Alternative guys, where are they??

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    Oct 06, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    Granted this is indeed a site geared more towards the athletically conscious types, I'm curious as to know where the more "edgy" types of guys are, there seems to be very little of them in general. I feel like(if this is ignorance then please be forgiving and inform me politely) there's a lack of an acceptance of individuality, for example, before my current hair color, guys woulds say stuff like "if you buzzed your entire head you'd be more attractive" or "if you dressed more normal or show off your body more etc" yet hetero people have nothing but nice things to say usually about how I look and present myself, This is not relevant to just me or anything like that , that was not the intent but, are creative or expressive people deemed less valued or desired then somebody who may not necessarily be boring per say, but fits more into the typical rather then the tastefully unusual?
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    I am one (as I've been told too many times to count), and I suspect that's put the fear in others.
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    they're in SF! moveee
  • stratavos

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    Oct 06, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    Yes. When I had longer and a more artsy haircut I was told that "you would be so much hotter with shorter hair"

    Eventually I gave in. You do have to give in to some things of society if you want anything from it.
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    Oct 06, 2012 8:46 PM GMT
    They is off hugging a tree, and worshiping Father Earth, for ther world not to end.
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:31 PM GMT
    Are you talking alternative looks or interests?
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:35 PM GMT
    Yogi567 saidAre you talking alternative looks or interests?

    Think he means.. guys who put others off cause they feel misunderstood...
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    Yogi567 saidAre you talking alternative looks or interests?

    Think he means.. guys who put others off cause they feel misunderstood...


    I'm very alternative.. but I make sure I'm not misunderstood icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Yogi567 saidAre you talking alternative looks or interests?


    all of them really, like a pink haired guy who isn't flamboyant, wears funky cool stuff, etc.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    stratavos saidYes. When I had longer and a more artsy haircut I was told that "you would be so much hotter with shorter hair"

    Eventually I gave in. You do have to give in to some things of society if you want anything from it.


    well that's you, I will never resort to that, I understand completely though, for the record though, I also hate when guys have long hair, you can still have crazy cool hair and it be short or at least various lengths.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    Yogi567 saidAre you talking alternative looks or interests?

    Think he means.. guys who put others off cause they feel misunderstood...


    I mean in terms of style choice or aesthetics mostly, along with being misunderstood.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    Elusium saidI am one (as I've been told too many times to count), and I suspect that's put the fear in others.


    Thats how I feel, I feel like people get so comfortable in their ignorance and simplicity that red flags go off immediately anyone defies those standards rather then see beauty in the strange or unfathomable. so guys like this especially amoungst guys who like this boring simple type of guys, usually white, jocky etc. that they block out all other chances of seeing that theres something beyond that.
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    I don't mean to be rude or anything, but I thought one of the points to being alternative was to show that you're different. Why do you care if there aren't a lot of people like you? I doubt many people think less of you because of how you look, and if they do, then fuck em (maybe literally). Everyone is going to have an opinion about everyone else, and a lot of the time it's just going to be a negative one, so why worry about it?
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    Oct 07, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    SkittleGangsta saidI don't mean to be rude or anything, but I thought one of the points to being alternative was to show that you're different. Why do you care if there aren't a lot of people like you? I doubt many people think less of you because of how you look, and if they do, then fuck em (maybe literally). Everyone is going to have an opinion about everyone else, and a lot of the time it's just going to be a negative one, so why worry about it?


    You absolutely right, my main purpose of this though because I notice so many guys are well....similar..... and I mean that in a facets of ways not just appearance only. I notice that guys who aren't the typical guy or on the more creative side is virtually non-existent , that might be incorrect but it feel that way. Is different or individuality, both in thought and aesthetic's shunned by gay guys??? because it really does appear that way. straight laced, as well as straight everything seems to be drooled over by many guys. and I want to know what people think and how they think about people who aren't "that"at all. is an eccentric person, alternative person, creative person, shunned or embraced by gay men, or do they wish they where more straight-laced guys?
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    I'm pretty eccentric. o-o I think anyone who knows me well enough I'm totally not part of the 'ordinary' or 'normal' crowd. I'm not the pillar of masculinity nor of flamboyance. I'm not gay nor straight. I am me, myself. I enjoy doing things that I like, I follow my heart, I'm a spiritualist, and I do whatever the hell I want. I don't need license or permission from others-- unless we're doing THAT thing.. ;D

    But, ahem!

    I am not entirely sure what an "Alternative Guy" is, precisely. Creativity can manifest in a number of different ways, regardless of one's attitude or physical countenance.

    Could you define what an Alternative Guy is? icon_surprised.gif
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    Oct 07, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    ParadiseLost saidI'm pretty eccentric. o-o I think anyone who knows me well enough I'm totally not part of the 'ordinary' or 'normal' crowd. I'm not the pillar of masculinity nor of flamboyance. I'm not gay nor straight. I am me, myself. I enjoy doing things that I like, I follow my heart, I'm a spiritualist, and I do whatever the hell I want. I don't need license or permission from others-- unless we're doing THAT thing.. ;D

    But, ahem!

    I am not entirely sure what an "Alternative Guy" is, precisely. Creativity can manifest in a number of different ways, regardless of one's attitude or physical countenance.

    Could you define what an Alternative Guy is? icon_surprised.gif


    Not aesthetically or socially conforming to specific norms society views acceptable, and not to and extreme like polyamory or anything crazy like that. but For me I have a huge thing for guys with a more edgy appearance, and I feel that anybody like that is deemed unattractive or shunned, tattoos seems acceptable and desirable, but would most guys on here date a dude with pink or blue hair etc.
  • Aodhan

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    is this a Hipster thread??

    if not then I'm alternative! listen to the music and Ive never fitted into my society icon_lol.gif

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    Aodhan saidis this a Hipster thread??

    if not then I'm alternative! listen to the music and Ive never fitted into my society icon_lol.gif



    Hubbbbbby. :3 <3 <3


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    Daveyarri20 said

    Not aesthetically or socially conforming to specific norms society views acceptable, and not to and extreme like polyamory or anything crazy like that. but For me I have a huge thing for guys with a more edgy appearance, and I feel that anybody like that is deemed unattractive or shunned, tattoos seems acceptable and desirable, but would most guys on here date a dude with pink or blue hair etc.


    I suppose I'd be this 'alternative person' in that I do not conform to many views and defy a lot of their beliefs or standards. I'd dye my hair white, wear red or orange contacts, and tattoo my body with certain emblems if it didn't mean I would get kicked out of jobs. icon_biggrin.gif

    I would also never date a guy with pink/blue hair. +D I think it's.. strange and Nikki Menage-ish but that's just me.
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    Oct 07, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]ParadiseLost said[/cite]
    Aodhan saidis this a Hipster thread??

    if not then I'm alternative! listen to the music and Ive never fitted into my society icon_lol.gif



    Hubbbbbby. :3 <3 <3


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    Daveyarri20 said

    Not aesthetically or socially conforming to specific norms society views acceptable, and not to and extreme like polyamory or anything crazy like that. but For me I have a huge thing for guys with a more edgy appearance, and I feel that anybody like that is deemed unattractive or shunned, tattoos seems acceptable and desirable, but would most guys on here date a dude with pink or blue hair etc.


    I suppose I'd be this 'alternative person' in that I do not conform to many views and defy a lot of their beliefs or standards. I'd dye my hair white, wear red or orange contacts, and tattoo my body with certain emblems if it didn't mean I would get kicked out of jobs. icon_biggrin.gif

    I would also never date a guy with pink/blue hair. +D I think it's.. strange and Nikki Menage-ish but that's just me. [/quote


    Nikki menage-ish??? no no no no no no
    why is that the first thought that comes to mind??? you know punk dudes dye there hair those same colors a make most "masculine" dudes look like lil bitches right? hahahaha
  • vintovka

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    Oct 07, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    It's all relative--you have to work at it to seem edgy in S.F. or Brooklyn (and plenty of people are trying), but really I'd say a fair rule is that the bigger and more cosmopolitan a city is, the more breathing room there is for people who are different.

    As Jawbreaker says "your fear of normalcy is hardly strange."
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    Oct 07, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    If you are talking about style and appearance and trying to look different, I see nothing young people are doing today that has not been done years ago by punks, new wave, goths, club kids, etc. I am at the age where by now young people should have come out with something to shock me and they have failed. You kids disappoint me.
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    Oct 07, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    SkittleGangsta saidI don't mean to be rude or anything, but I thought one of the points to being alternative was to show that you're different.


    Being alternative is all about doing exactly what all the other alternative people do.
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    Oct 07, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    SkittleGangsta saidI don't mean to be rude or anything, but I thought one of the points to being alternative was to show that you're different.


    Being alternative is all about doing exactly what all the other alternative people do.


    but realistically isn't that anybody????? and alternative also means a way of thinking as well. but it's oh so totally cool to say I just wanna date the "normal" guy, when there isn't such a thing first of all. clothing and hair don't make individuals, where all individuals regardless, my point is that the lack of them I've noticed with same sex oriented guys is strange, vs once more, the typical average joe. my question was is any sort of self expressive personality less desirable.
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    Oct 07, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    Is this Emo-Lite, or Easy Emo? Cause my emo/alternative is a bit rougher and less concerned about aesthetics... so much I don't box it up, or sell my emo in any form... cause its free; as long as you can handle the feel, bud!
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    Oct 07, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    i'm so alt. i'm not going to hang with other alt. people.