People's FANTASIES of you and meeting in PERSON

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    Oct 08, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    Ever meet someone in person and you can tell they've built this unrealistic perpetual fantasy of you from your pictures? And then they meet you and you have this pressure on you to be what they dreamed up? And they don't understand that it's different meeting in person--that you have to start over as real flesh and blood people?

    Happened to me tonight. Did the guy expect me to be posing like my profile pictures or something. Takes two to make the thing go right, I say. He was like a log, and not even a warm one. icon_neutral.gif
  • iiheartwaves

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    Oct 08, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    Personally, I feel that if you didn't show up to our date dressed like you are in your mud wrestling photo ... I would be very disappointed.
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    iiheartwaves saidPersonally, I feel that if you didn't show up to our date dressed like you are in your mud wrestling photo ... I would be very disappointed.


    The fact that you want to date me makes up for my so-so night. icon_wink.gif
  • Timbales

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    Oct 08, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    No, I doubt anyone fantasizes about me.
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    Oct 08, 2012 12:01 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidEver meet someone in person and you can tell they've built this unrealistic perpetual fantasy of you from your pictures? And then they meet you and you have this pressure on you to be what they dreamed up? And they don't understand that it's different meeting in person--that you have to start over as real flesh and blood people?

    Happened to me tonight. Did the guy expect me to be posing like my profile pictures or something. Takes two to make the thing go right, I say. He was like a log, and not even a warm one. icon_neutral.gif


    you have no one to blame but yourself
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    Oct 08, 2012 12:10 PM GMT
    Sarcasm aside, I think I can relate to this quite well. People say I always look quite different from my pictures. I'm not sure why because they're being taken by my webcam. It's not like I'm altering any aspect of myself in the picture. They tell me though "I thought you'd be taller" even though I specifically state my height in my profile. *Scratches head* I'm not misleading anyone. :s

    *Shrugs and hugs* You're fine by meeeee. :3
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    Oct 08, 2012 12:14 PM GMT
    I'm not very photogenic, so...
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    Oct 08, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    It must've been cold there in the shadows of your RJ profile.
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    Oct 08, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidEver meet someone in person and you can tell they've built this unrealistic perpetual fantasy of you from your pictures?
    Yeah, everyone expects me to walk around flexing all the time.
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    Oct 08, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost saidSarcasm aside, I think I can relate to this quite well. People say I always look quite different from my pictures. I'm not sure why because they're being taken by my webcam. It's not like I'm altering any aspect of myself in the picture. They tell me though "I thought you'd be taller" even though I specifically state my height in my profile. *Scratches head* I'm not misleading anyone. :s

    *Shrugs and hugs* You're fine by meeeee. :3


    I certainly wouldn't be disappointed in your height. (though you do sound taller) ;-)
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:24 PM GMT
    This is why it serves me to be honest about what keeps grounded, whenever possible. Would hate to have someone ONLY have PERFECT expectations of me. If they like me after being aware of my past, they may actually deserve my present...and vice versa...
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    Ive generally had the opposite reaction, people tend to think I am much more attractive in person than in pictures. Not too sure why.
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:40 PM GMT
    Chainers saidIve generally had the opposite reaction, people tend to think I am much more attractive in person than in pictures. Not too sure why.

    icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gificon_razz.gif
    You attractive outside too!
    Ohhh that brain and heart of yours...
    Bet you're too busy to notice guys noticing you?
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    Chainers saidIve generally had the opposite reaction, people tend to think I am much more attractive in person than in pictures. Not too sure why.

    icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gificon_razz.gif
    You attractive outside too!
    Ohhh that brain and heart of yours...
    Bet you're too busy to notice guys noticing you?
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    No one notices me, I am forever invisible icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:58 PM GMT
    I'm famously unphotogenic so I exceed expectations. Plus I'm The Thinking Man's Sex Symbol.
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    Oct 08, 2012 1:59 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    Chainers said
    JR_RJ said
    Chainers saidIve generally had the opposite reaction, people tend to think I am much more attractive in person than in pictures. Not too sure why.

    icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gificon_razz.gif
    You attractive outside too!
    Ohhh that brain and heart of yours...
    Bet you're too busy to notice guys noticing you?
    icon_neutral.gif


    No one notices me, I am forever invisible icon_sad.gif

    Oh bosh, you're just in Montana, which I admit is the same thing.
    Go someplace civilized.


    Im working on that, it is harder than I would have thought.

    All though being invisible is nice for now.
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    jprichva said
    Chainers said
    JR_RJ said
    Chainers saidIve generally had the opposite reaction, people tend to think I am much more attractive in person than in pictures. Not too sure why.

    icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gificon_razz.gif
    You attractive outside too!
    Ohhh that brain and heart of yours...
    Bet you're too busy to notice guys noticing you?
    icon_neutral.gif


    No one notices me, I am forever invisible icon_sad.gif

    Oh bosh, you're just in Montana, which I admit is the same thing.
    Go someplace civilized.


    Im working on that, it is harder than I would have thought.

    All though being invisible is nice for now.

    I'd wrastled you a long time ago!
    You can haz civilized boyfriends, and career too!
    You're awesome!
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    Chainers said
    jprichva said
    Chainers said
    JR_RJ said
    Chainers saidIve generally had the opposite reaction, people tend to think I am much more attractive in person than in pictures. Not too sure why.

    icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gificon_razz.gif
    You attractive outside too!
    Ohhh that brain and heart of yours...
    Bet you're too busy to notice guys noticing you?
    icon_neutral.gif


    No one notices me, I am forever invisible icon_sad.gif

    Oh bosh, you're just in Montana, which I admit is the same thing.
    Go someplace civilized.


    Im working on that, it is harder than I would have thought.

    All though being invisible is nice for now.

    I'd wrastled you a long time ago!
    You can haz civilized boyfriends, and career too!
    You're awesome!


    Awe thanks man. I'm surprised people still remember me with how little I post on here now lol
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    Oct 08, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    I've been told: That I take great pictures. That the pictures don't do me justice. So I don't know who to believe!

    I don't know whether I realistically approach someone's fantasies. Maybe I'm not that perceptive to notice.