My 7-Year-Old Son Wants a 'Likes Boys' T-Shirt, and Here Is Why He's Going to Get It

  • metta

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    Oct 11, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    My 7-Year-Old Son Wants a 'Likes Boys' T-Shirt, and Here Is Why He's Going to Get It

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/my-son-likes-boys_b_1927869.html
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    Oct 11, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    That's great that the parents are so accepting, but at what point does a parent look down at their SEVEN year old son wearing a "I Like Boys" t-shirt and consider what kind of agony this could cause him.
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    Oct 11, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    I knew this was related to glee as soon as I read the title. Personally if I were out I'd wear one in someplace like NYC or something. As a kid, he'd probably get tons of insults for wearing it and I don't think that a kid should have to put up with that. The parents should let him wear it only when they're around or if he's going to be somewhere that they know something bad cannot happen to him (a friend's house etc.)

    When he's older and can take the abuse, he can wear it all he likes.
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    I have mixed emotions about this. On one hand, in no way do the parents want to discourage their son's individuality. However, 7 is, well, 7 --- it's an age in which kids are fearless, and they don't yet know how cruel the world can be at times. I would probably let the kid wear the shirt around the house or when I was with him, but definitely not to school --- at 7 parents still get a say in what their kids wear in public.
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Smart mom and smart parents. It's definitely a gray area, nurturing a young boy who identifies at a young age he's gay. Because there is still a lot of hate and anger in the world that would shred that little boy to pieces. Finding that balance between encouraging honesty and expression and protecting from the world's damaging hate is a delicate case by case process.
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    Fine, fine, fine. They love their little boy and support his budding sexual orientation by giving him the LIKE BOYS t-shirt. We get it but geez, are they that stupid????

    What if they run into other parents at the local cafe or during their errands? Don't they think the others will discriminate and pass judgment on to their kids who will then beat up the kid at school or somewhere far away in a secluded rural area? What kind of signal will that shirt send to pedophiles??? If that 7 year old boy was a girl and she wants to be Lindsey Lohan, and she wants hootchie shorts, a mini bra and little thigh-high boots, will they give in to her demands?! Probably not!

    They are just plain stupid parents.
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    what about the parents and the kids who will be saying those bad things to this young boy? ?

    Wheres your contempt and attitude for them??

    Direct your emotions correctly at the people who cause the problem not some kid and his parents who love and accept him!!

    I see this everywhere.. Someone no matter what the age is willing to stand up and be who they are and they get belittled and degraded because others are going to cause them problems. Well guess what, it's the people who are saying nasty stuff about that person who was brave enough to do what ever it is they did that you should direct your anger at not the person whos got the balls to do it.

    This kid, I support him and hope beyond all else that who ever he becomes as an adult continues to just do what the hell he wants!
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    Thought a visual would be appreciated:
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    This goes somewhat beyond just a t-shirt message...

    http://fashionofglee.com/post/5761818381/this-picture-makes-darrens-shoes-look-a-lot-more

    SHOP BY CHARACTER
    Rachel Berry
    Tina Cohen-Chang
    Quinn Fabray

    SHOP BY EPISODE - SEASON 4
    The New Rachel
    Britney 2.0
    Makeover


    I feel like I just fell into the hellfire of consumerism. Someone shops by character & episode? Instead of watching TV, I'd rather the kid make questionable youtubes for public view. At least that other kid seemed to be making his own decisions, be they good or bad. This shit is just someone else telling you what to do, what to wear, what to buy. I way preferred the vulgar mouthed kid to this little darling.
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    This kid, I support him and hope beyond all else that who ever he becomes as an adult continues to just do what the hell he wants!


    I think the point is that IF kids are allowed to do everything they want, they can get hurt.
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidwhat about the parents and the kids who will be saying those bad things to this young boy? ?

    Wheres your contempt and attitude for them??

    Direct your emotions correctly at the people who cause the problem not some kid and his parents who love and accept him!!

    I see this everywhere.. Someone no matter what the age is willing to stand up and be who they are and they get belittled and degraded because others are going to cause them problems. Well guess what, it's the people who are saying nasty stuff about that person who was brave enough to do what ever it is they did that you should direct your anger at not the person whos got the balls to do it.

    This kid, I support him and hope beyond all else that who ever he becomes as an adult continues to just do what the hell he wants!


    If that's the case then why don't the parents defy, as you for say, for what's right and let the boy wear the shirt everywhere he goes?
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    theantijock saidThis goes somewhat beyond just a t-shirt message...

    http://fashionofglee.com/post/5761818381/this-picture-makes-darrens-shoes-look-a-lot-more

    SHOP BY CHARACTER
    Rachel Berry
    Tina Cohen-Chang
    Quinn Fabray

    SHOP BY EPISODE - SEASON 4
    The New Rachel
    Britney 2.0
    Makeover


    I feel like I just fell into the hellfire of consumerism. Someone shops by character & episode? Instead of watching TV, I'd rather the kid make questionable youtubes for public view. At least that other kid seemed to be making his own decisions, be they good or bad. This shit is just someone else telling you what to do, what to wear, what to buy. I way preferred the vulgar mouthed kid to this little darling.


    I didn't know they had items for sale based on the characters. Now I see your point, I don't know if the kid is definitely gay or just likes Kurt's character and wanted the shirt Kurt was wearing. I do know they sold the shirts from the Born This Way episode. But the episode happened like 2 years ago, which means the kid was 5 when it happened. Would he really remember that shirt and want it after two years when no one else really remembers it or mentions it, not even glee?
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    If a 7-year old boy kissed a girl on the playground it would be adorable. If a 7-year old boy came out of the closet people get offended or concerned. Truth is his brain isn't even capable to process the complicated emotions that come with "liking" someone of either gender (he's mimicing behavior that he likes).

    At this age the two hemispheres of the brain are still physically separated. He is learning and perfecting language, communication and motor skills that will soon help him navigate the emotional world. What is important is that his parents continue to show him excitement and enthusiasm for these non dangerous behaviors (because that is REALLY he is expressing, no sexual or romantic intent in his brain). Once he has reached the point in his life that he can navigate the more complex aspects of life he will be more prepared to be a strong blaine/kurt high schooler and I HOPE that I have students like him in my classroom icon_smile.gif

    That's my long way of saying "go mom!" icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 11, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
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    I didn't know they had items for sale based on the characters. Now I see your point, I don't know if the kid is definitely gay or just likes Kurt's character and wanted the shirt Kurt was wearing. I do know they sold the shirts from the Born This Way episode. But the episode happened like 2 years ago, which means the kid was 5 when it happened. Would he really remember that shirt and want it after two years when no one else really remembers it or mentions it, not even glee?


    The article states "My son likes Blaine, calls him is boyfriend, and openly identifies as gay. That might seem a little unusual for a seven year old but that is our kid, and we think who he is is awesome."
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    I personally think that seven years old is a little too young for anyone to decide their sexual preference, but if that's how he feels then there's nothing anyone can really do about that...I think it's great that his parents are supportive but from what it seems like to me, he's been influenced by something he's seen on TV and his imagination kinda ran with it....I know at seven, I thought that Arnold from Hey Arnold was EXTREMELY hot (he's a damn cartoon...I dunno what the hell was wrong with me hahaha)...but who knows? Maybe their generation knows their sexual preference right out of the womb icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    And here I thought parents #1 responsibility was to protect their child. She going to be following him around 24/7?
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said

    I think the point is that IF kids are allowed to do everything they want, they can get hurt.


    You can't lump this in the same category as kids wanting to eat candy for dinner or wanting to jump out a second story window wearing a Superman cape. This is the genesis of trying to break into an age where people can embrace whatever their orientation is at whatever age. Yes, right now special precautions will need to be taken, but it has to be started sometime. And that time is now.
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    I mean seriously what do you think is the "normal" way a gay child should be taught?

    "Mommy, I like other boys"
    "That's wonderful sweetie! Now let's go over how this will work. Because you will become a homosexual once you reach sexual maturity you will need to 100% hide it right now. Don't ever tell anyone you like boys, in class nod and smile and say you want to marry a girl someday and if you have special feelings for other boys don't EVER act on them. Once you reach the age around 16 you can start to phase in your desires you've been suppressing by joining your High School's LGBT group or something, and that's when you can begin being yourself. So it's wonderful you already know who you are, now just hide it until an appropriate age."
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    I just think it's just hard imagining a seven year old having romantic desires.
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    SkittleGangsta saidI just think it's just hard imagining a seven year old having romantic desires.


    I wrote love letters in kindergarten.
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:47 AM GMT
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    SkittleGangsta saidI just think it's just hard imagining a seven year old having romantic desires.


    I wrote love letters in kindergarten.


    Aw that's cute. Were they to girls or boys?
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    Oct 11, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
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    Ariodante said
    SkittleGangsta saidI just think it's just hard imagining a seven year old having romantic desires.


    I wrote love letters in kindergarten.


    Aw that's cute. Were they to girls or boys?


    To girls because that's what I was taught was right. But there was this one boy in kindergarten I liked to bite. Hard. And often.
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    Oct 11, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI have mixed emotions about this. On one hand, in no way do the parents want to discourage their son's individuality. However, 7 is, well, 7 --- it's an age in which kids are fearless, and they don't yet know how cruel the world can be at times. I would probably let the kid wear the shirt around the house or when I was with him, but definitely not to school --- at 7 parents still get a say in what their kids wear in public.


    The mother discusses where the shirt will be allowed to be worn (specifically because she worries for her son's safety). icon_smile.gif

    I think the mom is pure gold in this article. Two thumbs up!
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    Oct 11, 2012 8:00 AM GMT
    I actually read the piece:

    "But we also aren't willing to take risks with his safety. He won't be able to wear his shirt to school, because it is not part of his uniform. It won't be a shirt he's wears when we're out camping in a much more rural and conservative area, away from our urban home. But it is a shirt he will wear to our breakfast cafe on weekends, to the park, and running errands with my husband and I. And while he will only wearing what we know will become his favorite t-shirt, his father and I will have our eyes and ears open and be prepared. We will let our kiddo be his amazing self, and we will be there to defend him should anyone else be offended by who he is."

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    Oct 11, 2012 10:31 AM GMT
    The world needs more parents like this.