being bisexual

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    Oct 09, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    your thoughts? whats it like for other bi guys? what do gay guys think of bi guys? Sometimes i think i can just be gay but then i look over at the guy next to me and see him in some new light and completely fall out of lust with him in that same second. Same thing with girls its like one second i just wanna hold and protect them the next i feel suffocated and pressured and all i want to do is run the opposite direction as fast as i can. I feel like i change sexual orientation on a bi weekly basis, and i feel like people constant expect me to just pick a side but it's really not that easy.... sometimes i like only guys, sometimes i like only girls, sometimes both, and sometimes i'm just asexual and i find no one attractive. i mean everyone's bi on some degree but i just think i sway back and forth on that scale depending on my hormones that day....and in case anyone was wondering im in that asexual phase right now and its really depressing =(
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    Oct 09, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    I've had 3+ways (orgies) that involve females.

    I never once touched the female's pussy (boobs don't count - they're' actually quite fun to motorboat - especially when her boyfriend is hot and naked).
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    Oct 09, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    I have been emotionally hurt in relationships with female and male partner . And like you , sometimes i would be attracted to women , and then sometimes to men , switching between both following my moods . After meeting my ex-wife and til my divorce , the bond we had , stopped my attraction to men and as weird as it seems , i absolutely had no desire for men during those 15 years . When our relationship started to go down the tube , my desire for men started to come back and after we separated , women weren't attractive to me anymore . Nowdays , i would say i am into an asexual mood , it totally satisfies me .icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    OP some factors that fuel your "Swings" could be chemical, emotional, your age..or just plain confusion,
    ..I'd think at 23 when you gain more experience with both sexes you'll be more secure in your sexuality..
    ..Cheer up..you just need some time.. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP some factors that fuel your "Swings" could be chemical, emotional, your age..or just plain confusion,
    ..I'd think at 23 when you gain more experience with both sexes you'll be more secure in your sexuality..
    ..Cheer up..you just need some time.. icon_biggrin.gif
    I think he's a 4 on the Kinsey scale.
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  • Kriss

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    Oct 10, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    Hang in there dude! Actually sometimes I feel the same way, I can appreciate a womans body but as of lately not so much. Especially around in this the women and sometimes the way they live make me fear whats in their vagina......

    That being said men are more...of a challenge. Frankly though sometime's its ok to sit back and sort yourself out first. Unless Craig Horner walks by and says

    "Come away with me."

    Then by fucking god you take that mans hand and run off into the wilderness to fornicate till you can't move an inch!

    jk...but not really I love Craig Horner.
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    stfuandkissme saidyour thoughts? whats it like for other bi guys? what do gay guys think of bi guys? Sometimes i think i can just be gay but then i look over at the guy next to me and see him in some new light and completely fall out of lust with him in that same second. Same thing with girls its like one second i just wanna hold and protect them the next i feel suffocated and pressured and all i want to do is run the opposite direction as fast as i can. I feel like i change sexual orientation on a bi weekly basis, and i feel like people constant expect me to just pick a side but it's really not that easy.... sometimes i like only guys, sometimes i like only girls, sometimes both, and sometimes i'm just asexual and i find no one attractive. i mean everyone's bi on some degree but i just think i sway back and forth on that scale depending on my hormones that day....and in case anyone was wondering im in that asexual phase right now and its really depressing =(


    Actually you're not alone. Me and some other bi friends of mine have the same experience- tomorrow I'll be straight, next week I'll be gay, in three weeks I'll stop giving a shit.
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    dude...have sex with whoever the f*** you want. Don't limit yourself or put boundaries. As time goes on it seems like this world builds more and more walls...where we gonna be in 20 years? a fuckin box... have sex with whoever you are attracted too..BE FREEEEE ..damit
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
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    stfuandkissme saidyour thoughts? whats it like for other bi guys? what do gay guys think of bi guys? Sometimes i think i can just be gay but then i look over at the guy next to me and see him in some new light and completely fall out of lust with him in that same second. Same thing with girls its like one second i just wanna hold and protect them the next i feel suffocated and pressured and all i want to do is run the opposite direction as fast as i can. I feel like i change sexual orientation on a bi weekly basis, and i feel like people constant expect me to just pick a side but it's really not that easy.... sometimes i like only guys, sometimes i like only girls, sometimes both, and sometimes i'm just asexual and i find no one attractive. i mean everyone's bi on some degree but i just think i sway back and forth on that scale depending on my hormones that day....and in case anyone was wondering im in that asexual phase right now and its really depressing =(


    Actually you're not alone. Me and some other bi friends of mine have the same experience- tomorrow I'll be straight, next week I'll be gay, in three weeks I'll stop giving a shit.

    Ugh, that sounds rather difficult. Given those swings do you guys want relationships? How would that work longer term? I've often read that bi's differentiate between emotions and sexuality like falling in love with x while being attracted to y. Does that happen?
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
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    stfuandkissme saidyour thoughts? whats it like for other bi guys? what do gay guys think of bi guys? Sometimes i think i can just be gay but then i look over at the guy next to me and see him in some new light and completely fall out of lust with him in that same second. Same thing with girls its like one second i just wanna hold and protect them the next i feel suffocated and pressured and all i want to do is run the opposite direction as fast as i can. I feel like i change sexual orientation on a bi weekly basis, and i feel like people constant expect me to just pick a side but it's really not that easy.... sometimes i like only guys, sometimes i like only girls, sometimes both, and sometimes i'm just asexual and i find no one attractive. i mean everyone's bi on some degree but i just think i sway back and forth on that scale depending on my hormones that day....and in case anyone was wondering im in that asexual phase right now and its really depressing =(


    Actually you're not alone. Me and some other bi friends of mine have the same experience- tomorrow I'll be straight, next week I'll be gay, in three weeks I'll stop giving a shit.

    Ugh, that sounds rather difficult. Given those swings do you guys want relationships? How would that work longer term? I've often read that bi's differentiate between emotions and sexuality like falling in love with x while being attracted to y. Does that happen?


    Actually from what I've heard, yes. I talked to Doug of Meninlove the other day and he said that one of his bisexual friends was attracted to x physically but y emotionally and mentally but he found someone that was able to satisfy both his physical and emotional needs.
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    I have no idea how it works to be honest, but from my standpoint I think bi guys have it hard. Not only do they have a wider range of who they can fall in love with, but they also get pressure from some members of the straight/gay communities. Straight people would question "why not just be straight?" and gays would question "why not just be gay?" I feel for bi guys but only they will know who they will fall in love with.
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos said

    Actually from what I've heard, yes. I talked to Doug of Meninlove the other day and he said that one of his bisexual friends was attracted to x physically but y emotionally and mentally but he found someone that was able to satisfy both his physical and emotional needs.

    I wish you good luck finding your needle in that haystack. At least there is hope icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
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    Bullwinklemoos said

    Actually from what I've heard, yes. I talked to Doug of Meninlove the other day and he said that one of his bisexual friends was attracted to x physically but y emotionally and mentally but he found someone that was able to satisfy both his physical and emotional needs.

    I wish you good luck finding your needle in that haystack.


    Thanks I guess... =/
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
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    stfuandkissme saidyour thoughts? whats it like for other bi guys? what do gay guys think of bi guys? Sometimes i think i can just be gay but then i look over at the guy next to me and see him in some new light and completely fall out of lust with him in that same second. Same thing with girls its like one second i just wanna hold and protect them the next i feel suffocated and pressured and all i want to do is run the opposite direction as fast as i can. I feel like i change sexual orientation on a bi weekly basis, and i feel like people constant expect me to just pick a side but it's really not that easy.... sometimes i like only guys, sometimes i like only girls, sometimes both, and sometimes i'm just asexual and i find no one attractive. i mean everyone's bi on some degree but i just think i sway back and forth on that scale depending on my hormones that day....and in case anyone was wondering im in that asexual phase right now and its really depressing =(


    Actually you're not alone. Me and some other bi friends of mine have the same experience- tomorrow I'll be straight, next week I'll be gay, in three weeks I'll stop giving a shit.

    Ugh, that sounds rather difficult. Given those swings do you guys want relationships? How would that work longer term? I've often read that bi's differentiate between emotions and sexuality like falling in love with x while being attracted to y. Does that happen?


    Actually from what I've heard, yes. I talked to Doug of Meninlove the other day and he said that one of his bisexual friends was attracted to x physically but y emotionally and mentally but he found someone that was able to satisfy both his physical and emotional needs.


    Actually, it was more than a someone - several people, men and women. I'm an inquiring kind of guy, lol.
    The men that were in gay relationships found men that had a fully developed and very expressive emotional side, which was what they were attracted to in women (not all bi men are attracted to women in this way, but these guys were) and also had all the male aspects they were attracted to as well.

    -Doug
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    I think it's internal homophobia in early years. You don't see men as emotional and therefore cannot reconcile your sexual feelings with your emotional feelings.
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    Oct 10, 2012 2:58 AM GMT
    bluey2223 saidI think it's internal homophobia in early years. You don't see men as emotional and therefore cannot reconcile your sexual feelings with your emotional feelings.


    Somewhat. That probably explains the "bi now gay later theory" but I don't see it as a stepping stone, especially if it's life long. I've come out as gay at one point but I didn't feel it fit, and I know a few people like that also.
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    Goodluck to all you bi guys, I feel for you all having this internal turmoil that's hard for anyone else to really understand.
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    OK, so welcome 2 the club; very sorry about your depression.
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos said
    bluey2223 saidI think it's internal homophobia in early years. You don't see men as emotional and therefore cannot reconcile your sexual feelings with your emotional feelings.


    Somewhat. That probably explains the "bi now gay later theory" but I don't see it as a stepping stone, especially if it's life long. I've come out as gay at one point but I didn't feel it fit, and I know a few people like that also.


    You're 20. Enough said.

    I still don't feel like I fit in with the gay people yet at 26, but I'm at least trying it out and making a commitment to it rather than trying it at ages pre-20, which don't count. No one is mature then.
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    Oct 10, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    Life's a banquet and most people are starving.
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 10, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    A bi guy on RJ asked me to a 3some with his girlfriend. I was like sure.... if she's off in the corner tucked away behind a curtain.
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    Oct 10, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    my man is bisexual, his last partner was actually a girl. but i like bisexual guys better cause they got better moves if you know what i mean??