"Ew, Gross"

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    Oct 08, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    So I was talking to my dad about something in glee between the gay characters, I basically was like I had hoped they would have gotten together and his response was "ew gross." Do any of you guys that are out have parents/siblings/relatives/friends that still give that type of response when they think of two guys in love with each other? Do they do it in front of you? Do they do it behind your back? Have they changed their minds on the matter?
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    All the fucking time. My mom sometimes makes comments about how being gay isn't right, even though I know she doesn't mean to offend thats just how she was brought up. She treats me the same she just doesn't like it, but she doesn't hold it against me.

    My brother on the other hand constantly makes fun of gays, saying its wrong, they're corrupting the children (Even though he and his wife are in a loveless marriage and they've both cheated on eachother multiple times, and he has the nerve to comment on the sanctity of marriage,) etc. He's a Fox News watchings extreme Republican. His hatred of anyone or anything different (He's a bigot) pretty much has estranged me from him as I choose not to talk to him, even though I'm not out to him. The worst part is that he says all this shit to me even though I'm sure he suspects...so its particularly hurtful. You just have to deal with it, I know its not fun but you can find yourself a support group and a family outside of your family that accepts you for who you are.
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    Even after 20 years, my mom still gets uncomfortable talking about it because she thinks I'm going to hell.

    Fortunately I have a good friend base to turn to when it gets to me.
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    OneSongGlory saidSo I was talking to my dad about something in glee between the gay characters, I basically was like I had hoped they would have gotten together and his response was "ew gross." Do any of you guys that are out have parents/siblings/relatives/friends that still give that type of response when they think of two guys in love with each other? Do they do it in front of you? Do they do it behind your back? Have they changed their minds on the matter?

    of course. it is gross to him. Just like straight people bumping uglies is gross to me. He and I are not wired to appreciate the opposite sexualities. He didnt put them down. He just expressed his natural revulsion. He shouldnt have to repress that, as long as he doesnt go over board with expressing his natural aversion.
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    Oct 08, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    I don't understand why straight people always got to the mental image of two men having sex.
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    Oct 09, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    An asexual cousin did it recently but I just threw her a dirty look and she showed remorse. She and her nonlesbian partner of over 30 years are sexually clueless so I didn't take it personally, I only threw the look so she doesn't embarrass herself in front of strangers. A few months back the partner was telling me a story about her 80 year old dad and his new wife, that she suspected they were "doing it". OMG. Doing it. And she giggled. She's in her 40s. So it's not just gay sex that throws them off, it's any kind of sex. They just don't get it. That's just the way they are.

    Next time someone says ew about you sucking dick, just ask them how that pussy tastes. Cause it looks just awful.
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    Oct 09, 2012 12:12 AM GMT
    Some people will always think two guys together is gross..
    ..Not much we can do about it..
    But if there is disrespect..that's where we draw the line.. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    The real kicker is when they say its gross cause they don't understand it...as if they'd ever takes the necessary steps to "understand" same sex sexuality for themselves... they either need to accept you for who/what you are, or not speak another foolish comment from their ignorance.
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    My mom seems to be disgusted by it but I don't care. +D It's not going to stop me. icon_smile.gif Then again, gay friends of mine are disgusted by my interest in vagina too soooo... :3
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    Oct 09, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Yeah my mom says that anytime there is gay kissing or intimate moments.
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    I'm always amused when I'm watching a dvd with friends or family and some gay content comes on and they look over at me to see ...well, I don't know what they're looking at. To see if I'm enjoying it I guess.
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidI'm always amused when I'm watching a dvd with friends or family and some gay content comes on and they look over at me to see ...well, I don't know what they're looking at. To see if I'm enjoying it I guess.


    Wow that is weird icon_eek.gif Maybe they are just not sure how to act and looking to you for an example? (Or not, I have no idea)
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidI'm always amused when I'm watching a dvd with friends or family and some gay content comes on and they look over at me to see ...well, I don't know what they're looking at. To see if I'm enjoying it I guess.


    Next time that happens, you should start rubbing your crotch, and when they stare in shock, just say in a condescending voice, "What?? That is what you were expecting wasn't it???"
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    y0l0 saidMy mom has gay cousins, a bunch of them actually. She said she never let me go to their house as a kid because she didn't want me to end up like that.
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    I hope by now that she realized it has nothing to do with social interaction, but that it's genetic (ie.'born that way').
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
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    y0l0 saidMy mom has gay cousins, a bunch of them actually. She said she never let me go to their house as a kid because she didn't want me to end up like that.
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    I hope by now that she realized it has nothing to do with social interaction, but that it's genetic (ie.'born that way').


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    Oct 09, 2012 2:48 AM GMT
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    paulflexes said
    y0l0 saidMy mom has gay cousins, a bunch of them actually. She said she never let me go to their house as a kid because she didn't want me to end up like that.
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    I hope by now that she realized it has nothing to do with social interaction, but that it's genetic (ie.'born that way').


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    The fact that you understand that the way it was intended gives me a hard on.
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    Oct 09, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI don't understand why straight people always got to the mental image of two men having sex.
    It's quite odd to say the least. On some of my other forums where gay rights/homosexuality are discussed often, the #1 thing every fundie conservative or republican brings up when discussing gays is "sodomy"/anal sex.

    Can one seriously pull the straight card when the first thought that hits their mind when they hear "gay" is anal sex between 2 men?
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    Oct 09, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    Virtually all our relatives on both sides are OK wit us being gay and supportive, but nobody ever asks us anything about it.
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
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    Lol That is so true. If they don't think we're partying or *ahem* engaging in intimate behavior icon_redface.gif then they think we are shopping or doing other stereotypical behavior.
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    ParadiseLost said
    paulflexes said
    y0l0 saidMy mom has gay cousins, a bunch of them actually. She said she never let me go to their house as a kid because she didn't want me to end up like that.
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    I hope by now that she realized it has nothing to do with social interaction, but that it's genetic (ie.'born that way').


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    The fact that you understand that the way it was intended gives me a hard on.


    I wanna seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. D:
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    My mom and dad still think its a choice. When I came out my mom said "well i will never be for gay marriage". I asked my dad the other day what he thinks about gay marriage now that Ive been out for months. My heart broke a little when he said "what's the point?"
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    Phoenyx saidMy mom and dad still think its a choice. When I came out my mom said "well i will never be for gay marriage". I asked my dad the other day what he thinks about gay marriage now that Ive been out for months. My heart broke a little when he said "what's the point?"


    Aww.. icon_sad.gif

    *Hugs him tightly* :3
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    paulflexes said
    ParadiseLost said
    paulflexes said
    y0l0 saidMy mom has gay cousins, a bunch of them actually. She said she never let me go to their house as a kid because she didn't want me to end up like that.
    icon_rolleyes.gif
    I hope by now that she realized it has nothing to do with social interaction, but that it's genetic (ie.'born that way').


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    The fact that you understand that the way it was intended gives me a hard on.


    I wanna seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. D:
    I don't feel like hooking up old external hard drives just to show you video of my hard on.
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    ParadiseLost said
    paulflexes said
    ParadiseLost said
    paulflexes said
    y0l0 saidMy mom has gay cousins, a bunch of them actually. She said she never let me go to their house as a kid because she didn't want me to end up like that.
    icon_rolleyes.gif
    I hope by now that she realized it has nothing to do with social interaction, but that it's genetic (ie.'born that way').


    i_was_born_this_way_gif_by_versicolorart
    The fact that you understand that the way it was intended gives me a hard on.


    I wanna seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. D:
    I don't feel like hooking up old external hard drives just to show you video of my hard on.


    Darn. :/ I wanted to see Paul's floppy too. D: Maybe open up his zip drive. :/