Masculinity-What does that mean, anyway?

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    Oct 06, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    Hi:

    I am Rubrod64 and this is one topic I ponder about often and like to discuss with others. The heading is the main question and the below questions are just meant to elaborate the main question. You do not have to answer each one, OK? Here they go:

    1) What is your definition of masculinity?
    2) When you hear the word "masculinity" or "masculine" what are the first thoughts that come to your mind?
    3) Have your perspectives on masculinity changed as you have grown older and/or endure certain life experiences? If so, how has this process been like for you?
    4) What connection do you see between masculinity and sexual roles in an intimate relationship?
    5) If a male does not fit your ideal of masculinity, how do you respond to that and why do you think you respond the way you do?
    6) How important to you are gender roles in a relationship and how do they fit your personal values?
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    You sure have a disproportionately low post count for the amount of threads you start. Around here you can only do that is your username is metta8



    Also no masculinity threads on RJ.


    Ever.
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    Stop this!!! The Internet is no place for the expression of ideas or seaking of information!!

    Only n00dz!!!!
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:15 AM GMT
    An oaf

    Overcompensation

    Yes, as I've watched more and more of these people use it as a tool to beat others down for not being good enough I've come to dislike the term and the people who use them more and more

    No connection what so ever.

    I respond to everyone in the same way as I respond to anyone. If they come across as sincere, honest, good, kind people who are true to who they are then They get the best of me. Those who don't, who wear masks, who hide, who stand behind pathetic phrases like totems I keep my distance from and don't desire wasting any time on them.

    Not important, In the sack I am who I am, I like what I like, I wanna do what I wanna do. I want to top, I want to bottom, I want to be dominant I want to be submissive, I want sex that's passionate, fun, kinky and sometimes down right freakin dirty. I don't care what position, whos the top or any other things, cause I love it all and I do it all.

    Rules are boring, narrow and limiting!
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:17 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidAlso no masculinity threads on RJ.


    Ever.

    If only they'd listen.. they dont...

    But that lets me post occasionally when I'm in a bad mood
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:33 AM GMT
    To me masculinity is an attitude, it's something you just are, it's not how you dress or "liking sports" or any of these very western male stereo-types, it's how you speak and walk and carry yourself.

    I relate to the term "soft masculine" meaning, my voice is higher but still "masculine", I like to be fashion forward if I can, but I don' sache'(not that theres anything wrong with that). many many gay guys have this close minded "white picket fence" view of masculinity...and it's fuck'n BORING. to me a masculine guy isn't afraid to express himself or break stereo-types. a pink haired guy in who'c creatively active is much more "masculine" to me then some dude who lifts weight and has a buzzed head. that's just boring impo.
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    This topic again.
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    Oct 06, 2012 9:49 AM GMT
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:06 AM GMT
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/?searchtext=masculinity

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    Oct 06, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
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    Oct 06, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    Masculinity is a very popular forum topic on here. I like each conversation that it starts up again. And there will always be a complaint thatit's been done before. So what if there are a lot of fourm topic about this, each poster usually asks a specific question to get some insight about something specific to their situation usually. A lot of people don't even read that first opening statement, they just see the title and start responding. BTW, headed to gym, so I'll bookmark this and answer those questions you asked later today.
  • hanzo83

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    Oct 06, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    1) What is your definition of masculinity? It's just the way a man naturally is. It's the way he walks, talks and acts in general. It's evident in the body language, how a guy moves his hands when he talks. Everybody has their own definition.

    2) When you hear the word "masculinity" or "masculine" what are the first thoughts that come to your mind? Just a regular man who naturally acts like it. To me it has nothing to do with what a guy talks about or what activities he likes. I'm masculine but I can enjoy the Real Housewives or Next Top Model at the same time lol. I watch them because the people are interesting. I got no interest in the women't hair or clothes or anything like that lol.

    3) Have your perspectives on masculinity changed as you have grown older and/or endure certain life experiences? If so, how has this process been like for you? No hasn't changed at all. I can just pick up on the masculinity or femininity in a person the same as I did back in high school.

    4) What connection do you see between masculinity and sexual roles in an intimate relationship? That one I'm not sure about. From what I read about and see in profiles it has nothing to do with the positions or sexual roles. I notice most men masculine or otherwise likes the pleasure of being a bottom lol. All men have the same parts and getting fucked must be so good that a lot of men don't want to do anything else in bed lol.

    5) If a male does not fit your ideal of masculinity, how do you respond to that and why do you think you respond the way you do? Well there was a guy I hooked up with once that told me he wasn't fem when I asked if he was masculine. He looked more masculine in his pictures and sounded it too over the phone, but wasn't so much in person. I couldn't see us as anything ore than friends after I met him. The same way I can be friends with a girl sort of.

    6) How important to you are gender roles in a relationship and how do they fit your personal values? I've never been in any relationship but I don't believe in gender roles in a gay relationship. All I can be is myself and I would never fit into any role just because that's what everybody else does.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:46 AM GMT
    Being yourself despite personal risk - it doesn't get butcher than that.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidBeing yourself despite personal risk - it doesn't get butcher than that.


    I like Eager's answer to this.

    Here is a star. :3

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  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    always say if you have to ask than you are probably not masculine.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:56 PM GMT
    1) What is your definition of masculinity?
    Masculinity should be defined as "a male who is comfortable with being male and is not insecure and judgmental about other males."
    2) When you hear the word "masculinity" or "masculine" what are the first thoughts that come to your mind?
    The first thought that comes to mind is a mental picture of some physical characteristics, and then some mannerisms. Physical characteristics that are masculine are: muscular development, big wide muscular shoulders, strong arms and hands, deep voice (which could both be a given physical attribute, or the way someone chooses to talk, some people force deep voices too much, and subconsciously, people pick up on it as being fake.)
    For masculine mannerisms, you think of someone who carries themselves in a good posture (some gay men let their necks droop their heads down too much, I wonder if other people have noticed this). Assertive is a positive word for masculine mannerism. Arrogant is description with a negative connotation for masculine.
    3) Have your perspectives on masculinity changed as you have grown older and/or endure certain life experiences? If so, how has this process been like for you?
    Yes, my views have changed. I thought masculine was assertive arrogant guys who are inconsiderate to everyone. As I've gone older and lived in metropolitan areas, I've seen very nice versions of masculine men who are assertive and confident, but do not have the arrogance and inconsideration.
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    Ah... Autumn. When the leaves turn, the air gets crisp, and a new crop of Forum members start the cycle of ubiquitous musings on the usual topics. If you're patient you might catch a glimpse of Tanker. So many rare species come out of hiding: the earnest respond, the misanthropic bitch. Mmmmmm. Ooooh....and pumpkin latté! Gosh, I love this time of year.