Gay Dating Sites

  • Southieguy

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    Oct 14, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    Anyone have any info on gay dating sites? I've been putting this off for a while but its time to get back into the game. Been single for 3 years now. I've tried going out to a few bars lately and my heart is just not in it. Never liked them much anyway. I tried match.com years ago and they seem to just match you up with random people. Anyone had any luck elsewhere?
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    Oct 14, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    Southieguy saidAnyone have any info on gay dating sites? I've been putting this off for a while but its time to get back into the game.


    Making an internet profile doesn't really constitute getting "back into the game". If anything I think it pretty much gets you further away from it.
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 14, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
    well Southieguy, too bad you no longer live in southie
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    Oct 14, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    I haven't the foggiest myself. I've tried OKCupid and it was good, for a while, but it kinda sucks too. The others are pretty filthy, in my opinion. :/ There's not really.. a great place to go. I hear though Match.com is really good but you have to pay for it which sucks and may not be worth your time/money.
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    Oct 14, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    Southieguy said I tried match.com years ago and they seem to just match you up with random people.

    This seems to imply that you're looking for a web site to match you with someone. In that case, they all suck. You have to do the work yourself. I would avoid sites like Chemistry or CompatiblePartners (eHarmony), which only allow you to talk to guys they match you with. Match is expensive. Its only advantage is that you'll usually find guys who are more serious about being in a relationship. OKCupid isn't very good, but it has more guys.

    It some respects, it's a numbers game, so having a profile on multiple sites isn't a bad idea. You need to meet a lot of different guys to find the right match. Unfortunately, other guys know this too, so you'll find a lot of the same guys on different sites.

    Good luck.
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    Oct 14, 2012 8:48 PM GMT
    Someone said GrindR is good for that type of thing, never tried it myself.
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Making an internet profile doesn't really constitute getting "back into the game". If anything I think it pretty much gets you further away from it.


    Well it's a start atleast. It's another option. I like to balance online with real life because online takes the guess work out of gay dating. Grindr is the virtual 'gaydar' when it comes to finding out who in the supermarket is gay or not. which leads to:

    OneSongGlory saidSomeone said GrindR is good for that type of thing, never tried it myself.


    Grindr is great and bad at the same time. I have met more guys from Grindr from any other site in a short amount of time, but the issue is there generally isn't any chemistry with them! It's like unbelievable. They talk all this that and the third online, and thru texts and when you meet them it's like their first time ever meeting someone. Lot of them seemed super shy and reserved. Not at all assertive. I've clicked with 2 so far. The site seems to have a high turnover rate or something. I don't know if it's my area or what.

    Grindr also has a habit of being used to temporarily alleviate boredom, so a plethora of guys are meeting just to kill time and get a quick peek at someone. And the validity of their relationship status is questionable...

    I haven't given up on the site, and probably won't until I find that person to become exclusive with. People go out to bars and spend hours (and money, and getting drunk) looking to have a meaningful conversation with 1 or 2 people, only to have them not call/never meet again. And I never meet guys out in public because most guys think I'm straight! I can consolidate all that wasted time and energy going online.
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    Oct 15, 2012 8:19 AM GMT
    What do you mean your heart's not in it? Not into going to bars or not meeting new guys or something else?
    You don't sign up and automatically get a boyfriend delivered to your door. You have to put in some legwork.
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    Oct 15, 2012 8:23 AM GMT
    I hooked up with a guy from Bender once.


    .. i avoided him after that though .. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 8:50 AM GMT
    Shell saidI hooked up with a guy from Bender once.


    .. i avoided him after that though .. icon_eek.gif


    Why? That seems typical. I've heard it from friends before. I don't get why so many guys do that after they hookup with someone. Is it shame? Is it this that and the 3rd?
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    Oct 15, 2012 8:53 AM GMT
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    Shell saidI hooked up with a guy from Bender once.


    .. i avoided him after that though .. icon_eek.gif


    Why? That seems typical. I've heard it from friends before. I don't get why so many guys do that after they hookup with someone. Is it shame? Is it this that and the 3rd?


    He wasn't as cute as I hoped to be. It had nothing really to do with Bender.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:37 AM GMT
    2 cents: I won't disparage gay dating sites, about which I don't have any real knowledge anyway, but all my friends have met their partners in real life situations , rather than on gay dating sites.
  • Southieguy

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    Oct 15, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    Macaque saidWhat do you mean your heart's not in it? Not into going to bars or not meeting new guys or something else?
    You don't sign up and automatically get a boyfriend delivered to your door. You have to put in some legwork.
    My hears is not in the bar scene. Don't want to sit there and get drunk but what else do you do in a bar. Just looking at all my options. Went out again last night. Was home in 1 1/2 hours. think i will just stick to the gym. At least I will look good naked....Aloneicon_smile.gif

  • BoyKrazy

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    Oct 18, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Macaque saidWhat do you mean your heart's not in it? Not into going to bars or not meeting new guys or something else?
    You don't sign up and automatically get a boyfriend delivered to your door. You have to put in some legwork.
    Great point! I have never had anyone bang on my front door wanting to go out with me. (Okay, once with a hot Pizza delivery guy, but that's a different story!) You HAVE to be IN IT to WIN IT!
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    Dec 12, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    I tried Okcupid first because I heard so much about it. Meh... if you are super shy, yet lonely, this is the site for you. Otherwise, I was pretty underwhelmed by the guys I spoke with on there who mostly preferred reading books to human interaction.

    I've tried Match.com recently. Guys there seemed to be more confident, assertive and willing to respond and meet. Maybe the cost weeds out the people who aren't serious
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    Dec 12, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    My partner and I met on Manhunt. A year later, we're still together (albeit now 1,000s of miles apart, but still together in the sense of we are going to make it work).
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    Dec 12, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Myol saidI tried Okcupid first because I heard so much about it. Meh... if you are super shy, yet lonely, this is the site for you. Otherwise, I was pretty underwhelmed by the guys I spoke with on there who mostly preferred reading books to human interaction.

    I've tried Match.com recently. Guys there seemed to be more confident, assertive and willing to respond and meet. Maybe the cost weeds out the people who aren't serious

    Even if you're super shy, OkCupid's selection isn't all that great. Didn't see a single guy there that I was attracted to in the least bit. And I looked. Well, I did see one guy who was attractive but I recognized his profile from here so....that wasn't going to happen. icon_razz.gif

    Match: A number of attractive guys but it's paid for. And I only ever received emails from like 3 guys the entire time. I did try sending out but no responses.

    Grindr: Have to understand this before you can get into it. It's for hookups. Not to say you can't find someone special but it's going to take awhile to sort through the filth.

    I've also tried Plenty of FIsh. Plenty of emails - free too. 95% I'm not attracted to but far outranks Cupid in terms of attractiveness.
  • Amira

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    Dec 12, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    Me and my partner met from CompatiblePartners.com. It's a good site for those who are serious minded.