Do you hate or at least dislike your uncle?

  • mooore23

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    Oct 06, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Someone told me that 9 out of ten gays don't like their uncles.
    I am so not sure if it is reasonable, but I have four uncles, and I don't like them all !!!
    Actually I had a little quarrel with one of them.

    If I have to find a reason, I guess it's that my mom don't like my uncles, and I of course like my mom, so you know..........

    So what do you think of your uncles, love, hate or no feeling at all?
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    Oct 06, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    Interesting question since most of us will be, "at best," uncles.

    As a kid I could take or leave all seven of them because they were always at work during my formative years while most wives stayed at home. Now that they're all retired I get along with them all famously and relate to them much better, which is strange because being gay is as much as a non-issue for them now as it was when it was a real non-issue when I was a kid.
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    Oct 06, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    No problem with any of my uncles. I like them all.
  • hanzo83

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    Oct 06, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Well my mama has 8 brothers and my daddy has 6 but I only really knew 2 on my dad's side and 7 on my mama's side. I was never all that close to any of them really. I saw them at the family get togethers all the time and at home, but they always picked me up and tickled me and things like that as a child.

    I never had a problem with any of them until recently my mama told me that some of her brothers are wondering what my sexuality is since they never hear of me dating anybody. That pissed me off because I rarely ever see them and we aren't that close. I don't know which ones said this but it's none of their fucking business. I just hope I don't end up cussing them out over this one day lol.
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    Oct 06, 2012 4:29 PM GMT
    That's odd. I've never heard of that before. I don't know any of my uncles. I'm not sure any of them are still alive.
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    Oct 06, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    i have 9 uncles , i hate all of them !! i wish them to die as soon as possible im gonna enter their funeral and dance till i have no energy left lol , no i mean seriously they are so fucked up i hate all of them.
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    Oct 06, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    I very much liked my Dad's brother. But he wasn't much older than I am, so maybe that had something to do with it. On the other hand, I wouldn't say that I like my Mother's brother.
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Bloody oath , one i really dislike , the other one is a great man .
  • Just_Tim

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    Oct 06, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    I don't really keep in touch with any of my uncles, aunts or cousins. My uncles have never given me any reason to hate them though, we were just never that close.
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    Oct 06, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    I had just one uncle, a total douchebag, but a bunch of granduncles who were real nice including one who was my very favorite uncle, a great guy who was hard to hear because he spoke softly and mumbled but if ever you caught what he said, you'd laugh your ass off. He flew down to say goodbye right before he died, whispered one of life's little secrets in my ear that comforts me every time I'm troubled, then as I was taking grandpa home and my parents were taking him back to the airport, with tears streaming down my face he stood there staring at me, a big ol' smile on his face and gave me the peace sign. Such a great guy.

    But the douchebag uncle was my godfather, my mother's brother. I couldn't even get myself to go to his funeral as he'd already screwed my mother and me and earlier in life he screwed my father too. He only got along well with my brother, leaving him just his wine collection which cost my brother a small fortune to transport and what a hassle bringing that across state lines. I only learned after the funeral that the douche even stiffed my cousins. They were devastated, already damaged from losing their mom, my favorite aunt, to cancer in their early 20s. It still effects them today.

    Not only did he leave everything but the fucking wine to his 2nd wife (not a major problem in my mind, she was his wife afterall) but the kids discovered in his will that had he & his 2nd wife died simultaneously, everything would have gone to her extended family, not to his kids. In our family, that's called horror. Ya just don't do that to someone who loves you. Douchebag!

    He was always a pretentious asshole who lead his kids, the daughter especially, to believe she'd be taken care of financially & he flaunted that in her face. She loved him anyway with a closeness that most of us thought too close but whatever, it's what they had. Yet he screwed her too. He left her for the rest of her life with nothing but unanswerable questions.

    Here's my favorite uncle on the right. Found this photo just the other day in my mom's things and scanned it. Pic makes him look all sorts of proper with his pipe but he was a fun guy. Loved boating. Had a local fishing hole named after him. Kept his boat in St. Augustine on the same dock as Hoss from Bonanza. Tooled around town in his convertible XKE that he'd promised to leave to my brother. Only he liked to play and sometimes drove with his feet out the window. Not surprising he wrecked it before he died. My brother still hasn't forgiven him. That was a great car.

    And here's my favorite aunt, the douchbag's 1st wife. She was a fun, nice lady. Always made me feel at home in her house. The end of her life was so tragic. Breast cancer when medicine didn't really know what the fuck it was doing. They experimented on her with everything. That was tough to watch.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 06, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    ^^^^Sorry to hear about your aunt. She looks like a fun lady. I had an aunt who died of ovarian cancer, and the horrors she went through in the last few months of her life haunt me to this day.
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    I actually have a decent relationship with one uncle (he played a fatherly role for me when I was younger) However he has expressed a great amount of disagreement with homosexuality, so I'm not sure if it will last much longer.

    And I only know one of my other uncles. We are nice to each other, but don't know much about each other.

    But i don't think we have bad relationships.
  • Guycicle

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    Oct 06, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    My uncles are cool but a constant reminder that alcohol really f*cks with the the y chromosome in our family.
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    Oct 06, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. Yeah, I love that pic. She actually was a proper lady. I'm not sure that picture does her justice lol. My mom loved her too. Most of the gals in our family are rather busty so my aunt was relatively flat chested. So after the double mastectomy she had some sized up one put on. I'll never forget when my mother first saw them. She was so excited for my aunt that she went over and started playing with them with such delight. It was hysterical.

    But Joe, sorry for you too with your aunt. I hate so much that part of life. Intelligent design? Parts are just stupid. There's no reason for it. So much fucking pain. For what, to learn lessons? Bullshit. How about a design without all the pain so we can think.

    And this is why I'm so quick to click people on ignore when they manufacture pain and try to inflict it upon me or others. There's enough in the world already.

    It was enough that my cousins had to go through watching their mom die when they were so young. I'm certain that's why my cousin has an obesity problem. That stuff fucks ya up. It took her decades to get hold of herself. Then she starts to get healthy. And she's looking pretty damned good again. She's got her bod back in shape. Then my uncle fucks her. Damn it. What the fuck is wrong with people. Last I met my cousin for lunch I noticed bandaging on the inside of her thigh. I asked; it's from chafing. She got fat again. It's my uncle's fault. He owes her big time.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    That's a very odd question... My Dad has 9 brothers and sisters - that I never see. So I don't have a feeling one way or the other about them. I might see one or two of them once in a blue moon.

    My Mom has a brother and a brother-in-law. - I have mixed feelings about them. I don't dislike them or have problems getting along with them, but I do have disagreements with them at times, but that's the same with anyone in my family.

    I don't see how it's relevant to orientation myself.
  • amidon7

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    No. I have two uncles. Love them both.
  • TheIStrat

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    He's a piece of shit
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    I have 2 uncles.

    I don't really converse with my other family members.

    All of us are not really close.
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    My dad has 8 brothers and sisters.

    All of his blood brothers I am extremely close too (as his sisters) we are a very close family. I am close to one of my dads brother-in-laws.

    I did get into a fight with one of my dads sister over something and me and her husband have been luke warm to each other but I dont hate him by a long shot
  • LJay

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    Not at all. I had great respect for my uncle. He was very good to me and gave me a lifelong grounding in music. He was a very quiet and smartman who worked hard his entire life to nurture his own intellect. Even with limited means, he worked to get a degree, was a fine woodworker and the best of husbands for my aunt. He was a fine man.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    I don't really know my mom's brothers, and both of my dad's brothers are already dead at this point.

    I like my aunt's husband, though.
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    I had 16 uncles by blood or marriage at one point. A few are dead now. Of course I'm closer to some than others but never disliked any of them.
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    One uncle is deceased, the other is kind of a loser. That said I don't think uncle hate has anything to do with being gay. People draw strange connections...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    I like a couple, and am ambivalent to a couple other and don't know the rest that well.
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    Oct 07, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    One I fucking hate, the rest are ok. I have like 50...or 100..or 200 or something like that I don't know I've never met most of them. That's what happens when your great grandparents and grandparents had 14-16 siblings and your parents had like 6-8.