So given this site another chance

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    Oct 06, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    had it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes, anybody wanna add me or w/e?
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    I´m sure with a first post like that guys will be rushing to contact you.
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:37 AM GMT
    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes

    Very astute observation. Why are you then back?
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    Gonzo already said it. I'm feeling nice tonight, so I'm not going to say anything.
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    Oct 06, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    hahahahahahahahaha dating site.

    Gays don't date, they don't know how!
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    HikeSwimSkiSF said
    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes

    Very astute observation. Why are you then back?


    well there aren't any other options the other sites suck also and where I live there isn't much go'n on either so here I am.
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    Daveyarri20 said
    HikeSwimSkiSF said
    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes

    Very astute observation. Why are you then back?


    well there aren't any other options the other sites suck also and where I live there isn't much go'n on either so here I am.


    Actually I might say he has a very astute profile. Its hard anywhere - not sure SJC area but it seems his personality and manner would be a catch. Im way over his age limit but I wish I knew someone I could fix him with.
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    Oct 06, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    So given this site another chance

    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes, anybody wanna add me or w/e?

    This site is not primarily focused on dating. Although you can make almost any gay social site work for dating, if you become a forum regular and get to know the guys on a virtual social level. Some guys also prefer the live chat area, with or without webcam, though a lot of that is about mutual JO sessions.

    Online chatting is how I met both my partners, one of my LTRs and a number of BFs (defined in my mind as between 6-12 months steady dating). Post friendly stuff with little controversy (advice I can disregard for myself since I have a partner and no longer looking to date, and so I can indulge my interest in edgy political debates).

    Controversial debates are less likely to make you popular dating material, unless you find someone who agrees with you on these same topics exactly. Instead, chat about the innocuous & safe things you'd talk about if trying to break the ice at a social gathering - sports, fitness, cars, hobbies, schooling and career, general guy stuff. That's what led me to meet NJDewd posting directly above me here - some common interests, his visit to South Florida, a mutual interest in matching a face to a screen name.

    Offer good advice when you can, build a solid reputation for yourself. Express your interest in meeting guys from your area to put a person to an SN, but not to date. It's like they say about a job résumé: its purpose isn't to get you the job, but the interview for the job. Actual dating will come later. And if you want quick hook-ups, then there are sites like grindr for that.
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    Oct 06, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    There are some wonderful guys on this site, but RJ has never been, and probably never will be, a good dating site. It's not set up for that, and people are too spread out all over the globe to date realistically.
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    NJDewd said
    Daveyarri20 said
    HikeSwimSkiSF said
    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes

    Very astute observation. Why are you then back?


    well there aren't any other options the other sites suck also and where I live there isn't much go'n on either so here I am.


    Actually I might say he has a very astute profile. Its hard anywhere - not sure SJC area but it seems his personality and manner would be a catch. Im way over his age limit but I wish I knew someone I could fix him with.


    awww well thank you very much, your far far too kind. I just try to convey myself as best as I can.
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Wow, looks like we are in similar situations, (adults without complete independence) and apparently both in California.

    Well, If you want someone just to talk to, you can add me.

    Having my world being so small and closed off, I find that the forums are helpful in expressing myself and getting a small amount of human interaction. Maybe it'll help you out too.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 06, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    I would hope you'd be here to develop your friendships... or at least your own fitness.
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes, anybody wanna add me or w/e?

    Yeah, not a dating site. How useless would a worldwide forum be for dating?? --you find someone you like and they live in Uzbekki-bekki-stan or something.

    International Grass... it looks green as bro!!
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Daveyarri20 saidhad it before and noticed it was pretty useless for dating purposes, anybody wanna add me or w/e?

    Yeah, not a dating site. How useless would a worldwide forum be for dating?? --you find someone you like and they live in Uzbekki-bekki-stan or something.

    You'll have better luck with craigslist than you will on RJ. Better yet, do what normal people do and join a website or phone app that keeps things local.

    Good luck with your search, but going to RJ for dating is like walking into a butchershop for a tofu-turkey....not happenin'. icon_wink.gif

    Didn't you and your bf meet cute on here?