Do u feel ur seen or invisible & why?

  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 13, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    (Playing devil's advocate): Do u feel ur seen or invisible & why?

    I know it's all in the eye of the beholder but do u feel certain types are more visible & easily accepted by complete strangers & any circles of friends because they fit the archetype that the majority of people are drawn to?

    Actually wrote a song that touches on this thread. Simple lyrics that expresses a shallow take on superficiality which none of us are immune to because we're all superficial to some degree. How those who won the gene pool lottery are more visible, valued, accepted, paid attention to & welcomed by most circles of friends & complete strangers then those that didn't. It has a naughty Kylie Minogue/Madonna/Portishead/U2 sound to it. Can see it being used as background music for some high-end fashion show like say Victoria Secrets or Abercrombie & Fitch, where it's all about looking good & being photogenic:

    The Seen

    to be seen
    grass so green
    no one's mean
    when ur seen

    the rite genes
    makes u in
    treated like a king
    like ur kin

    chorus:
    u always get what u want
    always number one
    u always get ur way
    u get to eat ur cake

    we all want to count
    stand out from the crowd
    we all just want to be loved
    who doesn't want to be loved?

    in the scene
    fit rite in magazines
    such a sin
    situation win-win

    gets u in
    where no one's been
    so obscene
    that ur so eugenically in

    (chorus)

    to be loved
    to be loved
    to be loved
    to be loved
    (pause)

    no one's mean
    when ur seen
    it's all downstream
    cream de la cream

    grass so green
    when ur seen
    it's a dream
    or so it seems...

    bridge:
    or so it seems
    so it seems
    it's a dream
    or so it seems
    (pause)

    (chorus)

    to be loved
    to be loved
    to be loved
    to be loved

    to be loved
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    I see you.. do you see me?
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    Oct 13, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    I'm, most of the time, invisible but sometimes people have an epiphany and realize there's a ghost in the room-- which results in a very awkward situation of being in the lime light. :/

    I, apparently, have a very quiet/meek presence. icon_neutral.gif

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    I'm only invisible when I throw Harry's cloak of invisibility on. He gets so mad when I do that.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidI'm only invisible when I throw Harry's cloak of invisibility on. He gets so mad when I do that.


    The same thing will happen to you if I give you my invisi-cooties. :0

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    k3l3k0 saidI'm only invisible when I throw Harry's cloak of invisibility on. He gets so mad when I do that.


    The same thing will happen to you if I give you my invisi-cooties. :0

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    I just read in another thread that you're bisexual... ew bi-cooties! icon_wink.gif
  • Jard_03

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    It depends on where I am. In the south I'm pretty invisible in relation to attracting guys I'm into but not in general due to my height and size. Anywhere else I've traveled I'm noticed often by guys but tend to blend in more at the same time.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    I have to admit, sometimes when I'm out and about people pay a lot of attention to the way I look. For instance, I'll be walking through a mall and random strangers will give me a double take, or smile at me. I've been told I'm striking, and, by and large, it's very flattering. It can be a double edged sword, though. Sometimes, I wonder if people take me seriously for what I have to say. I've also dealt with people who are jealous for whatever reason.

    One thing to keep in mind is that no one stays the same forever. Our looks change/fade as we age. It's important to be grounded and focus on more than just your appearance. I want friendships and relationships with people who care about more than just what I look like.
  • ciizer

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    I'm rather seen in Asia because I'm generally taller than most people.

    I'm rather invisible in Europe as everyone else is mostly taller than me.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 said
    ParadiseLost said
    k3l3k0 saidI'm only invisible when I throw Harry's cloak of invisibility on. He gets so mad when I do that.


    The same thing will happen to you if I give you my invisi-cooties. :0

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    I just read in another thread that you're bisexual... ew bi-cooties! icon_wink.gif


    Then you'll get TWO types of cooties. icon_surprised.gif

    I so nice, I gave you cooties twice. ;D
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    I am Hulk sized, but invisibility seems to be my 'superhero' power.

    Definitely not the Type A personality that most firefighters / police officers seem to be.
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:56 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidI'm only invisible when I throw Harry's cloak of invisibility on. He gets so mad when I do that.



    I dont know if you can appreciate how awesome you just became in my eyes. LOL!
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    I always get overlooked so invisible for sure especially in a gay setting.
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    Oct 13, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    Meh! I never really put much thought into whether I'm seen or not. If you see me then you see me. If not, then no worries. 9x out of 10 the feeling is mutual so I figure it's balanced.

    "...And the world keep on turning."
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
    It depends on the situation. Some situations I feel completely alone and invisible, others I feel completely normal.

    I guess that's life.
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    I'm short so I get overlooked rather often! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    In real life? I'm invisible. I mean seriously invisible. People run into me all the time like I'm not even there. I need to start wearing flashy clothes or something. icon_neutral.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 13, 2012 8:16 PM GMT
    It's a given. Natural selection: u easily see what ur attracted to, everyone else falls to the wayside....
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidIn real life? I'm invisible. I mean seriously invisible. People run into me all the time like I'm not even there. I need to start wearing flashy clothes or something. icon_neutral.gif


    hahahaa that was funny!
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    I'd have to go with seen but overlooked :/
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and certain types attract more people than others. These sentences don't contradict each other. What is the confusion?
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    Oct 13, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    Sometimes i wish i were invisable, it still baffles me how females will totally disrespect themselves to get my attention...And the other day on my way to the gym this dude just came up to me and said '' I live on the next block, why dont you come over and fuck, i got a big one''........I was like WTF..??
    I like attention but sometimes it a fuckin drag......
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 13, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    Just put this thread out there for people to contemplate their own criteria, prerequisites or rules of attraction. How they justify or validate automatically accepting & welcoming someone they see for the first time into their life who fits their "ideal type" while easily dismissing another who doesn't with no desire to associate in any way.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 13, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
    I would say.. "seen" unless I'm not in the mood to be social, then my behavior can make me "less visible" so to speak. Generally don't have many issues with this sort of thing.
  • BloodFlame

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    Oct 13, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    Well being gay and alternative in appearance, I do get noticed but probably not in the good way. I'm really a nice and friendly guy but my appearance may let people think otherwise. I don't really care anymore since I know I'm not hurting anyone and I'm just doing what makes me happy. I do notice that whenever I smile though, people smile back sometimes lol.

    As for attracting guys. Not really. And since my style can look a bit on the androgynous (I don't wear makeup but I do wear corsets lol), it tends to turn off the guys I am personally attracted too. So I guess in the dating sense, I feel invisible but eh, just a part of life I guess. Doesn't mean I should feel completely hopeless because I do have things I enjoy doing. icon_smile.gif