He's very sweet but...

  • Amira

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    Oct 08, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    (inb4 tldr)

    There's this guy I've known for a few months. We basically met at his second job and he gave me his number. It was cute because generally I don't get hit on in public so it was refreshing.

    Now before I started talking to him on the phone I thought he was sweet and seemed like a nice guy. So when we started talking on the phone everything was good and so later on that week I picked him up and we went to the beach one night. As were driving to the beach all I hear from him is how the world is so corrupted, the dollar's value is going to crash by the end of the year, there's going to be a one-world government, etc.. All of what he is telling me is not something I have not researched myself. I just stopped caring long time ago about theories like that since I live a life with a positive outlook.

    So then he starts talking about Christianity and how love for Jesus can do this and that. I don't mind when someone has their own religious views, but it's difference when someone is talking to you about it versus preaching to you about it.

    As were at the beach sitting and talking I find out he's looking for someone to basically have a "friends" with benefits type of deal. I was a little confused by this since it didn't match up with his demeanor. So basically he was telling me how he just wanted to have fun and not be in a relationship. Towards the end of the night I did kiss him but only because I could not help myself, but that was that and it didn't last long. After that night he would send me all these text messages saying that he really wanted to be with me and all this stuff. I didn't feed into it because it seemed to me he does not know what the hell he really wants.

    So we lost contact for about two months due to him lying to me about something really small and so we didn't communicate as much..

    A few days ago we spoke on the phone and he was begging me to just him a chance as a boyfriend. Ten minutes into the conversation he starts preaching again about Christianity to me. This conversation lasted over an hour on the phone... He's telling me all this stuff about how homosexuality is wrong and that five years ago he could never see himself with a woman but now he could see himself married with kids in a few years.

    I'm sorry but what! If you want to change yourself so strongly for your beliefs go right ahead but while you are in that process of change I won't be your experiment to see how easily you can get over men. Even though I'm one year younger than him, I just feel like he has much to learn in this world. He thinks I know nothing about Christianity but little does he know that I have satisfied my personal knowledge to know that who I am as a person is not an abomination as most people make out. I just don't go around sharing what I've researched unless a person willingly asks me to share my opinion.

    And really this whole thing has nothing to do with dating someone who's a Christian, because I can careless. To me it's about being able to be with someone who is as comfortable in their skin as I am.

    Anyone with similar experiences?
  • Fable

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    Oct 08, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    No, but it sounds like he has some issues he needs to work out.
  • Amira

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    Oct 08, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    fable saidNo, but it sounds like he has some issues he needs to work out.


    Right, that is how I feel which is why I've distanced myself from him before.
  • rnch

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    Oct 08, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    Run. Run quickly, Run far.
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    Oct 09, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    Unstable men will make you unstable..
    You can do better Amira.. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    dude sounds fucked bro.

    i wouldnt even talk to a cray cray like that.
    Christianity? preaching? friends with benefits? awww helll nah
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    Oct 09, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    People like that pull you down to their level.....he wants to cling on to you in the worst way. I like the run fast theory.... but you should be nice about it....

    Usually when people are dating they want to show their best side and you don't really know the true person until you have been with them for awhile. He showed his poker hand a little too quick.

    It's kind of like fishing .... you're trolling along (lol) and you snag a fish. You usually throw that one back .... but when you're trolling at a pretty good speed and one hits your lure.... it's usually a keeper.

    Good luck
  • Amira

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    Oct 09, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    klassik saiddude sounds fucked bro.

    i wouldnt even talk to a cray cray like that.
    Christianity? preaching? friends with benefits? awww helll nah


    Yeah I'm not talking to him since then.. Plus he got mad at me when I told him how he was coming off.
  • Amira

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    Oct 09, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    robbee333 saidPeople like that pull you down to their level.....he wants to cling on to you in the worst way. I like the run fast theory.... but you should be nice about it....

    Usually when people are dating they want to show their best side and you don't really know the true person until you have been with them for awhile. He showed his poker hand a little too quick.

    It's kind of like fishing .... you're trolling along (lol) and you snag a fish. You usually throw that one back .... but when you're trolling at a pretty good speed and one hits your lure.... it's usually a keeper.

    Good luck


    I love the analogy you gave. It definitely rings true. And yes I could hardly speak with him on the phone just because of all these bad things he swear that is going to happen.. For me I can careless, I'm not putting my life on hold for some theory. Thanks!
  • Amira

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    Oct 09, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    jprichva saidI had a similar first date once. The guy was a devout Catholic and told me all about how we're going to hell because of our fleshly desire for other men, but he's made his peace with it, so, like you wanna fuck?


    Do I wanna... fuck? icon_neutral.gificon_confused.gif

  • unicoman1

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    Oct 09, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    This is going to be my official answer to certain threads!

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  • reptile18

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    Oct 10, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    Next time you hear from him tell him you were only interested in him because you PITIED him. icon_twisted.gif