How would you find someone you only had a one-night stand with?

  • GregUK

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    Oct 12, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    I recently had a one-night stand with a really nice, cute guy and it was never intended to be any more than that.

    I feel kind of conflicted because I was very drunk and acted like a jerk, and I was really hungover the following morning. He paid for all the cabs and the hotel.

    I'm not looking for a relationship or anything, just to say thanks and apologise (and to fill in a few blanks about the evening - such as where we even met). The trouble is I only know his first name and I'm only about 60% sure of that.

    Do I just need to let it go and accept that there's someone out there I didn't treat very fairly, or is there an easy way to find one guy in the whole of LA? I live in the UK, by the way...
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    Oct 12, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    If want to continue seeing this guy, simply call him and say so. Just so he knows that you enjoyed your time (even if you were drunk) and that there are no hard feelings.


    If you don't care to see or talk to him again, just let it be...
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    Oct 12, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    It was a hookup. Get over it. There'll be more.
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    Oct 12, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidIf want to continue seeing this guy, simply call him and say so. Just so he knows that you enjoyed your time (even if you were drunk) and that there are no hard feelings.


    If you don't care to see or talk to him again, just let it be...

    Thats the problem: he doesn't know where to find him. He has a first name and...thats it.

    I guess the best place to start would be the hotel you were at if he paid for it.
  • reptile18

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    Oct 12, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidIf want to continue seeing this guy, simply call him and say so. Just so he knows that you enjoyed your time (even if you were drunk) and that there are no hard feelings.


    If you don't care to see or talk to him again, just let it be...


    Umm... OP meant that he has no way of finding the guy..

    @GregUK: You can try some some newspapers or Craigslist. They usually have a "Missed Connections" section for similar situations. But you'll probably never see him again.
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Oct 13, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    Boring, sensible answer: Let it go. Don't be so rude next time.

    Hilarious answer: Take out a full-page ad in the LA Times with your mug shot saying, "To the guy I hooked up with last week, sorry I was a dick. Thanks for the cab ride."
  • calibro

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    Oct 13, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    missed connections on craigslist
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    Oct 13, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    Oh.


    Well, looks like you are SOL. :-p
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    Oct 13, 2012 3:17 AM GMT
    If you really want to apologize, you can always get a copy of the hotel bill if he paid for it. Should have his full name especially if he used a card. With that, if you know his age and vague information on his location just do a public record search. the more you can remember, the more you'll know and you'll be able to do a simple background check for contact information for no more than $2 bucks.

    if those methods don't work, i may know other ways, almost everyone can be found through public records if you know where to look lol
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:24 AM GMT


    http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/

    Contact them. They've got a way for you to make amends to him.

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    Oct 13, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    He probably doesn't even remember you. I wouldn't waste any time on this.
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    He might get more freaked out if he realizes you have been doing so much to find him...just leave it alone...
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    Sometimes we just have to leave the past IN the past.
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    You don't ...
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:01 AM GMT
    Fuggedaboutit and move on, I mean he fucked you wasted off your ass. Unless the sex was THAT good, what do you know about the guy?
  • FireDoor211

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    Oct 13, 2012 10:21 AM GMT
    calibro saidmissed connections on craigslist


    does anyone really use those? I generally read them for a good laugh
  • reptile18

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    Oct 13, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    FireDoor211 said
    calibro saidmissed connections on craigslist


    does anyone really use those? I generally read them for a good laugh


    Shhh! It's really more to make him feel like he's done something...
  • GregUK

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    Oct 13, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice, all, some of it very amusing! icon_biggrin.gif

    Decided to put it "to bed", as it were.

    Lessons learned. Will in future not agree to anything having consumed my body weight in Johnnie Walker Black. There's a moral in there somewhere. Can't think what it is...

    Christ, sometimes I'm a complete dick.
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    I would not look for him, unless sex was really great.

    Have you thought that the guy might not want to be found?
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:06 PM GMT


    You don't, hence why it was a one night stand!
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    No offense, but if you didn't put much effort into knowing him before hooking up with him then looking for him now is a lost cause. They call it a one-night stand for a reason. Stuff like this will teach you next time to put a little more effort into knowing who you're fucking next time (hopefully) instead of getting plastered drunk and having blackout sex with 1st person who shows half an interest (and is probably plastered too). lol.

    On that note, I imagine you could find him the same way you found him before. Just let Johnnie Walker lead the way. Bwahahahahahah!
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    why? Just let it go.
  • newral

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    Oct 13, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    FuriousGeorge saidBoring, sensible answer: Let it go. Don't be so rude next time.

    Hilarious answer: Take out a full-page ad in the LA Times with your mug shot saying, "To the guy I hooked up with last week, sorry I was a dick. Thanks for the cab ride."


    WIN! icon_razz.gif
  • Koaa2

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    Oct 13, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    If you were that drunk, I think you should be glad you didn't get mugged, beat up, robbed and get infected with HIV. Time to learn and move on.
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    Oct 15, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    If you feel compelled to find this guy, try Craigslist missed connections.