Do you ever go to a bar alone?

  • reges198

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    Oct 06, 2012 9:11 PM GMT
    I can do just about anything by myself without a problem, but I would rather get hit by a truck than go to a bar alone. This seems silly, and seems like something everyone should be able to do. So, have you ever gone to a bar alone? Gay bar or "regular bar"? Do you bring a book or talk to the bartender? Both?

    I'm not really looking to go to hookup with a guy (although, I might not say no icon_razz.gif), so is it better to not go to a gay bar, or does not it not matter?
  • rnch

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    Oct 06, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    sure! why not??
  • Just_Tim

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    Oct 06, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    I never have but I don't see why it would be a big deal. I'd certainly do it.
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    Oct 06, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    not a bar by myself, but i have been to restaurants where im eating by myself and order a beer or two lolz icon_cool.gificon_cool.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 06, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    I used to all the time ... but I don't do the bar scene anymore
  • reges198

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    Oct 06, 2012 9:53 PM GMT
    Hmm, I've heard people say that they *would* do it, but they never have! It feels like there's a stigma attached to it.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 06, 2012 9:54 PM GMT
    reges198 saidHmm, I've heard people say that they *would* do it, but they never have! It feels like there's a stigma attached to it.

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  • Just_Tim

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    Oct 06, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    reges198 saidHmm, I've heard people say that they *would* do it, but they never have! It feels like there's a stigma attached to it.


    There is one bar in my town and I wouldn't even go there with a huge group of friends. That's why I haven't. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 10:22 PM GMT
    Fuck yes, thats the best way to go.

    No cock blocking from your friends icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI used to all the time ... but I don't do the bar scene anymore

    In my younger years, so did I. I usually had a very good time.
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    Oct 06, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    Never have ..

    Nothing wrong with it.
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    The first time I got in touch with the Gay scene I went alone to a gay cafe, coz I don't know any gay buddies. It was a "new world" for me. Since then I went alone to bars, discos or I can go out with somebody. There's nothing wrong with being alone in a gay place.

    I think going alone is interesting. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 06, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Claystation saidFuck yes, thats the best way to go.

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  • FlexFitGuy

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    Bar/club- yes

    Restaurant- no icon_sad.gif

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    Oct 07, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    Only if I keep the ring and my shirt on (see Rule 327 & 327B).
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    Oct 07, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    Was forced to when I travelled in Europe alone and it really was a great experience. At Porta Bar in Mykonos Greece on my first night I was just sitting there drinking my drink and then two guys next to me approached me. Apparently they had just met that night in the bar too. We all became friends and after 3 days I met like 15 other gays from all around the world who were travelling there!

    I guess it really depends on location as well. I'm heading to America/Mexico in 3 weeks by myself again and will be doing much the same. My belief is I'd rather put myself out there than be stuck in my hotel. Anyway I'm different on holidays icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 07, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    reges198 saidI can do just about anything by myself without a problem, but I would rather get hit by a truck than go to a bar alone. So, have you ever gone to a bar alone?


    You're entering the prime years of your life, so get up your confidence and get out there & grab some fun for yourself. I've done bars (in my single days) with friends and sometimes stag. Here what worked for me:

    * Work out first - get a pump going - then shower and hit the bar you have in mind looking and feeling on top of your game. Go sometime after 10:00 PM.

    * Walk in - look approachable - smile a bit - nod at some of the guys looking your way - radiate an attitude of confidence (not cockiness).

    * Approach the bar and order something - get into a bit of a chat with the bartender and / or any singles near where you are. Be yourself - and have fun with light chatter with people you don't even know.

    * If there is a dance floor - have that drink and approach someone who's just about your style and ask him to dance. It will probably be noisy and busy at that hour, so just look right into his eyes - smile a bit - and say "Dance?" If you're looking and feeling right - - - his answer will be a definite "yes".

    * Lastly - - - - be open, be attractive, have fun - and if you get lucky - play safe!
  • Pontifex

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    Oct 07, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    I think it is the best way to do it if you are looking to meet new people. And yes, talk to the bartender. They know most of the people in there. If you want to know if that cute guy over there is single the bt can probably tell you. If they aren't too busy they also know a lot of the gossip going around.

    Get up, walk around and make contact with people. If someone is eye fu... intercoursing you they would probably appreciate it if you use the balls they don't seem to have and go introduce yourself.

    You're also more likely to find someone to talk to if you are just sitting at the bar. Chances are someone will come up and start talking eventually.

    You want to go to the bar for a reason. You can drink for a fraction of the price at home so don't bring a book. You are going there because you want to socially interact with people.

    There is no reason to be shy or insecure because you are there alone. If you are at a gay bar alone it sends the message that you are looking to meet people so be prepared to be hit on by just about everyone who is single. You are an easier target than the guys in a big group.
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    Oct 07, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 said
    reges198 saidI can do just about anything by myself without a problem, but I would rather get hit by a truck than go to a bar alone. So, have you ever gone to a bar alone?


    You're entering the prime years of your life, so get up your confidence and get out there & grab some fun for yourself. I've done bars (in my single days) with friends and sometimes stag. Here what worked for me:

    * Work out first - get a pump going - then shower and hit the bar you have in mind looking and feeling on top of your game. Go sometime after 10:00 PM.

    * Walk in - look approachable - smile a bit - nod at some of the guys looking your way - radiate an attitude of confidence (not cockiness).

    * Approach the bar and order something - get into a bit of a chat with the bartender and / or any singles near where you are. Be yourself - and have fun with light chatter with people you don't even know.

    * If there is a dance floor - have that drink and approach someone who's just about your style and ask him to dance. It will probably be noisy and busy at that hour, so just look right into his eyes - smile a bit - and say "Dance?" If you're looking and feeling right - - - his answer will be a definite "yes".

    * Lastly - - - - be open, be attractive, have fun - and if you get lucky - play safe!


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  • prototype

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    Oct 07, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    Yep! Dive bar, metal band shirt on, and a double whiskey!

    Sometimes you gotta clear your head elsewhere! icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 07, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Yes, I like going to a bar every now and then by myself and having a drink and people watch...
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    Oct 07, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    RadRTT saidYes, I like going to a bar every now and then by myself and having a drink and people watch...


    I can't go to the bar coz I don't have a car yet. icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 07, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    I never travel with a posse. I nearl always go to bars alone. I always meet the most interesting people that way.If I went with friends chances are I would only talk with them and never meet anyone new. If I want to talk with friends, I invite them to my home for drinks.

    Just last night I met a guy that oddly enough lives just around the corner from me and I've never seen him before! He's quite a character and he and I hit it off. Tomorrow I'm going bike riding with him and his friends. Chances are this would have never happened if I was with friends.
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    Oct 07, 2012 3:58 AM GMT

    I have - mostly to just chill but I tend to people-watch. Most people assume I'm over 21 so why not.
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    Oct 07, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    I used to do it all the time... but don't recommend n00bz do it... icon_rolleyes.gif