Need help, cant find anyone. what am I doing wrong?

  • UCstudent

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    Oct 14, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    I can't seem to find a boyfriend and I dont knwo what Im doing wrong...

    I have sent a bunch of people messages on here and most of them get ignored, and I go out to clubs and bars and still can't find anyone intersted other than men in their 40s.

    I really want a bf. what is something else I can do?
  • UCstudent

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    Oct 14, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    is it my looks? or am I not looking in the right places?
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    Oct 14, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    Bacon.
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Oct 14, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    Well you're inherently attractive, so that's not an issue. Either (a) there's something about your behavior, about which we have nothing to go on of course, or quite possibly (b) there just aren't that many gay dudes in Cincy. You'll need to give us examples of times you tried and failed if you want any real feedback.
  • Import

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    Oct 14, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    omg this is so cute.

    Baby? You're gonna be fine. You're 21. Stop trying so hard and just live yo god damn life, naaahh mean?

    It'll come to you. Just because u got messages from ppl on here...or there...or wheverever doesn't matter. I get messages all day long on different apps, sites, etc. I ignore like 90% of 'em..... It almost becomes annoying, like "ugh, another random dude sent me a msg.... :rolleyes:

    U just gotta live, love, eat, and pray. Pray for a man to come walking into your life and whisk u off your feet. Where he shall take care of you for the rest of his earthly days and hold you upon his bosom.
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    Oct 14, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Yes, you are doing it wrong; may even come of as desperate without knowing it (common at your age)
    Try making friends; come off as friendly.
    Who knows; maybe that 40 y.o. has a hot son, he could fix you up with?
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    Oct 14, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Are you sure... then you'll have to come back to us all for advice when you can't decide what to do later... do you really want that kind of responsibility?
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    Oct 14, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    What you're doing wrong is looking. Stop looking and the right guy will find you.
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    Oct 14, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    Trying too hard/desperate. Guys want other guys who focus on getting their shit together/succeeding at the job or career/focus on their personal interests, etc, not someone who spends time trying to get a boyfriend.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 14, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    Lose the girl in your profile pic.


    (maaaybe replace her with a puppy.)
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    Oct 14, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    HottJoe said


    (maaaybe replace her with a puppy.)


    or nakedness
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    Oct 14, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidBacon.


    LOL! I actually laughed out loud.
  • lonelyboy23

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    Oct 14, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    You are very attractive just on the outside I see, what's on the inside.. I can't say BUT I can imagine you are very nice, modest, and down to earth.. And judging by that PhD you want, a goal setter and smart. I don't know why a guy hasn't snatched you up by now .. But there are most of us in the same situation. I came here and made an account just from hanging out with my straight friends all day who make out in front of me and are extremely lovey dubey with each other..while I'm the 3rd wheel( they're gay friend). They care but I don't feel that they know what it's like being a single gay man deep down. But for you I hope things really pick up for you, I think it's ok to want a potential boyfriend and to long for one. Surprisingly I think this is what the gay community needs , not guys having random sex in random places or looking to hookup based on how hot you are and wanting a one night stand. I'd focus on what's going on in school and career more, but it's definitely ok to LONG for a boyfriend.. At least your not a guy willing to put out .
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    Oct 14, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidLose the girl in your profile pic.


    (maaaybe replace her with a puppy.)


    agree,, what's with that anyways
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    Oct 14, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    Sound Similar.icon_cool.gif. Based on my observation, gay men can be very picky. University is a good place to start to find love. It is hard to find love when you`re in workplace. I have an interesting story to tell. I was waiting for the university bus to go to the town then he ask me 'is thisss th bus ' with his thick middle eastern accent .He looks like shorter version of Imran abbasicon_rolleyes.gif. In my heart, Jesus forbidden icon_twisted.gif I got to the bus. The bus stop at a student housing area when a bitch seat at him. He looked at me.OMG..HE IS SO CUTE. Thank god i was wearing shades. As day goes by, I was lonely in my room and wanted to quit the university,i was self discovering of my sexuality and i have this silly idea to pray to god for a BOYFRIENDicon_redface.gif.The next day, i was having rehearsal for a drama. I went out from the classroom to get some props ,then the same boy came though the door. WE LOOK EACH OTHER IN THE EYE..IT WAS LIKE A REAL DRAMA EXCEPT without the MUSIC PART. My heart was beating fast but I cant fall for him. He looks a bit of disappoint when i left to find the props. I was in the university for a month then i quit. I want to pursue another passion. The lesson here is that Love will come when the time is right. All u need is to trust ur heart.
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    Oct 14, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    Step one work out, put on some more muscle.
    Step two improve your looks, most gay guys don't like the average guy, so you need to look like a model.
    Step three whore yourself, no hot guy will like you if you don't put out. Be easy and be good at sex and they will stick around.
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Oct 14, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidBacon.

    Bacon is the solution to all of life's problems.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 14, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    UCstudent saidI can't seem to find a boyfriend and I dont knwo what Im doing wrong...

    I have sent a bunch of people messages on here and most of them get ignored, and I go out to clubs and bars and still can't find anyone intersted other than men in their 40s.

    I really want a bf. what is something else I can do?
    dude, no offense you sound desperate. when you go out you should be going out to have fun not to meet someone. if you want to go on dates than sign up for chemistry.com or some other site
  • Kel_

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    Oct 14, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    UCstudent saidI can't seem to find a boyfriend and I dont knwo what Im doing wrong...

    I have sent a bunch of people messages on here and most of them get ignored, and I go out to clubs and bars and still can't find anyone intersted other than men in their 40s.

    I really want a bf. what is something else I can do?


    Least he knows the difference between want and need.
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    Oct 14, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    beneful1 saidWhat you're doing wrong is looking. Stop looking and the right guy will find you.


    +1

    and give it time, enjoy the other aspects of your life, it gets better :-P
  • bischero

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    Oct 14, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    You're 21. You'll be just fine. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 14, 2012 7:31 AM GMT
    sywlyn said
    beneful1 saidWhat you're doing wrong is looking. Stop looking and the right guy will find you.


    +1

    and give it time, enjoy the other aspects of your life, it gets better :-P


    ++1 * wonder how come no one wants to be your bf.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Oct 14, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
    Chill, the right man will come one day!
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:13 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidWhat you're doing wrong is looking. Stop looking and the right guy will find you.


    Right, don't put yourself under pressure. Let it come to you. Be patient. Sooner or later it'll happen. It's only a matter of time.
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    Oct 14, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    Most guys your age are simply on the prowl for casual sex....not a boyfriend. When guys hit their 40's, they're usually ready to settle down, which would explain why you're getting that age range.

    But first, let's weed out what YOU might be doing wrong: Give an example of a typical message you've sent to guys.