Dating SUCKS

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    Oct 12, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    Doesn't dating suck ? I'm up to my third blind date in one month , and it's always the same disappointement. I'm not saying the guys I meet with are all assholes, but it seems like it's practically impossible to find someone I can really click with.

    Thank god food exists, otherwise my life would be so unfulfilling ^^
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    Oct 12, 2012 9:14 PM GMT
    Start with making friends with gay ppl if you can. Friend's recommendation (read: set-up) can be way better than a blind date.
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    Oct 12, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    yeah but then getting gay friends is just as hard as finding a boyfriend
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    Oct 12, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    Meet as many people as possible. The more people you connect with the more you connect with yourself.

    There was a period that I went on 15 dates with 15 different guys in two months. I only kissed two and had sex with one, but I learned so very much.

    -I learned that love is not a feeling; it is an action.
    -I learned that I was seeking unavailable men, because I was unavailable myself.
    -I learned my deep narcissism keeps me from connecting to other human beings, but more importantly I learned that my ego just needed a good shattering.
    -I learned that the little boy inside of me just wanted someone else to play with and not anyone's dick; he just didn't know how to play with the adult me.


    Life is incredibly fulfilling, but we just have to find that meaning out for ourselves.
    Good Luck!
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    Oct 12, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    Of course dating sucks. That's the whole point! icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 12, 2012 11:34 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidDoesn't dating suck ? I'm up to my third blind date in one month , and it's always the same disappointement. I'm not saying the guys I meet with are all assholes, but it seems like it's practically impossible to find someone I can really click with.

    Thank god food exists, otherwise my life would be so unfulfilling ^^


    Cheer up. One day things will be better.

    But until then, be patient. Dating is a necessary step leading to a committed relationship of some kind with someone you click with. It's just part of life. Wanting to skip dating is like wanting to celebrate your 30th birthday one year after your 12th. There are 18 years between those 2 birthdays that you must live.
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    Oct 13, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    #firstworldproblems
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    Oct 13, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    calibro said#firstworldproblems
    QFT... men starve in the land of plenty, with poorly kept lawns with an over their picket fences; though gucci lenses. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    Yeah it's hard for me trying to find someone im into in this area. Plus me being picky doesn't help icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    what sucks even more is when your dating someone for a long extended period of time..then all of a sudden they dump you out the blue..start dating someone else...and claim its their soul mate.
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    Oct 13, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    Dating FUCKING sucks
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    Oct 13, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidMeet as many people as possible. The more people you connect with the more you connect with yourself.

    There was a period that I went on 15 dates with 15 different guys in two months. I only kissed two and had sex with one, but I learned so very much.

    -I learned that love is not a feeling; it is an action.
    -I learned that I was seeking unavailable men, because I was unavailable myself.
    -I learned my deep narcissism keeps me from connecting to other human beings, but more importantly I learned that my ego just needed a good shattering.
    -I learned that the little boy inside of me just wanted someone else to play with and not anyone's dick; he just didn't know how to play with the adult me.


    Life is incredibly fulfilling, but we just have to find that meaning out for ourselves.
    Good Luck!


    Great suggestions. I'm going through the same thing.
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    Oct 13, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    uberick saidStart with making friends with gay ppl if you can. Friend's recommendation (read: set-up) can be way better than a blind date.


    Except when your all your friends want the same thing you want. I've been a cupid to many people but the favor was never returned. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Dormanayevsky said
    Saad22 saidyeah but then getting gay friends is just as hard as finding a boyfriend


    ^^^^
    This is true!

    I'm seriously considering saying "piss off world!" and staying single.
    Terrible, terrible luck. haha!


    I have done that...I am happier now :-)
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    Oct 13, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Not when you have chloroform.
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    Oct 13, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Myol saidNot when you have chloroform.


    Haha.
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    Oct 13, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Myol saidNot when you have chloroform.
    But if you use chloroform, it doesn't suck, and that totally defeats the purpose.
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    Oct 13, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    if dating sucks so much...why not just have casual sex??icon_confused.gif pesonally i think dating is about patience...you're not gonna find the man of your dreams on a first (blind??!!) date...common now
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    dannylv saidif dating sucks so much...why not just have casual sex??icon_confused.gif pesonally i think dating is about patience...you're not gonna find the man of your dreams on a first (blind??!!) date...common now

    I can't speak for anyone but myself but I've tried the casual sex things. It's unsatisfying. It's feels weird and I can't get comfortable. Hell, I can't get comfortable with a guy who isn't just there for casual sex and I'm looking to pursue a relationship with.

    Point is, sex means different things for different people. I wish I could be more callous when it comes to sex and just relax and take it but I'm also the type who can't chill out.
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Nothing worthwhile is easy... and if it is, you've really got to be losing somewhere royally elsewhere in your life. I love a good challenge, any time. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    yeah dating does fucking suck. I've been looking for the past 4 years and still haven't even found a guy to be friends. Just a bunch of liars,cheaters and druggies
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    you need to take a Zen approach to dating. That means you need to not try meeting someone.

    Get it?

    You see, sometimes you need to do the opposite of something you're trying to get a result from. I know it sounds crazy and it can be hard to do but just work on it.. Sorry i'm a little dr;unk rigt now.. right now.. hehe

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    Oct 13, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Breeman saidyou need to take a Zen approach to dating. That means you need to not try meeting someone.

    Get it?

    You see, sometimes you need to do the opposite of something you're trying to get a result from. I know it sounds crazy and it can be hard to do but just work on it.. Sorry i'm a little dr;unk rigt now.. right now.. hehe



    I've been saying this ever since I remember and it works.
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    Oct 13, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    As annoying as it might be, these last two guys are completely right. Most of the people that I know that are really truly happy in their relationships, that have been together for a long period of time (by that I mean multiple years), finally met the other when they gave up looking. It seems like when there is a sense of looking held in the consciousness, the brain gives you more of that. It's like it says "oh you want to look, sure I can do that", and it just keeps on looking. When the notion of looking is done with, then the mind can actually get down to the business of finding because it is no longer being given constant ideas that looking is preferred action. I know, I know, this is complete nonsense to most...I just had to toss out a little Zen reflection on the previous posts.
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:12 AM GMT
    well , I've been through phases where I stopped looking and no.... the right guy didn't just magically appear haha but I get your point .