Being Used

  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Why is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?
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    Oct 13, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?


    I am not sure in what you mean this? icon_confused.gif You mean use like sexually or what? icon_surprised.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?


    I am not sure in what you mean this? icon_confused.gif You mean use like sexually or what? icon_surprised.gif


    I mean used in any sense of the word, sexually or otherwise. Users have little regard to how their victim feels. They just take what they want.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    ParadiseLost said
    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?


    I am not sure in what you mean this? icon_confused.gif You mean use like sexually or what? icon_surprised.gif


    I mean used in any sense of the word, sexually or otherwise. Users have little regard to how their victim feels. They just take what they want.


    It could be for several reasons.
    1. They lack self-respect/love for themselves.
    2. They like to be controlled and manipulated because they grew up in that kind of caustic environment.
    3. They simply don't know any better or lack the ability to take responsibility for themselves.
    4. They like/need the attention.
    5. They don't trust themselves.

    Those would be my guesses. :3 *Strokes*
  • RaggedyMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    im a nice guy and i try to help anyone who needs it. sometimes my heart is bigger than my brain and i dont realize im being used until its too late. its not a good feeling and i tend to not trust many ppl because of it.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    sanjose408 saidim a nice guy and i try to help anyone who needs it. sometimes my heart is bigger than my brain and i dont realize im being used until its too late. its not a good feeling and i tend to not trust many ppl because of it.


    Awww... :/ *Petpats and hugs*

    Can I use youse? :B I pwomises to be gentle. :3
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    I was used...financially, emotionally, physically. I have realized that I LET myself be used. I had, and still to some extent, low self esteem and low self worth. Also, I just wanted to be wanted.
    I have since stopped that and have realized I AM a worthwhile person and have a more healthy sense of self. I try to better myself every day.
    Though I am kind, caring and giving, I know there is a limit and will not let myself go beyond what I can afford mentally, emotionally and financially. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    sanjose408 saidim a nice guy and i try to help anyone who needs it. sometimes my heart is bigger than my brain and i dont realize im being used until its too late. its not a good feeling and i tend to not trust many ppl because of it.


    Awww... :/ *Petpats and hugs*

    Can I use youse? :B I pwomises to be gentle. :3

    sure but you dont have to be gentle if you dont want.
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?

    My computer keeps referring to me as a user. I think it's rude.


    Maybe your computer knows something you don't? icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said
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    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?

    My computer keeps referring to me as a user. I think it's rude.


    Maybe your computer knows something you don't? icon_lol.gif


    I want TheBizMan to use me icon_redface.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    bri_66 saidI was used...financially, emotionally, physically. I have realized that I LET myself be used. I had, and still to some extent, low self esteem and low self worth. Also, I just wanted to be wanted.
    I have since stopped that and have realized I AM a worthwhile person and have a more healthy sense of self. I try to better myself every day.
    Though I am kind, caring and giving, I know there is a limit and will not let myself go beyond what I can afford mentally, emotionally and financially. icon_smile.gif

    It is saddening to see people being used.

    It's also frustrating. You can try to help them realize they are being used, but sometimes they are so deeply entranced they refuse to believe you.

    Like you, most victims of users have to realize it themselves to stop the vicious cycle of abuse.
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    TheBizMan said
    Aristoshark said
    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?

    My computer keeps referring to me as a user. I think it's rude.


    Maybe your computer knows something you don't? icon_lol.gif


    I want TheBizMan to use me icon_redface.gif


    *smooch* icon_redface.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    How do you define being used? When someone stops using you? Is that when you were used?
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    sanjose408 said
    ParadiseLost said
    sanjose408 saidim a nice guy and i try to help anyone who needs it. sometimes my heart is bigger than my brain and i dont realize im being used until its too late. its not a good feeling and i tend to not trust many ppl because of it.


    Awww... :/ *Petpats and hugs*

    Can I use youse? :B I pwomises to be gentle. :3

    sure but you dont have to be gentle if you dont want.


    OKAY!! icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

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    I was thinking we need a place to sit down when I use youse. :3 Here is one such place.
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    theantijock saidHow do you define being used? When someone stops using you? Is that when you were used?


    When someone (constantly) takes what they want from you without any reciprocation.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
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    theantijock saidHow do you define being used? When someone stops using you? Is that when you were used?


    When someone takes what they want from you without any reciprocation.


    But what if one person natually is a giver and the other naturally a taker. If the taker refuses to take is that then the abuse?

    Is being used just when you've been used up?
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    sanjose408 said
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    sanjose408 saidim a nice guy and i try to help anyone who needs it. sometimes my heart is bigger than my brain and i dont realize im being used until its too late. its not a good feeling and i tend to not trust many ppl because of it.


    Awww... :/ *Petpats and hugs*

    Can I use youse? :B I pwomises to be gentle. :3

    sure but you dont have to be gentle if you dont want.


    OKAY!! icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

    dungeon.jpeg

    I was thinking we need a place to sit down when I use youse. :3 Here is one such place.


    .......DID ANYONE ELSE NOTICE THAT THIS PICTURE IS FROM AIR BNB?????????? icon_eek.gif
  • RaggedyMan

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    Oct 13, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    @paradise- i think you should buy me dinner first before only because i think i might need some energy if we plan on using everything in that room.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said

    .......DID ANYONE ELSE NOTICE THAT THIS PICTURE IS FROM AIR BNB?????????? icon_eek.gif


    Que es esto?
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    sanjose408 said@paradise- i think you should buy me dinner first before only because i think i might need some energy if we plan on using everything in that room.


    Okay. icon_biggrin.gif I'll feed you. In fact, I'll cook for you. :3 What would you like to eat? Gotta make sure you're physically able to be used. ;D
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    TheBizMan saidWhy is it that some people like to be used? Do they equate being used to being loved? Are you being used?

    My computer keeps referring to me as a user. I think it's rude.


    aww Jeff you are so cute! , lucky you! as the question above you are not being use like used cause you are the user icon_wink.gif , No worries dear it's not that rudeicon_wink.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    sanjose408 said@paradise- i think you should buy me dinner first before only because i think i might need some energy if we plan on using everything in that room.


    Okay. icon_biggrin.gif I'll feed you. In fact, I'll cook for you. :3 What would you like to eat? Gotta make sure you're physically able to be used. ;D

    oh im not here to disappoint, physically icon_smile.gif make something with alot of carbs plz, ill bring the 10-hour energy shots
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
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    theantijock saidHow do you define being used? When someone stops using you? Is that when you were used?


    When someone takes what they want from you without any reciprocation.


    But what if one person natually is a giver and the other naturally a taker. If the taker refuses to take is that then the abuse?

    Is being used just when you've been used up?


    I don't think people should naturally be a taker.
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
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    sanjose408 said@paradise- i think you should buy me dinner first before only because i think i might need some energy if we plan on using everything in that room.


    Okay. icon_biggrin.gif I'll feed you. In fact, I'll cook for you. :3 What would you like to eat? Gotta make sure you're physically able to be used. ;D

    oh im not here to disappoint, physically icon_smile.gif make something with alot of carbs plz, ill bring the 10-hour energy shots


    That works. icon_biggrin.gif See?

    Who needs cardio when you have me? icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 13, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    Well OP is_the_word_.....*drum rolling...... Opportunist!
    No never liked them they are just bunch of losers at the finish line. icon_wink.gif

    I rather be loved ,used ,then love me back! Now that is C l a s s ! icon_cool.gif
    Used me can, but return back with a open love like a open warm hug anytime so I could use him back! .....wait that is actually bromance right?