calling all guys that have NEVER been in a relationship

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    Oct 08, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    I have never been in a relationship with a guy befor, i do want to, people keep telling me it will happen in time but im not patient, i know i should wait for the right guy

    just wondering what other guys in my position that have NEVER had a relationship feel about being single

    how long now has it been for you since and if you came out

    are you worrying about it at all and do seeing other guys together annoy you ?
  • reptile18

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    Oct 08, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    I've been single all my life, but I just recently met someone thru a friend of a friend (more accurately, a straight friend's girlfriend's gay friend). It's not really anything tangible at the moment just some light chats on FB. When I was single, I'd constantly flip flop between being glad I'm single because I don't think I could fit another person into my hectic life, and occasionally feeling lonely and wanting to have someone to confide in.

    I hope this works out to be exactly what I need: A distant boyfriend who talks to me occasionally and who I meet up with from time to time, but doesn't require a constant presence, etc.
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    Over a 14 year period (1991-2005), I lived with three different guys. Been happily "single" (living on my own) for the past 7.

    The only thing is, I never "waited" for the right guy. My first secret boyfriend was in high school. The guy I moved in with in 1991 was a one-nighter who happened to be out of the closet, and wanted a live-in boyfriend. It was a quick way to move away from home and "come out" to friends, without the family finding out for another two years (we got caught - oops).
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    Oct 09, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidI have never been in a relationship with a guy befor, i do want to, people keep telling me it will happen in time but im not patient, i know i should wait for the right guy

    just wondering what other guys in my position that have NEVER had a relationship feel about being single

    how long now has it been for you since and if you came out

    are you worrying about it at all and do seeing other guys together annoy you ?


    You? Single? icon_eek.gif

    *Sigh* Why do these types live so far away from me.

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    Oct 09, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    it makes me feel very very very sad, -___-, it's headache inducing, has made me gain weight, it's one of the hardest most empty things one could feel, and worse part is the pain comes from feeling nothing at all. I became officially out to my parents a few months ago, they and others of course suspected duh, it's incredibly tough, I've wanted a boyfriend since the 7th grade. But not a whole lot of fellas out here. has nothing to do with how attractive your are either, ugly good looking and normal guys can feel hopelessly single.
  • hanzo83

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    Oct 09, 2012 12:47 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidI have never been in a relationship with a guy befor, i do want to, people keep telling me it will happen in time but im not patient, i know i should wait for the right guy

    just wondering what other guys in my position that have NEVER had a relationship feel about being single

    how long now has it been for you since and if you came out

    are you worrying about it at all and do seeing other guys together annoy you ?


    I just started becoming comfortable with being gay a few years ago so I never even thought of having a boyfriend. I was into 1 girl in particular for some years and being with a guy in a relationship just didn't cross my mind until my early twenties.

    I moved back to my small hometown after college where it's not easy to meet anybody so I just accept the fact that I might not meet anybody while I have to live here. I'm fine being single for now. All I want right now is to get better situated financially so I can move the hell out of small townville lol. I know once I do that things will look up.
  • Nayro

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    Oct 09, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I've never had a relationship yet. On the surface I sometimes think I will never find someone. But deep down I know (and hope) that there is someone for me out there that I will find! icon_smile.gif


    I know cliché right? :p
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    move to Australia and we can be together forever icon_redface.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    Daelin saidI've never had a relationship yet. On the surface I sometimes think I will never find someone. But deep down I know (and hope) that there is someone for me out there that I will find! icon_smile.gif


    I know cliché right? :p


    If you lived closer to me then maaaybe... icon_surprised.gif

    But only if youse were interested too. :/
  • HPgeek934

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    Oct 09, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    Dude, I would date the shit out of you
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    Stay single because you can
    Get wild
    Yell to the heavens
    Wake up at a strangers house
    Leave without saying goodbye
    do it all over again

  • Oct 09, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    How in the hell are you single?????? I would fly out to London to meet you up for a date haha.
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    I've been out for like 2 years and I've never been in a relationship. I definitely like being single a lot more often than not. But I do definitely get annoyed with couples haha

    ....geez I'm single as fuck...
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    I haven't been in what one calls an LTR my entire "gay" life. Why? Because no one wants to date me for only one reason: I live in the sticks and unfortunately for me, most gay men won't venture outside their 50 mile radius gayborhood.

    It's a fact. I've had many of men say they would date me and then they follow it up with a "too bad you don't live closer" statement that totally annoys me. Only to find out that, they themselves are single and live in a major gaytropolis and have a problem finding quality men to date them.

    I think gay men are way too picky and find themselves constantly asking themselves, "why can't I get a date or why doesn't anyone like me?" Perhaps they need to cast their nets further than beyond their reach because there are quality men out there. You just have to be open to the possibility that they're not just in YOUR gayborhood.

    Seeing two men together does not annoy me because its different strokes for different folks. It takes time Gymfreak to establish a relationship that is built on trust and respect and not just looks.

    Happy Hunting!
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    I'm single and never have been in a relationship. I don't like it, and wish I could at least start dating. I'm the type who wants to find the right guy as soon as possible, so having to wait to even start dating does annoy me.

    I haven't actually come out, though I have accepted my sexuality.

    I think about it all the time, but I'm not necessarily worried right now, but I do wish I could at least start dating. Honestly I like seeing other people happy, but it does remind me of what I don't have.
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    I don't have a need to be in one. Doesn't mean that I'm very self-conscious of my past lack of relationships considering that there seem to be a lot of people I know that are getting married and/or having kids.
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    you said it, now you have to do it
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:25 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidyou said it, now you have to do it


    Do what precisely? icon_smile.gif

    ...And how often? icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    I have never been in a relationship, but came out fairly recently (several months ago). Im just seeing where life takes me at this point.
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    If you're waiting for that one person, then best of luck to you. I mean that in all the best. My bf never dated anyone before me. I'm his first bf and we are 3 years strong and we just moved in with each other.
    Nothing wrong with never being in a relationship.
    Note: you never said anything about being a virgin, so I assume you are at least getting some on the side icon_razz.gif
  • MuscleFit

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    Oct 09, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    It sucks being single, thats my opinion considering that I have never been in a real relationship. Seeing two guys together does not annoy me, however seeing a guy that blew me off after a couple of dates with his new "boyfriend" is annoying!! Especially when the new "boyfriend" is not attractive at all! I just think he's a dumbass and move on!
  • RaggedyMan

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    Oct 09, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    you called............
  • Montague

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    Oct 09, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    To be honest I'm single by result of my selfishness.
  • JD44

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    Oct 09, 2012 2:58 AM GMT
    Same boat here, just don't think about it too much. Go out there and meet new people, have no expectations. You will know when there's a click. It will happen, just be patient.
  • Jonny21

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    Oct 09, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    I have never been in a relationship with a GUY before either.

    I do want to be in one but I am also waiting for the right guy. Although I am happy being single, I would love to share my life with some else and I trust that I will find "the one" eventually!

    It has been about 2 year since I came out (well partially). Lastly, I love see healthy relationship, whether the are straight or gay. It restores my faith in humanity, lol.