How long one should wait for the true love of his life?

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    Oct 14, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    I believe that many times one may be confused if they are in love. But it is not difficult to figure out if it is not. So How long one should wait for the Love, or he shouldn't wait at all and settle down with some random person?
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 14, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    Everybody is a random person until you get to know them.
  • carew28

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    Oct 14, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    You can wait around till you're about 30 for True Love. After that, settle for whatever you can find.
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    Oct 14, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    carew28 saidYou can wait around till you're about 30 for true love. After that, settle for whatever you can find.


    We I Agree here that is what I think, but just wanted to be sure, but here we have a risk, let say u are 31 u settled down with Mr. X and then u found Mr Y who seems to be right, what do u do u leave Mr. X and go to Mr. Y.

    Well its not a Drama Movie or TV show, I have seen 2 similar real life scenarios among my straight friends , which makes me wonder on above questions.
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    Oct 14, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidEverybody is a random person until you get to know them.


    Well I agree everyone is random, but if you don't get to choose the one you wanna settle down, it may be too late and u end being alone, so what I am wondering hw lon u shld keep looking and when u shld simply compromise with life and settle down with someone random.
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    Oct 14, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    I'm gonna say people should date for 1-2 months, and if there is no real mutual connection or love, then they call it off. If there is love, or even a small spark see where it goes.

    I honestly don't think anyone should settle in love. (But I'm a hopeless romantic, so what do i know icon_wink.gif )

    I think what happens is that some people change, and their needs change, which leads them to want something different. Some people just want new and exciting things, which can lead them to constantly start new relationships.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 14, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    I don't believe in Mr. Right or True Love. It's a Hallmark dream put out there that's unattainable. Be open to love and you'll be surprised.
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    Oct 14, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    Until he feels the time is right.
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    Oct 14, 2012 10:12 PM GMT
    Timbales said... Be open to love and you'll be surprised.


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    Oct 14, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    Would you really settle down with someone you didn't really love? Why? Just for the sake of settling down? You're better off alone.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:00 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidI'm gonna say people should date for 1-2 months, and if there is no real mutual connection or love, then they call it off. If there is love, or even a small spark see where it goes.

    I honestly don't think anyone should settle in love. (But I'm a hopeless romantic, so what do i know icon_wink.gif )

    I think what happens is that some people change, and their needs change, which leads them to want something different. Some people just want new and exciting things, which can lead them to constantly start new relationships.


    So what are you saying here is that there are no rules or regulation, we all shld just go with the flow and see what comes along, no matter if it takes a life time, I don't think that will be a wise choice and it will be too risky what do u say icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:03 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI don't believe in Mr. Right or True Love. It's a Hallmark dream put out there that's unattainable. Be open to love and you'll be surprised.


    Well you can stay to love till you are young once u grow old u need someone to be around to look up to and that too not because of an obligation you would wanna feel it inside, I don't know I am saying all this because I am a commitment freak and I don't see my life being happy with various relationship.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:05 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidWould you really settle down with someone you didn't really love? Why? Just for the sake of settling down? You're better off alone.


    Life is too long buddy, you can't live it alone u always need someone around, you need to commit to someone, most of the time it happens when u fall in love, but tragedy is that not everyone gets the love of his life on right time and right place. SO just trying to figure out hat they should do .......
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:06 AM GMT
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    Thanks antijock nice song, I like it..........
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:55 AM GMT
    Settle for someone? really? You don't move in with someone unless you love him. If you desperately need company, but you can get a roommate.
    As for relationships, I know a lot of guys who have partners . None of them met their partners before they were in their early thirty's . That is not to say that guys in their early twenties cannot have relationships , but I would not expect those relationships to last a lifetime.
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    Oct 15, 2012 2:54 PM GMT


    Fast forward to 40 seconds in for tune to start - this is their demo.


    This is for all the lonely people
    Thinking that life has passed them by
    Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
    And ride that highway in the sky

    This is for all the single people
    Thinking that love has left them dry
    Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
    You never know until you try

    Well, I'm on my way
    Yes, I'm back to stay
    Well, I'm on my way back home (Hit it)

    This is for all the lonely people
    Thinking that life has passed them by
    Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
    And never take you down or never give you up
    You never know until you try
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    Oct 15, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge saidSettle for someone? really? You don't move in with someone unless you love him. If you desperately need company, but you can get a roommate.
    As for relationships, I know a lot of guys who have partners . None of them met their partners before they were in their early thirty's . That is not to say that guys in their early twenties cannot have relationships , but I would not expect those relationships to last a lifetime.


    Well I agree here what you say, I am in my late 20's and I have met a lot of guys in early 20's who don't look for commitment, all they look for is sex, Cant blame them cause I was no different sometimes back. But thing which frustrates me is that even after so many dates and hookups u return at the same place where u started, u can not keep chasing the Love for whole life, some point of time u to stop and convince urself that this is the best u can get and deserve so settle down, I guess till early 30's chasing should be okey but after that settling down will be good, Ur thoughts?
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    Oct 15, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    meninlove said

    Fast forward to 40 seconds in for tune to start - this is their demo.


    This is for all the lonely people
    Thinking that life has passed them by
    Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
    And ride that highway in the sky



    This was really inspiring , But it is just a song it has its effect till ttime u here and think about it, I guess a real life story would help more and something tells me u have such story "meninlove", if so please share..........
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
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    meninlove said

    Fast forward to 40 seconds in for tune to start - this is their demo.


    This is for all the lonely people
    Thinking that life has passed them by
    Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
    And ride that highway in the sky



    This was really inspiring , But it is just a song it has its effect till ttime u here and think about it, I guess a real life story would help more and something tells me u have such story "meninlove", if so please share..........


    There were times when I thought it would never happen, but recognized that as simply normal feelings of despair. By this time I had (here it comes) dated about 130 men over 14 years. Several of those that I had full relationships with I thought were the big one.

    I never gave up believing in myself or others.

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    Oct 15, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    I think we can reconcile the two sides I'm noticing here of "no true love" and the rest.

    Is there not a range of compatible traits, made up of many variables that some are better linked, better compatible than others?

    People who read, people who watch television, people who drink, go out a lot, smoke, like dogs, work out, stable career, and so on.

    That's why online dating has it, in one sense, "better" than other forms of dating, as it allows these traits to be displayed and people can decide, along with the profile pics, whether they may be "compatible".

  • haiqtpi

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    Oct 15, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge saidSettle for someone? really? You don't move in with someone unless you love him. If you desperately need company, but you can get a roommate.
    As for relationships, I know a lot of guys who have partners . None of them met their partners before they were in their early thirty's . That is not to say that guys in their early twenties cannot have relationships , but I would not expect those relationships to last a lifetime.


    I wholeheartedly agree-never settle for someone-it is honestly a sorta creepy thing to do anyways. It is like you are some creature who needs to use a man to give birth to your demon offspring lol

    Look, if you settled now, eventually you would become disillusioned by the whole situation, and want out realizing that you just wasted x months/years of your life pursuing something that was fake from the start.
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    Oct 15, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    "one true love" is bullshit propoganda for passive people who think things just happen to them. you find someone, you love them. as an action. they love you back or they don't. these truths are often not obvious until you are past youth. love is an action. like fitness. or beauty.
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    Oct 15, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    I found the love of my life when they invented bacon.
  • jwand09

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    Oct 15, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    90 lock down rule before u claim u love someone...learn about then untill u get ur fill