Fake Friends: Have You Ever Had One?

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    Oct 08, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    Just a question. Im naive and I realize everyone who claims to have your back doesnt and people who say so many good things dont often mean it, but it still hurts a bit, especially when you feel like you bonded with that person.

    Im not mad anymore, but I just wonder if it happened to anyone else.
    Is it common, or was I just a bad judge in character?

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    Oct 08, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    I don't know if I've ever had a real friend. At school I had "friends" but only at school. I had a couple of friends, but they would always leave me hanging when it came to stuff we planned to do when we weren't physically with each other. When we were in the same room we had a blast. When we phoned, or played games online, half the time they were there, half the time they bailed.
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    arent they all on fakebook?....i meant facebook
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:40 AM GMT


    Oh yes, many.

    But that's never stopped me; it's their issues, not mine. icon_wink.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 08, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    i have a question for you. do you meet people and hangout with them a couple of time. then they become your friends? I am asking because I do not have friends that would do that to me. All my friends would be in corner if something happened to me. Also I have known my friends for years. I have acquaintances who have talked behind my back or tried to hurt me but none of my friends. I would have to say you have made some bad choices for friends
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    Yes... his name was Teddy, the Teddybear... and he always talked to all of my other toys, but never to me... he's in a box somewhere in a storage shed, paying for his crimes! icon_mad.gif
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    yea......especially in school.some people act nice to get school work from you.i have lost patience with many and i have f**ked them up icon_smile.gif they deserve to know that youre aware of their ways and that you cant tolerate it any longer......
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    yeah i had some fake friends back in high school. i later came to the conclusion that they only wanted me to hang with them because i had a car. once they started having their own cars they stopped asking me to hang with them. i was glad to have found out though, b/c it allowed me to focus less time on them and spend more time with other friends who became closer friends.
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    Oct 08, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    I met a guy at work, he did everything for me. When I was sad he would ask me whats wrong, if I wanted tot rade departments he would trade, was always there talking to me..hell even called me and sang happy bday to me.

    Then I quit, and its like we never met. He didnt even accept my friend request of facebook.

    Hurt my feelings..but that's his loss.
    I never understand why people do stuff like that when you don't really care..
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    Oct 08, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidI met a guy at work, he did everything for me. When I was sad he would ask me whats wrong, if I wanted tot rade departments he would trade, was always there talking to me..hell even called me and sang happy bday to me.

    Then I quit, and its like we never met. He didnt even accept my friend request of facebook.

    Hurt my feelings..but that's his loss.
    I never understand why people do stuff like that when you don't really care..

    Sounds like he was your work friend and he is experiencing a feeling of loss and it is manifesting itself in an emotion of angry at you because you left.
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    Oct 08, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    JamieJfromtheA saidI met a guy at work, he did everything for me. When I was sad he would ask me whats wrong, if I wanted tot rade departments he would trade, was always there talking to me..hell even called me and sang happy bday to me.

    Then I quit, and its like we never met. He didnt even accept my friend request of facebook.

    Hurt my feelings..but that's his loss.
    I never understand why people do stuff like that when you don't really care..

    Sounds like he was your work friend and he is experiencing a feeling of loss and it is manifesting itself in an emotion of angry at you because you left.


    Well if he was really my friend, we could have been friends outside of work and got together. He has my number and I his, I text him and he doesnt even respond..i dont care anymore..if he doesnt want t be my friend anymore oh well.
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    Oct 08, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Depends what you define as fake friends

    For me a fake friend is someone who is friends with you for a specific reason or interest. I have had very few of those in my life and have not bothered myself with them
  • Karl

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    Oct 08, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    Yes , so many , I always see them backbitting another friend icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:06 AM GMT
    Endless selfindulgent threads - have you ever read one?
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:10 AM GMT
    Yea. I ain't got nothin to say to them though
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    Oct 08, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    zeffery saidarent they all on fakebook?....i meant facebook

    Bah ha hah ha.
    I'm gonna buddy list ya for that.
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    Oct 08, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    I think it depends on how you define "friend." It is increasingly becoming a loose term, to the extent that one can have hundreds or thousands of "friends" by Facebook measurements. But if you mean someone who tries to associate with you for a specific, selfish purpose and doesn't truly value you as a person, sure I've bad friends like that. They are pretty few, far between, and becoming far less common. As life gets busier, there's less time to share with people. Why waste what little time you do have with those who are not sincere, loyal, and selfless friends?
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    Oct 08, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    i always keep a few around
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    Oct 08, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    zeffery saidarent they all on fakebook?....i meant facebook


    This haha
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 08, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    I try not to have unrealistic expectations for people who say they have my back.
  • O5vx

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    Oct 08, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    Even though I have 500 people added on Facebook, I think I could only truly call about 2 of them my friends. There are different types of interpersonal relationship, you and your friends get to decide which type of relationship that you both want to create with each other.
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    Oct 08, 2012 7:05 PM GMT

    In terms of Fake Friends...No none otherwise not friends, I would just keep a handful of few good ones, others all are just Hi-Bye friends with no such compassionate bond, you can tell there are the ones comes to you just for themselves. Opportunist! and I never liked them! if only they were zombies for good! I would be happily slaying them!
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
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    In terms of Fake Friends...No none otherwise not friends, I would just keep a handful of few good ones, others all are just Hi-Bye friends with no such compassionate bond, you can tell there are the ones comes to you just for themselves. Opportunist! and I never liked them! if only they were zombies for good! I would be happily slaying them!


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    Oct 08, 2012 10:04 PM GMT
    I get along with every one or so I thought. There was this one woman who talked about me behind my back which surprised me because I genuinely liked her. I confronted her and told her what she said about me was disappointing to hear however I get to pick and choose who are my friends are. I chose her because I like her laughter, wit and company so she had to get used to it. She was embarrassed and ashamed but we became great friends. In fact, her husband recently told me that because of me, she stopped gossiping and was humbled by me.

    To the OP, if you really like your friend, tell him or her why. He or she may have no clue how important they really are in your life.



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    Oct 08, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    My friendship use to be a open bar... letting anyone in. February this year i turned it into a exclusive club (we are all worth this change imo). Blocked out a bunch of ppl and added some walls. The end result, i now have REAL friends and understand the role acquaintances play in life, honestly, i wish i did it 5 years ago...