Are gays messed up in the head
That would be a generality. Lots of people have eccentricities and quirks, straight or gay, that confinement during a long car trip can magnify, and bring out some weirdness you didn't know about. Therefore you choose your traveling companions carefully. NOTICE: long stories follow -
We go down to Key West with another gay couple fairly often, 400 miles round trip. My partner sits up front and yaks with the driver the whole way (we always go in their bigger car, so they drive). I HATE non-stop chatter in a car, but I know that's what's gonna happen, so I tell myself to chill, which I can manage for 4 hours.
I sit in the back with the other partner, who's fortunately as quite as me, and we both read or use our tablets. Plus I love the scenery on the long bridges between the Keys, ocean on both sides of us. And just as well the other guy is mostly quiet, because when he does speak it's about spacey topics that are totally freaky to me.
But this couple also likes to stop & shop all the way down to KW, whereas I'm the kinda guy who just wants to stay in the car and drive nonstop until we get there. And the stuff they shop bores me to tears, so I can't wait to get back in the car and be going again. I wanna spend my time in Key West, not waste it in stores along the way.
Yet I don't say a word, don't make any fuss or pull an attitude. I know this is their way, along with a few other annoying peculiarities, and my partner seems OK with it. If it were a serious problem my solution is to not travel with them in the first place, and not bring the problem into the car.
We're driving to New Hampshire and back to spend Christmas & New Years, 3000 miles round trip. We're going up with one member of a gay couple in his car, and returning in the same car with the other partner who will have already flown up ahead. Meanwhile the first partner who initially drove will now fly back to Florida solo, all due to their schedule conflicts, which compels each of them to leave & return on different days.
We didn't want to fly this year, fed up with airline hassles, and they were taking a car up anyway, to bring stuff to their vacation home and to avoid having to rent a car there. So it's an opportunity for us to drive instead of fly, and help out with the driving, at about the same cost as airline tickets.
We have no hesitation to spend that much time in the car with each of them, because we know them very well, and have traveled through New England with them before. Nor would they have suggested the idea to us, if they found us to be messed up in the head ourselves. But we all mutually know another gay couple that none of us would travel with, whose quirks are tolerable at parties & dinners, but would drive us to suicide if trapped in a car with them for several days.