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  • LexLuthor

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    Oct 13, 2012 8:27 AM GMT
    Would you date someone who doesn't have goals for their future?

    I recently had an ex who uhh I broke up with, and that's when I noticed some bad things about him ( I thought they were bad). And when thinking if I should try getting back together because I still care for him, I started thinking that he has no real goals in life, just lives his life day by day. Not sure if there is a topic like this, but thought I'd ask anyway and uhh just see what other guys do when they meet someone with no real goals....
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    Oct 13, 2012 9:50 AM GMT
    Not everyone wants to conquer the world. Some people just want to enjoy life's moments and take one day at a time. As long as they're happy, that's all that matters. It's not far off from meeting a guy that has *different* goals in life than yours. If you don't think it's going to work out, then move on.
  • Just_Tim

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    Oct 13, 2012 11:00 AM GMT
    xrichxNot everyone wants to conquer the world.


    Well said.
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    Oct 13, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    Just_Tim said
    xrichxNot everyone wants to conquer the world.


    Well said.

    But for those who still live in it...well, a boy can dream. icon_wink.gif
  • ADL14

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    Oct 13, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    I agree with you, the guy should have goals, even if they're long term and nowhere near attainable yet.
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    Oct 13, 2012 10:30 PM GMT
    What sort of goals are we talking about here?
  • LexLuthor

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    Oct 13, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    Umm any goals I guess, he doesn't really want to do anything with his life, has said that there's nothing to live for so he just enjoys his life. And he can't go to school or get a job because of this head injury? idk the full story behind that, but he seems like he'd be able to, idk though cause I'm not in the situation with the head injury. And he collects money each month because of that, idk he just doesn't really seem to have anything planned? I guess. idk maybe I'm just thinkin about this because I stress over stuff, like I'm working towards my B.A. in psyhology right now, and still have uhh goals I've set for myself, more career goals right now, (and coming out goals if that counts lol). but yeah he doesn't seem to want to do anything in the future, just bothered me a bit when thinking about it.

    So I guess any type of goals would be good.

  • DR2K

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    Oct 13, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    The only goals I care about are workout goals.
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    Oct 13, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    That's not exactly a bad thing.. but with everything else involved (work, attitude, social life) if he is unstable, then it's best to just leave him be.

    Your not exactly "throwing him away" but you both are just in different places in your lives at the moment.
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    Oct 13, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    xrichx saidNot everyone wants to conquer the world.

    mmmm icon_smile.gif I've no interest in the world.. at least in that context.

    Some people seem to think I have no goals but I just have goals that aren't all that grand. I woke up this morning.. wanted a coffee. That's a goal right there.

    I wanna go see a mate today, so I made it happen and I'll be seeing him soon.

    Later on I wanna watch a movie and enjoy a home cooked meal I'm planning.

    in 5 years I wanna guy my own little apartment with a nice big balcony. well within 5 years I'm already there to do it but It's gonna take forever to find the right place.

    Then I want to renovate it and do the kitchen and bathroom and make the place my own.

    My car gets replaced in six months once I"m back in Sydney.

    I want to spend time with my friends and enjoy their company and make more happy memories with them.

    I have been accused of small thinking. but really I just want to make happy memories with the people I love with the time I got left. Cause life is far to fast and I could spend it making money, going after all these things but what makes me happy is friends and a comfy home
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    Oct 13, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    Just_Tim said
    xrichxNot everyone wants to conquer the world.


    Well said.


    I do....



    (just kidding... just wanted to see if anyone would get the conquest reference... lol)
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Oct 14, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    He doesn't have to have goals per se, but he'd better have some kind of passion that he actually works with, NOT just says that he wants to work with ... some day. icon_rolleyes.gif It's okay if he isn't career-oriented, but then he'd better back me up on mine. Rule of thumb: no layabouts.
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    Oct 14, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    Not sure how much it matters, as long as, he's super supportive of your goals.
    Not for nothing, but in a short time his "goals" may be making all yours come true...that would suck right???
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    Oct 14, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    I'm humble pie as the next mothafucka... but I want my piece of happiness and I'll be damned if I can't have what's mine!