Do you fear becoming that old gay creep?

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    Oct 08, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    You know the type. The ones that creep alone at clubs, waving meekly at any young guy that walks by. Or the one that have sugar babies or pays for sex with rent boys or whatever? Or the pictureless profile without the age listed that messages people and gets angry when they don't respond back?

    I feared becoming that guy, and that was pretty much the reason I came out of the closet and started going to gay clubs now while I still have my youth. I feel a lot of the reason that some of these older gay guys are creeps is because they were closeted their whole lives and didn't live in the more accepting climate that we live in today. Still, there are a lot of closeted guys out there who might wait too late to accept who they are. Therefore being hella repressed and becoming the gay creeper.

    Not saying all older gay guys are creeps. One of my best friends is a 40 something year old guy who is genuinely nice, openly gay Christian and does triathalons, etc. A lot of younger guys hit on him and want to get with him. Is very well known and liked in the community. I rather go down that path, but part of me wonders if 20 years down the line when my looks have faded and I'm no longer finding sex that easily or guys for relationships, what sort of things I'll resort to (If anything.) Right now its very easy for me to say that would never happen, but we never know what circumstances in life lead us down a weird path. I just feel like it is a very lonely existence :-/

    I guess I fear how I will fit in this scene (Which is so focused on sex and youth.) when I'm older and I'm wondering if anyone else has the same sort of fear. Similarly, I can't see myself with an older man when I'm older unless he ages really gracefully lol. Shallow, I know. :-/

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    Oct 08, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    I only fear becoming one of those old guys you'd consider a creeper 'cause:

    - in my twenties I didn't want anyone in the locker room to see my butt
    - in my thirties the subterfuge got exhausting
    - now I'm like, hello? anybody?
    - then I'll wind up one of those old farts who don't give a crap anymore sitting balls to the wind on the locker room bench
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    I just dont wanna get old...
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidI only fear becoming one of those old guys you'd consider a creeper 'cause:

    - in my twenties I didn't want anyone in the locker room to see my butt
    - in my thirties the subterfuge got exhausting
    - now I'm like, hello? anybody?
    - then I'll wind up one of those old farts who don't give a crap anymore sitting balls to the wind on the locker room bench


    It will be interesting to see how this generation of gay guys ages considering how much more open the world is about it today. My problem is I'm really attracted to young guys and I don't really see how that is going to change in the near future . So what happens when I'm the older guy? I mean I know its coming at some point, I just don't really know whats in store for me. Will I have a sugar baby? -_- lmao who knows.

    I'm jealous of the gay guys in the future for who its not a big deal at all if they're gay or straight, you know what I mean? I mean I know I have it a lot easier than guys 20 years ago. I think it'll only get better from here.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    Alejandro12 saidI just dont wanna get old...


    Yeah I feel you man. And I got like 3 years on you so imagine how I feel lmao.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    The older/old guys have a much smaller possible dating pool because the great plague wiped out close to 80% of them.

    Really, we are just you, but in an aged body, which we have no control over. icon_wink.gif

    PS creeps come in all ages icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:29 PM GMT
    wannaseeit saidOne of my best friends is a 40 something year old guy ...

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    Oct 08, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    meninlove said The older/old guys have a much smaller possible dating pool because the great plague wiped out close to 80% of them.

    Really, we are just you, but in an aged body, which we have no control over. icon_wink.gif

    PS creeps come in all ages icon_wink.gif


    Older does not = creep to me. I'm talking about the type that messages you "hey" on grindr about 5-7 times in a week without getting the hint. But you're right creeper status is not limited to age. Though it is more prominent in the 40+ sector ;) lol
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    Alejandro12 saidI just dont wanna get old...

    The only way to do that is to die young. Good luck with that.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    Creepiness can be controlled... every aspect of your personality you leave checked and unchecked.

    As for age, I couldn't care less if I turn old and gray, cause we're all headed that way anyway. Youth isn't forever, though some have an extension on it, most take it for granted and take years from their own lives with their repetitive mediocrity.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    Caslon21000 said
    wannaseeit saidOne of my best friends is a 40 something year old guy ...

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    Oct 08, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    The fear of aging is highly immature.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:34 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidThe fear of aging is highly immature.


    Actually, I think its a natural human emotion. Just like fear of dying. I mean for the most part its a struggle for gay guys to even have kids unless you jump through hoops to adopt or have enough money to shell out for a surrogate. So its just a very lonely path for some people I think.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    I'm not quite old creep yet. But just know that no matter what age a person is they are pretty much like you. They can actually be super people even though you aren't attracted to them at all. I'm finding out now some of my aunts and uncles and grandparents were actually super people. You'll find as you get older life is short and you will run into creeps everyday of your life out there in public. Guys grabbing your ass is the least concern.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    braddomo saidI'm not quite old creep yet. But just know that no matter what age a person is they are pretty much like you. They can actually be super people even though you aren't attracted to them at all. I'm finding out now some of my aunts and uncles and grandparents were actually super people.


    I don't think there's a creep age, I just think there's a time in peoples lives where some may become desperate and become creeps. I know a lot of nice older guys, none of them are creeps. But then you go to a club or something and you have those random 50 year old guys making a grab for your ass and sniffing poppers in the corner.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    that's why you finish your slut phase early and settle down in something long term and meaningful before your looks go. Build on it so that by the time your partner's looks go too, there'll be something left to be attracted to.

    The creepy gays you speak of, many thought they were the bomb back in their 30's and it just crept up on them
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    wannaseeit said
    TheBizMan saidThe fear of aging is highly immature.


    Actually, I think its a natural human emotion. Just like fear of dying. I mean for the most part its a struggle for gay guys to even have kids unless you jump through hoops to adopt or have enough money to shell out for a surrogate. So its just a very lonely path for some people I think.


    It is something that cannot be controlled or altered. You will age, and you will die. To become so consumed with regret and fear is an unneeded burden in the short life that you are allotted.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    yes
    so i dont go to clubs
    i dont hit on younger men
    i ask every younger man who hits on me ,if he saw my age. [ icon_smile.gif they usualy say ,yes i love it]
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    wannaseeit said
    TheBizMan saidThe fear of aging is highly immature.


    Actually, I think its a natural human emotion. Just like fear of dying. I mean for the most part its a struggle for gay guys to even have kids unless you jump through hoops to adopt or have enough money to shell out for a surrogate. So its just a very lonely path for some people I think.


    It is something that cannot be controlled or altered. You will age, and you will die. To become so consumed with regret and fear is an unneeded burden in the short life that you are allotted.


    Easier said than done man. A lot of people have anxiety issues just thinking about the fact that one day they're going to die. You just can't tell someone to get over it or that feeling that way is immature. If it were something that trivial then support groups would not exist for these cases. But I'm glad you're comfortable with it. Lucky you icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    wannaseeit said[...] I guess I fear how I will fit in this scene (Which is so focused on sex and youth.)[...]


    There are a lot of "scenes" and they are focused on lots of things. Personally none of my scenes are based on youth, just as none of mine are based on size or muscle. My scenes are based primarily on if I'm attracted to the guy and that's primarily based on his attitude.

    There's a guy at a bar about 20 years younger than me that has been after me for well over a year. He's youthful, slim, attractive, nice, horny ... but just not my type and it's getting irritating. He's a creep, a guy the age of someone who could be my son.

    At the same time I get hit on by guys half my age and have mutually enjoyable times.

    Don't worry about pointless stereotypes.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    I don't go out in public unless necessary.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
    ASHDOD saidyes
    so i dont go to clubs
    i dont hit on younger men
    i ask every younger man who hits on me ,if he saw my age. [ icon_smile.gif they usualy say ,yes i love it]


    Get it!! haha. That will probably be me when I'm your age. I don't want to sound ageist here, I was just having a conversation with my friend last night about the passage of time and freaked myself out thinking about how the past 10 years went by in a flash. I guess its just scary to me that in no time my youth will be behind me. I guess I'm just in that 20-something phase where you're uncertain about the future lol
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    Caslon21000 said548527_392620004144473_1259858516_n.jpg


    I lol'd.
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    Oct 08, 2012 9:53 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    wannaseeit said[...] I guess I fear how I will fit in this scene (Which is so focused on sex and youth.)[...]


    There are a lot of "scenes" and they are focused on lots of things. Personally none of my scenes are based on youth, just as none of mine are based on size or muscle. My scenes are based primarily on if I'm attracted to the guy and that's primarily based on his attitude.

    There's a guy at a bar about 20 years younger than me that has been after me for well over a year. He's youthful, slim, attractive, nice, horny ... but just not my type and it's getting irritating. He's a creep, a guy the age of someone who could be my son.

    At the same time I get hit on by guys half my age and have mutually fun times.

    Don't worry about pointless stereotypes.


    Hm that's an interesting perspective. And its true creeps come in all shapes and sizes. But I think you should hook up with that guy ;) lol