Learning to bottom for my BF

  • gymguydave

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    Oct 14, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    SO i am currently in an amazing relationship and he wants me to bottom.

    i have no problem doing it but to be honest im a top, and i dont know if im just not use to it or something but bottoming dosnt do much for me....

    it dosnt hurt anymore, but its dosnt get me off as much as i see my bf when he bottoms for me...

    advice??? what should i do? or is it just be not being able to be a good bottom?
  • ADL14

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    Oct 14, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    You could try new positions while bottoming to see if it does more for you. Even if you don't get much out of it, you should be willing to do switch up with him if you want him to be satisfied.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 14, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    Switch it up and take turns instead of both doing one position from start to finish.
  • Amira

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    Oct 14, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    If you actually cut out the labeling and just see it as both you sharing your bodies with one another you would enjoy it more. If you find the beauty in this view, you'll appreciate it more.

    So I think the more you see it as being able to also pleasure your boyfriend versus "well I'm a top I don't do this." you'll break away that notion which is stopping you from being into it and enjoying it for what it is.
  • rnch

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    Oct 14, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    Contrary to what gay porn movies show us, not EVERY gay bottom stays hard or jizzes without touching when his partner is inside of his rectum.

    Everyone's different.


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  • gymguydave

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    Oct 14, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    ADL14 saidYou could try new positions while bottoming to see if it does more for you. Even if you don't get much out of it, you should be willing to do switch up with him if you want him to be satisfied.



    im tryin! lol and i def am willing
  • gymguydave

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    Oct 14, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    rnch saidContrary to what gay porn movies show us, not EVERY gay bottom stays hard or jizzes without touching when his partner is inside of his rectum.

    Everyone's different.


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    i agree. i just want to be able to please him as much as he does me
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    Oct 14, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    Amira saidIf you actually cut out the labeling and just see it as both you sharing your bodies with one another you would enjoy it more. If you find the beauty in this view, you'll appreciate it more.

    So I think the more you see it as being able to also pleasure your boyfriend versus "well I'm a top I don't do this." you'll break away that notion which is stopping you from being into it and enjoying it for what it is.


    You're amazing. icon_biggrin.gif Take advice from him OP! icon_smile.gif It seems to hit the mark, in my opinion. icon_surprised.gif
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    Oct 14, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    gymguydave saidi agree. i just want to be able to please him as much as he does me

    Then rather then aim to get off while he's inside you. Just enjoy what your doing for him.. take pleasure out of his excitement.

    Just think how much you enjoy watching him bottom for you, how much does he enjoy it? is he getting as turned on as you do?

    Something to make it more fun for ya, try different positions. Maybe you need a little dirty talk, perhaps you need something a little more aggressive, or maybe it needs to be more about the passion that gets you going.

    But, then, sometimes your just gonna have to fake it for a while when he tops..

    Inside your shrugging your shoulders.. outside OMG I totally want your big cock inside my hole, fuck me now you big stud hahaha

    And no, there is nothing wrong with faking enjoyment, if it doesn't hurt you and he enjoys it and your willing to do it.. fake it.. get him going, make him think he's the biggest stud you've ever had, that you'd wither and die without him fucking you and make his experience amazing.

    Just never actually ever tell him your faking it (and no, guys can't tell if your good at it)
  • gymguydave

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    Oct 14, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    gymguydave saidi agree. i just want to be able to please him as much as he does me

    Then rather then aim to get off while he's inside you. Just enjoy what your doing for him.. take pleasure out of his excitement.

    Just think how much you enjoy watching him bottom for you, how much does he enjoy it? is he getting as turned on as you do?

    Something to make it more fun for ya, try different positions. Maybe you need a little dirty talk, perhaps you need something a little more aggressive, or maybe it needs to be more about the passion that gets you going.

    But, then, sometimes your just gonna have to fake it for a while when he tops..

    Inside your shrugging your shoulders.. outside OMG I totally want your big cock inside my hole, fuck me now you big stud hahaha

    And no, there is nothing wrong with faking enjoyment, if it doesn't hurt you and he enjoys it and your willing to do it.. fake it.. get him going, make him think he's the biggest stud you've ever had, that you'd wither and die without him fucking you and make his experience amazing.

    Just never actually ever tell him your faking it (and no, guys can't tell if your good at it)


    lol yeah that makes sense. icon_smile.gif thanks man
  • jwand09

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    Oct 14, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    Test out lube does wonders but if ur really into him ull do watever 2 please your man
  • LJay

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    Oct 15, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    Have you tried asking him for hints? He's got the experience.
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    Oct 15, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    well you've got the right attitude, man!
    continue to try different positions and get him to try rubbing your prostate with his fingers first and then see if he can hit it while he's in you... that oughta feel a lot better.
    BUT to be honest, some guys don't have the same level of sensation when their prostate (g-spot) is rubbed... give it a go though
  • camfer

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    Oct 15, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Try jerking yourself off while he's in you. Try having him jerk you off while he's in you. Notice how your orgasms are different when he is in you. Get yourself some butt toys and use them when you're alone to see if you can find a way that is really pleasurable for you. Try butt toys with your boyfriend. Plenty of exploration awaits you!
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    If it doesn't hurt, then just take one for your man.
    It's one of those things that might not get you off but you do it because it's important to him, like visiting his family or getting him out of jail. icon_lol.gif
  • imbrad

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    Oct 15, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    maybe he needs to be more agressive/exploritory. If he's not paying attention to your cues then of course it isn't going to be as great as it could be.
  • imbrad

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    Oct 15, 2012 7:07 AM GMT
    also i don't know your feeling about pot but it helps EVERY time ;)
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    have HIM bottom, i wouldnt put up with that shit!!
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:27 AM GMT
    1. Try jacking yourself off and delaying cuming until after he cums inside you. 2. Try using ( inhaling) poppers. It can greatly increase the pleasure while you are being fucked.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:30 AM GMT
    Lsje92 saidhave HIM bottom, i wouldnt put up with that shit!!


    LMAO!
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    Oct 15, 2012 11:39 AM GMT
    gymguydave saidadvice??? what should i do? or is it just be not being able to be a good bottom?

    lilTanker already gave you the advice that I would. And it applies to me, too.

    The greatest physical pleasure from bottoming comes from sensations in your prostate. Some guys have more sensitive prostates than others, and yours, like mine, may be on the duller end of the scale.

    So that you'll never get super pleasure from bottoming, it's just the way you were built, it's not abnormal. It can also help if your top experiments with different positions and insertion depth, to try to be directly stimulating your prostate. It's only a little ways inside your rectum, not 8 inches up there, or else a doctor wouldn't be able to examine it with a finger.

    Also, if you're a newbie you may still be experiencing some slight stretching discomfort, which masks the pleasurable sensations from a prostate that may not be especially sensitive to begin with. As you bottom more (and always use lots of lube) most background pain will fade, and the good feelings from your prostate will become more prominent.

    Last, as already mentioned, much of the pleasure is in your mind, true for other forms of sex, as well. Make giving him pleasure your pleasure. Thrill to the thought that this lovely guy's dick is inside you, be excited by its mere presence there, whether it feels great or just neutral.

    A lot of bottoms don't orgasm that way, so don't use that as your criteria for enjoyment. Let him orgasm while being the top if he likes that, then go on to the things that will make you shoot in your turn.
  • gymguydave

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    Oct 17, 2012 6:06 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidwell you've got the right attitude, man!
    continue to try different positions and get him to try rubbing your prostate with his fingers first and then see if he can hit it while he's in you... that oughta feel a lot better.
    BUT to be honest, some guys don't have the same level of sensation when their prostate (g-spot) is rubbed... give it a go though



    lol thanks. and i will
  • gymguydave

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    Oct 17, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    imbrad saidmaybe he needs to be more agressive/exploritory. If he's not paying attention to your cues then of course it isn't going to be as great as it could be.


    yeah. we've been getting rougher and i kinda like it to be honest.. and he dosnt smoke
  • gymguydave

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    Oct 17, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    Lsje92 saidhave HIM bottom, i wouldnt put up with that shit!!


    he dose lol most of the time its me that never does
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    Oct 17, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    Positions, fantasies, roleplay... Bottom foreplay..