WSJ - When the Most Personal Secrets Get Outed on Facebook

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    Oct 13, 2012 3:53 PM GMT

    Excellent article on Facebook and accidental outing on the Wall Street Journal:

    http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10000872396390444165804578008740578200224.html?mod=WSJ__MIDDLENexttoWhatsNewsTop

    Excerpt from the article:

    AUSTIN, Texas—Bobbi Duncan desperately wanted her father not to know she is lesbian. Facebook told him anyway.

    One evening last fall, the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends, including her father, by adding her to a Facebook Inc. discussion group. That night, Ms. Duncan's father left vitriolic messages on her phone, demanding she renounce same-sex relationships, she says, and threatening to sever family ties.

    The 22-year-old cried all night on a friend's couch. "I felt like someone had hit me in the stomach with a bat," she says.


    Soon, she learned that another choir member, Taylor McCormick, had been outed the very same way, upsetting his world as well.
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    Oct 13, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    Reason #457,693,207

    Facebook-free and proud.
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    Oct 13, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    Yeah Facebook is sketch.

    I didn't have it for a long time (I deactivated it for a year or so once), and now feel like it will forever follow me... debating on getting rid of it again though. It it is so handy though icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    dayumm saidReason #457,693,207

    Facebook-free and proud.

    And to come out, duh
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    Oh come on... NOTHING on facebook is private. It´s ALL public domain.

    Don´t put ANYTHING on there which you would be unhappy with ANYONE knowing and you´ll be fine.

    I thought that was obvious.

    I´m sorry for the kids, but did they honestly not know better?

    And who has their parents as facebook friends if they have something like that to hide? Just dumb.
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    She joined a group called "QUEER CHORUS" and connected to members through Facebook. Between being "tagged", sharing "likes" and people publicly "posting on your wall", how did she think this big secret was going to stay hidden?
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    If in the closet, why would you like a group like that?

    Doesn't it show in the News Feed. And I'm sure some random person will come along one day and write on your wall just because.
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    Myol saidShe joined a group called "QUEER CHORUS" and connected to members through Facebook. Between being "tagged", sharing "likes" and people publicly "posting on your wall", how did she think this big secret was going to stay hidden?


    This
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    Umm yes its terrible to have your dad call you and ridicule you, but if you really didn't want your family to know then you shouldn't have joined the group and etc.
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    I was already out to my mom and siblings before Facebook, but have used Facebook to come out to everyone else at once. Posting pics of hot dudes. Posting articles on equality, etc. Has made things so much easier than having to come out to everyone individually. Other than that FB has been pretty much nothing but a big time waster. An extremely addictive time waster.
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    Oct 14, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
    rkyjockdn said
    Excerpt from the article:

    One evening last fall, the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends, including her father, by adding her to a Facebook Inc. discussion group. That night, Ms. Duncan's father left vitriolic messages on her phone, demanding she renounce same-sex relationships, she says, and threatening to sever family ties.


    She joined the chorus. She didn't ADD Queer Chorus to her Facebook friends. She may have added Joe Bloe or whoever is the president of said chorus as a Facebook friend not realizing he was going to send such messages to her and her Facebook friends.

    Of course, by avoiding Facebook altogether, you can join LGBT groups and come out to your homophobic folks in whichever order you personally please.
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    Oct 14, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    I guess her dad got over it... They're still FB friends and she has her relationship posted on FB now:

    https://www.facebook.com/bobbiduncan