find out he was once a she... I'm turned off but still friends... and after I found out he's straight with girlfriend or wife, or worse still I am an experiment on his sexuality, than I'm done with them for good. I don't have time to train a man on how to be sure he likes cock...
  • calibro

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    Oct 06, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    nope, you're the only one.
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    Oct 06, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    yes.i have been with a man the last going on 4 years.he loves to fuck and get fucked,and yet he continues to claim he is straight and still dates women..

    i keep telling him come on out and be TRUE to your self.
    you dont want to get married and have your wife catch you in the act..

    his comment is he WANTS THE SAME KIND OF RELATIONSHIP his parents have..

    i keep telling him,his parents have known each other since childhood back in Cuba..there is no comparison between you and them.

    i love this man and would marry him tomorrow if only he would simply be honest and say yes..
  • Bunjamon

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    Oct 06, 2012 1:42 PM GMT
    This is the most tired topic on this website. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    Yes. Everyone gets their panties in a bunch whenever a gay guy says he wants a masculine guy, but what is wrong with that? Everyone likes what they like. I don't need the most muscular, masculine macho man in the world, but I find feminine men to be a turn-off. It's just my preference and it's nothing personal. I don't look down on anyone. I like what I like and that is that. Judging someone because they're attracted to a certain type of guy (or girl), is no different than judging someone for their sexuality. You're just as guilty.

  • PBLH

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    Oct 06, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    I too sometime feel like that but again it all goes back to your preference... You know what you're attracted to and what your not attracted to and it's OK.
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    Oct 06, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    I was going out with a guy about 2 years ago that also said he was straight. He just decided that he loved sex with guys. Prior to meeting a guy in his late 30s he never thought of having sex with a guy. But I realized he wasn't interested in a relationship with anyone since he was still mixed up sexually. I even told him he might want to date women again instead. There are so many types of guys out there. Lately I've been dating guys that have been more feminine. One guy was a cheerleader in high school so you know how that goes.

    PS. thanks guys for your mature, helpful posts. I have my faith back in you Realjock guys.
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    Oct 06, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    kr4nksh4ft said
    paulflexes saidIn other words, you would feel embarrassed to date a guy who's "obvious" in public.


    I wouldn't say it's about being embarrassed, it's about the attraction (physically, mentally and emotionally) and how you get along with them. I've had a couple of obviously gay boyfriends (one of them being my longest and most serious), but my preference still remains guys who you wouldn't pick out in a crowd. The stereotypical gay mannerisms generally get a bit annoying to me. But its a 'to each their own' situation. When it boils down to it 'straight-acting' and 'masculine' is very relative to how the person sees it. I find myself attracted to straight guys, or gay guys who I wouldn't suspect of being gay. Wouldn't say the latter are generally sluts (because I definitely want a relationship, and I definitely know I am not alone there), but a proportion of them are either closeted or prefer NSA.



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    Oct 06, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    I really hate the term straight acting. No one is acting, this is how naturally masculine guys are.

    Also, people need to stop caring about who they are attracted too. The heart wants what it wants, and there is nothing wrong with that (unless they are a child or something like that). But as gay men we of all people should know not to chastise each other based on sexual attraction, it isnt something that we can control.

    Which is why all these threads about attraction need to die in a fire...
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    Oct 06, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    FlyGuyAFga saidNot typically attracted to the super masc types, and I actually know quite a few of guys that fit in this straight acting category. Some seem to hate anything gay-related, even this realjock website. One specific one I know gets disgusted by any hint of emotional signs and hates forms of affection or being touched.

    In one situatiom,When a straight friend gave me his copy of Breaking Dawn soundtrack, and my straight-acting gay friends tell me I'm too gay for having it in my car disc player, even when I try to show them the good tracks (BTW, the music was 10 times better than the cheesy movie).

    And if I'm not obssessed with team sports and can't hold a conversation about the history of a player or team, then we don't connect on a conversation-level there.

    One guy I know hates gay pride and any gay community stuff. Another guy I know won't step a foot into a gay bar. This kinda behavior shows me signs of a very judgemental person.

    Well, I guess the positive way to look at this is the saying "to each, their own" but I think the side effect is that it limits who your friends are when you take on the "gays-hating-gays" position. So if a gay person doesn't like anything gay, do they like themselves? It's also a degree of closed-mindedness once you think about it. I've also noticed this kind of straight acting guy can kinda be unpleasant and uncomfortable to be around sometimes.

    I fall in between masc and fem, in a nice neutral zone.
    Does anyone else run into these kinds of situations?


    I totally understand what you are talking about.

    There's a difference between a straight man and a gay man that describes themselves as "straight-acting." I'm sorry but whenever I hear of someone who describes themselves that way it only makes me think of how uncomfortable they are in their own skin. It's very conflicting.
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    FitBudz101 saidIf a guy's having sex with you and telling you he's straight, what he's really saying is either:

    a) "I'm not into you enough to want a relationship with you"
    b) "I'm not ready for a relationship with another guy, and might never be"
    c) Both the above

    Kind of a cowardly way to go about it, and i wouldn't do it myself, but i can appreciate the drama short cut.


    or

    d) Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    FitBudz101 saidLove overcomes denial.
    Refer to a).


    or

    e) Have I told you about my wife?
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidThis is the most tired topic on this website. icon_neutral.gif



    Thank you Jesus. It's like, get over it. Straight guys take up 90% of our world. Just go find some hot gay guys and go on with your life. Straight guys like women.
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 06, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Scientists had it right when they said gay men have a similar brain to females. Case in point: this post.icon_rolleyes.gif

    You are attracted to straight men because you think like a woman. That's all I have to say on this beat to death issue.
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidScientists had it right when they said gay men have a similar brain to females. Case in point: this post.icon_rolleyes.gif

    You are attracted to straight men because you think like a woman. That's all I have to say on this beat to death issue.


    All my female friends dig homos like no tomorrow though!
  • Vaughn

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    Oct 06, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    What's straight acting?










    We are all so abnormal I'm not sure we can figure it out.
  • haven

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    Oct 06, 2012 6:49 PM GMT


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