My orientation is confusing

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    Oct 09, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    So I had an interview to discuss my qualifications for becoming a big brother. The interview was pretty intensive. Eventually she mentioned my orientation and I told her I was interested in Men. Then she asked about love life and I talked about my bf I recently broke up with. And I also talked about this girl in high school that I had a crush on. Now I kept my composure until I talked about her. Once I started I couldn't stop and I was blushing the whole time. When I mentioned that I took her out to see a play this year I blurted that I still love her the interviewe and I looked at each other and I tried to get off the subject lol


    Anywhos I know that I am attracted to men. I suck dick, fuck. Get fucked etc. I even crush on some of the guys here like fabeyy. Anywhos MAria has a baby girl and she's married. Its been about 5 years now and yet I never felt this way about any girl or guy like her. I surpressed my feelings cuz of my attraction to men but talking about her brought all these emotions back to the surface.

    In hs when she asked me out I froze and I was scared to try cuz I knew I liked men so I never did it. But even now when I see her and hug her my heart races a bit. I guess I'm wondering WHY cuz it doesn't make any sense to me

    my current emotion song lol



    Edit: Typo i meant FabeyyB that's one sexy man lol


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    Oct 09, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    It's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif


    lolz I'm such a loser. I got all dressed up that night to take her out and made sure i was off work...all to take out a married mother. i actually asked if i can call her today to get my feelings off my chest. i hope it she dont get mad at me
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    Oct 09, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    tmac said
    paulflexes saidIt's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif


    lolz I'm such a loser. I got all dressed up that night to take her out and made sure i was off work...all to take out a married mother. i actually asked if i can call her today to get my feelings off my chest. i hope it she dont get mad at me


    That might be pushing it, I mean she's married and all. But if you just talk to her to tell her how you feel and work it out, and that's all, I guess that won't be so harmful to your friendship. I hope things work out T.
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    Oct 09, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    tmac said
    paulflexes saidIt's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif


    lolz I'm such a loser.
    When did being bi make someone a loser? icon_wink.gif

    PS. That doesn't include the bi's who are perpetually closeted, preach/act against gay rights, and eventually get caught with rent boys.
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    OneSongGlory said
    tmac said
    paulflexes saidIt's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif


    lolz I'm such a loser. I got all dressed up that night to take her out and made sure i was off work...all to take out a married mother. i actually asked if i can call her today to get my feelings off my chest. i hope it she dont get mad at me


    That might be pushing it, I mean she's married and all. But if you just talk to her to tell her how you feel and work it out, and that's all, I guess that won't be so harmful to your friendship. I hope things work out T.


    Sorry I was in the moment there when I first made this post. But yeah I took a second to think and realized that may not be a good idea. I don't wanna cross those boundaries. I will tell her when I'm more composed lol. We all saw what bnrian did to Louis on family guy
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 09, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    It sounds like you are bi buddy. It also seems as if you decided to choose sides because you were into guys.
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:11 PM GMT
    Maybe another perspective is that you loved her. Love doesn't know sexuality. Love is the heart, not the dick. So you loved her. Don't confuse past experience with current reality. I loved both of my wives (one at a time, thank you). I was always attracted to men, but I was afraid to act on it. Now I'm no longer afraid. Why that is, is for another thread.

    Both of my ex-wives have a special place in my heart. Would I ever want to spend very much time in their presence? Hell no! They're ex'es for a reason (or two or twelve). But there is still a level of love and respect for them.

    I say to relish the experience of past loves and learn from them how to love more, better, deeper in the future.

    Carry on men!
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidIt sounds like you are bi buddy. It also seems as if you decided to choose sides because you were into guys.


    You have a point. I'm more comfortable pursuing men than I am with women. When girls flirt with me and I think they cute id freeze
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 09, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    maybe you are just looking for a girl friend .... girlfriend
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidmaybe you are just looking for a girl friend .... girlfriend


    lol i just wanna be loved yo!
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    I would venture to say that your entire post is rather confusing icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:52 PM GMT
    See 0:14 commentary.



    She's married. Just...no.
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidSee 0:14 commentary.



    She's married. Just...no.


    i'd never cross that line. but i really would like to meet another person who i'd feel the same about or even more so
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    Oct 09, 2012 9:57 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif


    Word.
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    Oct 10, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    Sebastian2 said
    paulflexes saidIt's called being bi. icon_biggrin.gif


    Word.


    im gonna fulfill my fantasy and have a bi threesome =D
  • Kriss

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    Oct 10, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    No confusion your just bi. Or at least there is one girl that is an exception for you. I think a decent amount of bi-sexuals have like one or two women they look back and gets their blood pumping good luck on that three some!
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    Oct 12, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    YES i told her and she didn't freak out icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 12, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    I think its awesome that you're investigating your own sexuality, and even more amazing that you're not making excuses about it. Just be comfortable with whatever degree and nature you prefer your relationships with either gender at the time you're dating is, and also be sure that they're accepting of you for who you are, cause you shouldn't have to compromise what makes you a complete person for another person to be complete in/of themselves. I wouldn't mind a bi boyfriend, as long as I was the only guy/person we were exclusive with each other at the time, but that same stipulation applies to all guys I date. To deviate from that would end the relationship.
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    Oct 12, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    Attraction, beauty, being drawn to the things you love is a gift. Value and cherish it. Man, woman. It sounds like you have great taste.
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    Oct 12, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidI think its awesome that you're investigating your own sexuality, and even more amazing that you're not making excuses about it. Just be comfortable with whatever degree and nature you prefer your relationships with either gender at the time you're dating is, and also be sure that they're accepting of you for who you are, cause you shouldn't have to compromise what makes you a complete person for another person to be complete in/of themselves. I wouldn't mind a bi boyfriend, as long as I was the only guy/person we were exclusive with each other at the time, but that same stipulation applies to all guys I date. To deviate from that would end the relationship.



    yeah no matter who im dating id be faithful. I believe i lean more towards men, and she was the exception to that rule, but who knows? the heart has its reasons
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    Oct 12, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    Congrats to you! Happy for you!

    I have an old college friend whom I have always had an attraction to regardless of me being gay. We just get each other - we click. No interest in women or their "parts" and I definitely would not identify as bi. It's hard to describe. I have an appreciation for the female form, but it does nothing for me. I just know that the relationship we have goes beyond friendship. It's cool to have while being confusing. I think it is so cool maybe because that sexual component is not there. Dunno.

    Again, glad you were able to work it out with her!
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    Oct 12, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    You are Bisexual.