Nutrition Sabotage!

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    Aug 20, 2007 12:37 PM GMT
    I almost posted this in the nutrition section but it seems to fit better in relationships.

    My partner and I eat fairly well. We both enjoy cooking and are consequently pretty good at it. The thing is that when I'm trying to be careful about how much I eat he truly is supportive. But this week I realized a lot of what I eat that I shouldn't is things he brings into the house. He's been gone all week and I've been eating so well! Heavy on the veggies, reasonable portions, and no cheese. I may have even lost a little weight because I also increased my exercise frequency.

    And before I get jumped on about placing blame, I fully understand that I alone am responsible for what goes into my mouth.

    I love him dearly and the only time we consistently spend together is in the kitchen and at the dinner table. But it seems like I have to constantly push back against his influences. If I had more willpower it would certainly help. But how do you deal with a loved-one who gets annoyed when you take half your food back to the kitchen just so it's not there on the plate tempting you?
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    Aug 20, 2007 4:54 PM GMT
    Get smaller plates.
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    Aug 20, 2007 5:21 PM GMT
    Have you tried talking with your partner? Maybe he's just not aware of what he's bringing home.

    In any case, don't feel that you need to cut out completely all the bad stuff. Every now and then, in smaller portions, won't kill you. Even consider finding low-fat and healthy versions of those entrees. They're out there somewhere, just need to do a bit of detective work.

    Mealtime sounds like it's a very intimate time for you two, so when you make the full-fat versions of dinners from time to time, make it a special occasion. Light some candles, put on some music, and then after eating I'm sure you guys will end up doing some cardio.

  • GQjock

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    Aug 20, 2007 9:04 PM GMT
    Let him know that it's difficult for you to have that kind of stuff in the house...
    ...BUT in the long run you are responsible for yourself don't be blaming other people for your actions t'ain't his fault you turn into the Cookie monster whenever he brings a bag of Keeblers into the house
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    Aug 20, 2007 10:13 PM GMT
    tell him to get over it.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 20, 2007 10:54 PM GMT
    I use to have same problem with my live in lover long ago. Most partner view the get and sharing a meal together as a romantic times . He probably do this because he dont want to lose you. You know if yo are so attractive , there my be a chance you might find somebody new and leave him.

    Probably the best is to have a talk with him rather than keeping it inside your heart. Who know you could actually can get him motivated and interested to keep in shape. Now that will be great , doesnt it.
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    Aug 21, 2007 12:18 AM GMT
    Thanks for the replies. We do actually talk about it. It just seems like such a balancing act of health, relationship and enjoying food without freaking out. I didn't even go into the situations of being out with friends. And then there's Mom. People talk about the media bombarding us with ads all the time trying to get us to stuff our gobs with Big Macs and the like. That's nothing compared to the real person in front of you that you love.

    One thing I've done is sort of a damage control approach. If I think of the traditional three meals, two are entirely mine to control, breakfast and lunch. I've eliminated breakfast entirely and switched over to a light mid-morning snack. Lunch I try to be somewhere in the range of sensible to overcautious. I figure it gives me some breathing room for dinner. 'Cause I seldom know what that's going to involve.
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    Sep 24, 2007 5:27 AM GMT
    Your second post really bothered me.

    Seriously. You will never be lean or healthy if you skip breakfast. You're starving yourself with the regimen you just described and it will only make you gain non-lean weight, aka fat because your body will be freaking out about not getting enough calories most of the time and then any time you cheat it will convert it to fat because it thinks you will starve again.

    You need to eat 6 balanced meals a day with 2-3 hours in between. You need to drink lots of water. You need to stay active but not too active that you're overstressing your body.

    You have a partner, you're one of the lucky ones. If he bringing in junkier food then set aside 1-2 days a week when you can eat the junk that way you get your free days and then you can get back to your healthy diet.